Divorce notice sent
Deepak Samantaray
(Querist) 09 October 2014
This query is : Resolved
I am married for last 10 months. We never had a good time in the marriage. My wife is argumentative very strong and dominating. With constant fights over pity issues, My health has started deteriorating. We recently had a big fight and she left my home and then started threatening to file false cases against me. I realized that's the end of marriage and also as i was scared of her threats I sent a divorce notice on cruelty. now she says she wants to comeback and wont give divorce and wants me to take back the decision. Even now her attitude hasn't changed and still fighting with me. How long can I wait before I file the divorce case in court? Now that I know the relation will never be the same neither her dominating and fighting attitude will change. My parents are very old and staying with me and such behavior of her will cause make our life more hell. She has an endless blames against me all related to how un-dutiful I am towards my wife. Where as I know I have done my very best to keep her happy and cant do anything more than what I have been doing already. I just want some peace and best way is to either she changes her attitude or stay away from me. Please advice my next step I she doesn't reply to my notice. Its already over 2 days time i have given to her on notice.
ROHIT SHARMA
(Expert) 09 October 2014
1. The adjustment factors are not being understood by you. She is the one who has entered into a new environment and hence you should be able to see what are the faulty actions that have lead to such confrontation. Your marriage is still in nascent stage.
2. If she does not want divorce and is prepared to return to you, you need to overcome your hurt emotions. Pardoning is more virtuous. Difference of gender should be respected and not abused or mistrusted.
3. I find that you are still young and need to be more tactful and learn the skill as how best you can maneuver her emotions and that should not be hard for you as being a male. Eggo clashes should be brought down to ground level and issues sorted out by mutual understanding. No two persons have the same nature.
4. Marriage is like rose but then even roses are surrendered and protected with thorns.
5. I do sincerely hope that your marriage survives. Time is the healer and get her on your side by proposing to her endless love, and care.
6. Take help of senior relatives.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 09 October 2014
If she want to join you should give her a chance.
If you proceed legally, try for mutual consent divorce. It can be filed after one year of the marriage.
If you file contested divorce case, your wife would file domestic violence, dowry, maintenance and alternate residence facility case. This step may put your old parents in trouble. Contested divorce may take 4-5 years or more with uncertain results.
