Mother Son Separation
susant roy
(Querist) 14 August 2016
This query is : Resolved
I want separation from my mother. Myage us 29 and I am a govt service holder. Till now I have no independence. I have no right to do anything to my choice. Every moment she threaten me and tell me to stay like a dog. I m very much upset. M want freedom. Please help me how can I get separation from her. And as Iam a govt. Service holder what percentage of salary have to given her? Please please give me reply.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 14 August 2016
Try to make up with mother.
Iron out the differences.
The mother can claim maintenance from son.
Ms.Usha Kapoor
(Expert) 15 August 2016
Afterall she is your mother.,. Reason out with your mother and convince her that you are no longer a kid and have grown up to be a responsible adult educated and employed etc and convince her not to dictate any terms to you as though you are a dog and with lots of love and affection she instructs you to do things not hurting your freedom and self respect you'd be able to get along with her. Certainly she would come around.You need to pay maintenance to her every month not less than 1/3 rd of your salary or more to your mother either under Hindu Adoption Maintenance Act if she has no adequate means to support herself. . For interim Maintenance she can file 125 Cr.P>C Proceedings.
P. Venu
(Expert) 15 August 2016
You are no longer a minor; you can certainly stand on your legs - that requires no suggestion.
However, you have the moral duty to take care of your mother; and a legal duty, if she obtains a direction from the Court to this effect.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 15 August 2016
You can start living separately, can get yourself transferred out of stattion.
susant roy
(Querist) 15 August 2016
But Madam Usha Jee, Many personnel have tried to convinced and make understood her. But she is afirmed with her own way. What she will tell I have to do the same. I cant go out with my friends..I cant go out to shopping....nothing and nothing.
susant roy
(Querist) 15 August 2016
And there have so so many problems to her at the every steps of me. What will I do?
Guest
(Expert) 15 August 2016
What about your father and other siblings?
Also, what is the source of livelihood of your mother, if father is no more?
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 15 August 2016
You may post reply to points raised in this thread by Shri P.S.Dingra.
susant roy
(Querist) 15 August 2016
Mr. P.S. Dhingra Sir
My father is no more for 20 years and my mother was reared me. Not with love but with suppression. From childhood m suffering from her threat. I cant do anything without her pepermission and even I take permission to do something she do not give me the permission. She says do your job and go with my order only. How can I live by these Sir???
P. Venu
(Expert) 15 August 2016
You are grown up, realise it!
Guest
(Expert) 16 August 2016
You are now adult to make your own decision, but must not forget that you cannot evade your responsibility to support her in her old age, which she can legally claim from you. If she can bring you up for the last several years in the absence of your father till you could become self supporting, why you feel shy of supporting her now in her old age.
No mother brings up her child with suppresssion, as against your statement. If she would have been scolding you that must be due to your being mischievous or non-serious about your own career or being careless towards your own duties and reponsibilities towards family affairs.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 16 August 2016
You have been sufficiently advised.
The matters may get termed as trivial matters.
Family matter be best resolved within family.
Rest is upto you.
susant roy
(Querist) 17 August 2016
I m not an irresponsible person. I have and know my responsibility to her. But with staying alone I want to support her all of types. I want to give my percentage of my salary and give support to her. But it is irresistible to stay with her. Every moment she used slang languages to me. What percentage should I give her??
