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madesha
(Querist) 25 July 2019
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I have married on 30th April 2017 at Temple near Kanchipuram Tamilnadu, it was an arranged marriage, from my side we were around 60 peoples & from wife side there were on 7-8 members. We had an reception in Bangalore on 1st May 2017. For both of us it is our 2nd marriage we both are working. After 2-3 months my wife & their parents were rudeless & they were not giving any respect to me & my aged parents. Everytime their parents use to tell her to come to their home, we dono't have any fight & she not put any food & look after anyone. My mom was telling her don't take care of us u take care only ur husb&. Her mother use to tell very vugular language to me & mother. She use to tell I didn't to sent my daughter to look after u & ur parents. She even do not cook or do anything morning 8:15 am if she goes to work & come back only at 6:30 PM evening. My mother is aged about 65 years & father is 85 years. My mother use to do & put lunch box for both of us. I use to make all the works in home & run to my office. My mother is counting her days. After elders meeting she came back home during July 2018 & we had an BABY Boy on 9th Aug 2018. He is almost 11 months. Now she & her parents are not allowing us to see my baby. Her parents came to my home on 8th May 2019 around 8:40 pm & they ate everything & informed me that they will take me wife for some day to take rest. I told them I am not objecting to take her but everytime after taking her u will do an high drama & never sent back. Later her father & mother stayed in my home till 15th May 2019 & again in the morning they came back & told they will take her. I told them we can visit our local police station & give in writing & take her & back & get back her on 22nd May 2019. But her parents refused. We believed on her & we have sent both of them.I used to call her on daily basis & asked how is she & baby. On 22nd May 2019 I called but she refused pick the call. Later in the evening around 7:30 pm I once again tried & she picked up & informed I can't come u do what ever u want. Later I informed my mother that she is telling like this. Later we booked a cab & we went to their home around 8:30 pm before entering her father has kept 9 peoples outside. Myself, mother, father & my aunt we went inside & my mother was eager to look for my baby, but when mother entered my wife pushed her & didnot give the baby. Immediately her father has pushed me & my mother & her father mother, wife & 3rd person has hit my father & full of blood. They pushed us out & we were helpless & after some time they immediately went to the police station & I was doing first aid to my father & my friend myself went to station & police informed me don't call them or disturb for 1 week . We informed the station about what has happened & they called up her father & my wife & explained everything & live with husband. it is almost 3 months I am not able to see my baby and wife is telling I cannot come, Sir, I have filed RCR in the family court today. Also filed a separate case for seeing my Baby boy for visitation rights. My baby is 11 Months. I need to get my baby for 1st year birthday which is on 9th August 2019. Can I get my baby along with my wife for 3 days 9th / 10th / 11th Aug 2019 with the court order. Whether judge will give me the permission. I already signed my papers in the court and lawyer informed me to come at 10:00 AM. He informed me that we shall request judge to put the date as soon as possible. Please inform what is the duration of getting visitation rights to see my baby. My parents are aged and they are eager to see the baby even me too. Now how can I explain my problem with judge. Do judge recommend for counselling or mediation center. In that we all our families sit together and solve our problems. If i can request the judge to put for couselling and judge with pass the order for mediation center. Please help me so I want to restore my life. I don't want divorce. But my wife is not ready to come and they have not taken any step. It is almost 3 months. Please help and inform me how to proceed further.
Isaac Gabriel
(Expert) 25 July 2019
You have institued case, and it is not advicable to directly contact your wife or her family. Better appraise the court through your lawyer about the first anniversay of your baby boy so that the court can try the chance for it.Neverthless, you have to maintain cordial relationship till things move in the right direction.
Guest
(Expert) 26 July 2019
Appearance of Advocates is Not Mandatory in Family Courts
Guest
(Expert) 26 July 2019
You could Plead your self in an humble way to the concerned Family Court Judge for Visiting your Child and to post for counselling please.
madesha
(Querist) 26 July 2019
Dear Sirs, Thanks for the valuable reply. During hearing I will inform judge for the request and try to get my child visiting. Can you please inform what will be the duration to get the order for visiting of my child and also RCR for my wife. Please also confirm if the court send the notice to my wife through Registered post and does not attend in the date of hearing what we should do next step. Either my wife has to hire a lawyer and send a reply to the notice and file the same. Whether we both should be witnessed in presence of judge. I have taken lot of leave and struggling to get my baby and wife accordingly. For the leave taken my salary is getting cut down. But she and her parents does not have the courtesy and they think marriage is a business. Since 3 months over I am not able to see my baby boy. Once we went to see and conclude why she is not coming to home at that time, she and her parents are keeping 3rd party person and hit my aged father of 85 years. So only I am not going. I need to visit as per court order. Shall I inform court to get permission of visit my baby near by local police station and we are not ready to go near to their home. Also at the last I request you to please confirm whether is their any chance to get my baby and wife to my home for 3 days 9th /10th / 11th Aug 2019. Can court give me the order. If court gives the order then my wife rejects whats the next step. if i am not in touch with my baby how can he recognize as a father. please help me
Guest
(Expert) 26 July 2019
Not that " Informing the Judge " as you say we had said " Humbly Pleading the Concerned Judge " Please
