Sec 13 b hma
sandykrish
(Querist) 10 March 2014
This query is : Resolved
Hi All,
Learned Experts of this Forum.
I and my wife have filed 13 B of HMA and the court has given us the June as the date of hearing.
My questions are more of academics in nature:
1. My wife is trying to contact me via What'sapp and Facebook and other social medium states and pretending to reconcile the marriage.
2. I haven't responded to her request till date, I am pretending that I haven't received any request from her.
3. She may to court and say I want my husband back.
4. What should I have to do. I have no interest in her and the trust is almost broken and I believe we will not be happy even If I take a decision of living together and carrying the relationship.
5. I have all proofs of her curelty and adultry and in-laws arrogance in defending their daughter is correct in what ever she does.
6. Probably, she may come and take the MCD or she may dodge this case for long.
7. What options are left out to me post this as I filed RCR she was the one who pressed for divorce with settlement and we both filed the case and she is one who is creating all drama. Will this act amounts to cruelty on husband, filing MCD and again telling I want my husband back?
Please suggest
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 10 March 2014
If she refuses to give consent for divorce , the suit you filed for mutual divorce would fail.
I would advise you to give another final try to salvage your marriage especially when she is also trying.
To error is human, to forgive is divine.
sandykrish
(Querist) 10 March 2014
Sure Sir, what precautionary measures I have to take it as she is this canny behaviour of staying together and exiting without considering the family bonding.
She does everything and but blame on me for lot of things
Giving her chance is not a problem, but exposing the risk on all cases on my family is what I have to take care. In future I should be insulated with the false cases that she may file against my family. Once bitten twice shy
What precautions I should take while taking her back I want this to be recorded in court of law for future purposes
Sankaranarayanan
(Expert) 10 March 2014
we dont know the reality but our suggestion is forgive and throw away the ego and give one chance and live. Forgive is the maximum reward and nothing will be equal to it.
sandykrish
(Querist) 10 March 2014
Thanks Sankar, but what precautionary measures I have to take it as she is this canny behaviour of staying together and exiting without considering the family bonding.
She does everything and but blame on me for lot of things
Giving her chance is not a problem, but exposing the risk on all cases on my family is what I have to take care. In future I should be insulated with the false cases that she may file against my family. Once bitten twice shy
What precautions I should take while taking her back I want this to be recorded in court of law for future purposes
ajay sethi
(Expert) 10 March 2014
you dont trust your wife . even if you accept her there will always be apprehension of her extra marital relation ships . since you both filed for divorce by mutual consent press for divorce . if wife refuses and MCD is dismissed you can again file for divorce on grounds of curelty , adultery
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 11 March 2014
Forget her past acts and look forward for better future, reconsile the matter/ disputes and enjoy your married life, nothing to beat it.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 11 March 2014
Trust is the avenue for bonding and bonding without trust and with precautions may not fetch desired results. If you think precautions are must, let the things move in own way.
sandykrish
(Querist) 11 March 2014
Thanks Rajendra, I understand trust is the foremost avenue for bonding in relationship. The word trust should be mutual between husband and wife. If someone gave you so much of pain for the past 2 years and Husband trying to reconcile the matter and wifes says I need divorce, after applying divorce, wife comes back and say that she wants husband back isn't that look ridiculous for whom who is ready to sacrifice.
One bitten twice shy. There should be an obvious effort from wifes side to compromise on certain things which reinforces confidence, likewise a husband should completely forget the past and help her come out of the past instincts
Everybody in this world will definitely have some or the other apprehension but how to take this is more important.
I am ready to take her back, I am ready to give her time for her to realise the mistakes but in the process she should not invite troubles for my elderly parents. My only concern is once you know that you have done the mistake you should learn from that and not commit the same mistakes.
Professionally I am a pre-sales trainer, I know the importance of motivation and encouragement.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 12 March 2014
I go by the expert advise given by Mr. Ajay Seth in this regard. Since you already have a taste of her bitter behavior and other arrogant activities, it is better to go ahead with the divorce itself be it on mutual consent or otherwise, if she turns hostile to the mutual consent divorce, you can be ready with a petition on the grounds of cruelty, in fact this will protect you as a shield in case she indulges in the same mischief of false police/criminal cases against you in the future.
