Way to stop forceful marriage
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
This query is : Resolved
my girlfriend and i, we both are adults. We are from BIHAR. And we are from different caste. She is Brahmin, her father is a strict retired army personal and i am Bhumihar. In March 2016 we conveyed our desire to to get married in front of our family. My family is ready for a proper traditional wedding with her but her parents are against it, at any cost.
At that time when we conveyed our desire, her parents declared that they will forcefully marry her to the boy of their choice. Due to that she went in deep depression. But recovered in due course of time. She is perfectly OK now.
Instead of conveying our desire to parents we could have ran away, but decided against it, keeping in mind our family's name and reputation. We thought that they will understand our feeling, love and dedication in due course of time.. but they did not..
Now they are fixing her marriage with someone else, without her consent.. she is going thought tremendous mental trauma. Her parents are threatening her to take her to their native village, where they intend to get her married. They are ever threatening her with her life..
I m dead sure that she will happy die rather than getting married to someone else, so am I..
She has even mailed me and hiked me (hike messenger) about all her sufferings, exact scenario, threats, etc in detail. She is also willing to give me written undertaking about all these things.
And she will never back-out from her words.
I just want to make sure that she doesn't have to face these tortures and she must not be forcefully married.
She is happily ready to give her statement in front of anyone..
Please help me, enlighten my path so that we can live happy beyond the boundaries of castes.
Please at least suggest me to whom OR/AND where I should contact. I will knock on each and every door unless provided justice.
If she will be forcefully married, she will take divorce. But its lengthy process. We are not legally or socially married, we both are too serious about each other.
Please help me.. Pleaseeeeee.
Will national commission for women take any action in this matter?
I want to know about what legal course of action do we have..
Anxiously waiting for your advises..
Thank u.. and sorry for such a lengthy query.. thanks again..
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 03 November 2016
Well, you can not stop her marriage unless your girl friend lodges complaint in police which is unlikely.
I would rather suggest you to marry each other and then lodge complaint in Police if either of your parents forces or threatens you to break this marriage.
Moving to another city after marriage is also advisable.
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
today early morning she has been forcefully taken to her native village and has been locked in her house. she is trying to trying to contact to IG, DIG, SP of her home town..
will it help.??
how can she lodge complain, as she has been locked up in her house??
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
today early morning she has been forcefully taken to her native village and has been locked in her house. she is trying to trying to contact to IG, DIG, SP of her home town..
will it help.??
how can she lodge complain, as she has been locked up in her house??
anand
(Expert) 03 November 2016
the best way to do it not legal but smart way out as suggested by Mr. Barman, first marry her in any temple and then write to all the police officers whomsoever you wanna that she is married and thus second marriage is not legal in India and both of you want police protection for living together as husband and wife.
P. Venu
(Expert) 03 November 2016
If she is forcefully detained, you can approach the High Court through a Writ petition.
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
respected sir, in this scenario it is not possible to have her written petition..
can i apply on her behalf..??
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 03 November 2016
You can inform the police but such information may not be considered since you are not her near relative.
Ask her to call police for relief.
If you need permanent solution then first marry her and then file host of cases.
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
i have her written statement with me. i do also have her hike messages and messages on phone.
As of now it seems that they terrorizing her for getting her approval for marriage. she has possession of her mobile phone along with a spare phone.
she will call police at the appropriate time.
But when it will be required, cnt i lodge a complain on the basis of evidences i have?
Guest
(Expert) 03 November 2016
There should be Valid Reasons for her Parents.Real Love is Sacrifice Some times Sacrificing the Love it self.
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
Ya, there is reason.. but not valid.. name and fame of their family, casteism..
Tomorrow is her exam, for which how much effort she has put is only known to God, and her family members. They were dead sure that she will definitely qualify and after that, after being well settled she will fulfil her wish. Due to this reason her parents are not allowing her to appear in exam.
So with due respect sir, dnt justify their act. Dnt be judgement..
I am here for help, from experts like you. Pleaseeeee guide me...
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
And I will surely sacrifice my love. But only when she will ask me to do so. And when she will terrorised, pressurised for doing so. If she wants to move on, to get married to someone else, I will allow her....
I know what sacrifice means sir
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 03 November 2016
She may call police and give her statement.
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
Thanks Sir, we are intending to do so.. She will call when no other means will be available and hopes that it will work.
Will calling directly to SP or DM of her distric will be helpful?
Will they take prompt action.??
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 03 November 2016
Marriage with the consent of all is better. If her parents are not agreeing, may postpone the proposal from your side.
Sacrifice is true love, sacrifice or get consent from her parents. It would be in the benefit of all.
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
rajendra sir, i thought this site is for providing legal help.
But anyways thanks for your philosophical advice...
Adv. Yogen Kakade
(Expert) 03 November 2016
Forceful marriage without her consent is legally not valid. She can certainly call the nearest police station or call on 100 to take action against this forceful act which is likely to be done.
