Harrasment by parents
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Anonymous
(Querist) 07 September 2011
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dear sir/madam i am 18 years of age.my parents have always been fighting for years since my childhood,when i was in 12th my father was suspecting my mother of having affairs and told the principal all household stories he made up stories,the principal told all this stories to my friends and humiliated me,my father called my friends and also told them bad false stories about me.when he came from dubai he brutally hit me,i was severly injured,my father also said that i slept with my mother,and even my mother says i have bad eyes on her,sir iam bieng abused like this,due to all this i could not concentrate on my exams and i failed. sir i dont want to stay with my parents as their harrassing me ,i even thought of suicide because my life is become miserable,sir please help me with some advice on this,as my only hope.thank you.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 07 September 2011
it is indeed pitiful that you have such parents who abuse you . if your father beats you mercilessly you can lodge police complaint against him . it is better that you engage in some sports which will increase your self esteem . go for long walks take up meditation and concentrate on your studies . dont take your life . god has given you one life . try to make new friends and always think positively
SANJAY GUPTA
(Expert) 08 September 2011
Well advice by Mr.Sethi, I agree with u.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 08 September 2011
It is unfortunate to have such parents. Since you are 18 years old, try to stand on your own. For that you need not require education and money. You should have determination to lead your life independently. Nowadays it is not difficult to earn money for your livelihood. You have not indicated where you are living. In cities, initially even if you have no qualification, because of your age and some education you can get a job for your livelihood. Later you can continue your studies through distance education modes and come up in the life. You have not indicated the financial status of the family. Even the suggested mode is little difficulty, you will have satisfaction. Since your parents are not living together in one place, it appears they are frustrated and creating problems for themselves and you. Better be away from such circumstances. World is good. People are good. Do not think everybody is bad. There are some people who willingly help others. Ending life is no solution. All the eminent people came up in their life with dint of hard work and passing through many difficulties. Such people only will be outstanding. Others just live their lives. I wish you to be an outstanding personality.
M/s. Y-not legal services
(Expert) 08 September 2011
Lodging police complaint will not be a good solution to you. the proposed accused are your parents. Who will be back round of your legal proceedings? Think some logically criminal proceedings will not ends with short time. You have to go for cooperate with your case, due to the advantage of your separation from your parents somebody may try to spoil your name.. Just beware from it.. Education qualification is not a matter to survive as a successful human. You can.. Your life is cute one which is given by god. Whatever may be life has to go. Don't think about suicide.
PARTHA P BORBORA
(Expert) 08 September 2011
In my opinion pl follw the advice of Ld. Expart malipeddi jaggarao.Life is beautiful so,Ending life is no solution. malipeddi jaggarao is absolutely right-All the eminent people came up in their life with dint of hard work and passing through many difficulties.
Good Luck son.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 08 September 2011
It is so STRANGE for my experience that i still could not believe,and have been shunned.
It is painful to read,listen and think off.
True it is that offspring do not have a choice of parents and its converse is also equally true.
That leads to believe that we are born out of a physical course but by wishes of nature whom be give the name of ISHWAR, ALLAH,GOD,etc.
Then prudence is to find out why GOD has sent us as an individual,the moment we find the purpose,we start loving our life despite all adversities.
So start thinking and meditate to find out the wish of the GOD,his purpose for which you have been sent on earth,and start accomplishing that,bread butter carrier will follow you.
you are an individual,have come alone and shall go alone,you have been given life which shall be taken out,you did not got born on your own ,then you can not take it on your own,think it is true or not.
Again i say you need to find out the purpose you being here for what,meditate to find out and accomplish that.
Querist :
Anonymous
(Querist) 09 September 2011
sir iam the same person who is abused by my parents.i forgot to mention that my father earns 2lakhs indian rupees per month as i saw it on his salary slip,he doesnot give me any pocket money and only sends rs 12000 per month for expenses that includes me,my mother and younger sister.
sir please help me further thank you.