If possible for her to come out, then file for a registered marriage than going to any temple.
Don't worry, have guts and fight for your love. Provided that she is also ready to go for the same.
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Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
thanks Yogen sir..
yes she is ready to fight till the end of the line, i can bet my life on it.
as suggest by you & other experts, we will wait for the appropriate time and then will act as per your advice.
thanks again sir..
may i contact you for further advice??
Guest
(Expert) 03 November 2016
Is it your Real Name Obviously it Creates the Doubt Whether Is It a real query.
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
Its my email id name, my real name is Varun.
But the query is real, 100%, word by word..
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 03 November 2016
You have been advised, appropriately.
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
Ok Sankar Sir..
Thank....
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
Hmmm.. thanks Doab Sir..
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 03 November 2016
The author,
My reply may not be suggesting you legal ways to proceed at present, experts have suggested otherwise, in days to come, it may prove most practical and saving both from legal consequences.
The suggestion is not illegal,
The way may be adopted by you may be proved illegal after litigation.
Good luck if you proceed otherwise.
Redchilly
(Querist) 03 November 2016
Thanks for your concern Rajendra Sir..
I will surely try to think with open mind..
Thanks again Sir..
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 04 November 2016
Please prefer to revert in the matter after 2-3 years, would wait feedback regarding your steps and developments in the matter.
At least, sure, from your present attitude, you would not accept and proceed as per my advice.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 04 November 2016
Expert Mr. Rajendra K Goyal has provided with practical advise.
The author has been advised by experts from various possible stances and query is resolved.
Redchilly
(Querist) 04 November 2016
Sir, I will surely give my feedback..
It's not like that as you are thinking. I wanted to explore all my options minutely before procedding. You will be glad to know that I have approached her through one of very prestigious person and situation is under contro, at least for the time being.
Legal option was and is always there. If everything will fail, it will be my last option.
As of now I m not planning to proceeing for legal help..
Thanks alot to every expert for their precious advice..
Thanks again..
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 04 November 2016
if you complaint to the police she may be forced to give a statement that she has nothing to do with you and that you had been troubling her and police will get a pretext to arrest you under series of newly enacted sub-sections of IPC.
Guest
(Expert) 04 November 2016
Mr. Varun,
Don't show your red chilly attitude in your marriage case. Both of you may be adults and can legally marry any time at your own accord, but marriage with mutual consent of elders of both sides can be fruitful, otherwise that proves quite harmful to the interests of both afterwards. You may better try to convince her father.
Women Commissions or police can only act afterwards to do postmortem of the unwanted events that already happened. Of course, politicians can get advantage of unwanted events by making demonstrations that too after the unwarranted even happens.
However, you are free to treat this advice also a philosophical advice, like in the case of Shri Rajendra K Goyal.
Anyway, best of luck!
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 04 November 2016
3 Real life examples for you.
Daughter of DSP of police and Son of business man. Girl ran away with boy.All kind of complaints/cases were filed. The whole family of boy was targeted. The boy and girl remained firm and married and had unshakable evidences and witnesses. But they had tough times. The cold/stone hearted father melted after birth of second child. Now girl is not comfortable with father and does not want him to be present at any occasion.
Another: The girl under pressure of her family stated against boy. They were not married by then. You can imagine what happened thereafter.
Another: The boy and girl ran away to another state. They are kind of outcasted. Relations are soured and are not repaired till date.
Choose wisely.
Establish yourself. Prefer to have blessings of elders of both families.
Redchilly
(Querist) 04 November 2016
Thanks Dhingra Sir & Doab Sir for your precious advice.
i myself will not choose rebellious path. i am & will keep trying to convince her father..
thanks again to all the experts for enlightening my path. i m truely grateful to all for advicing me like my elders..
really i am..
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 04 November 2016
You are welcome.
Happy to note that your query is resolved upto your satisfaction.
Guest
(Expert) 04 November 2016
You are welcome. Your aim should be that your married life should not prove thorny affair for any of you.
Redchilly
(Querist) 04 November 2016
Sure Dhingra Sir, i will always remember your lesson.
i will make sure that everything goes smoothly..
thank you for your concern sir..
Guest
(Expert) 04 November 2016
You are welcome again.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 05 November 2016
I further add that after 5 years you will see that both of you have even forgotten the name of each other.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 05 November 2016
Agree with expert Sudhir Kumar ji and add sometime philosophical ideas / ways may fetch permanent peace / save future losses in the life of all concern.
Initially it is very hard to digest in this juncture of life.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 05 November 2016
Your query has been addressed with compassion and from all possible stances.
Redchilly
(Querist) 05 November 2016
Ya, I agree Doab Sir..
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 05 November 2016
I further add that if he is framed in any true /false charge by police he will agree to forget her by next morning.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 05 November 2016
Dear Mr. Sudhir Kumar,
The author @ Redchilly has agreed that he has taken into account all suggestions and his query has been addressed with compassion and from all possible stances.
