Husband asking for divorce without reasons...
JK
(Querist) 12 December 2013
This query is : Resolved
I got married in Oct’12. We both were quiet happy with my life. My in laws are guru follower. Since starting of my marriage I was going to their Satsang and all. But now once my Mother in law was influencing me to take naam daan and all. I told my husband that I am not prepared yet. He discussed the same with her mom. On Aug’13 he told me to go to maternal home and get your mom along. My parents came and both the families had heated arguments. They had only the household things to discuss. And one of their Mamaji said to go back (to me and my maternal family) as both the families were angry and promised us that they would again keep a meeting next week which never happened. On 27th September they called up my Jiju and told him to take away my car as the insurance was due and they won’t be liable for any theft. And the next day we again went to their home. That day they said that we don’t want to patch up, again the arguments happened and his Mamaji again promised that they will send my husband to meet me on the very next day, but again he didn’t cum. After that in mid of October I went to my sasural by ignoring everything that happened, my father in law didn’t opened the door and said that my husband is no more living with them (I saw inside, my things which I took as streedhan was not there). Then in October end I filed an application in an NGO so that we don’t go legal soon, and the NGO people could help us to keep a face to face meeting with them (to compromise). NGO people called up them and listened to them as well (we were not present there). They have certain issues like my parents insulted his parents, and all. And then once NGO people called up my husband for a face to face meeting of both of us, he didn’t came and said I don’t want to meet her as I want divorce (mutually). Since then we have been quiet.
I need your kind suggestion as I do not want to get divorced (as we husband and wife didn’t have any issues which he even confessed and the issues he is being speaking about are not that serious that we could take divorce). What shall I do now???? It was a marriage not a joke.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 12 December 2013
Try to get in touch with your husband. May be you meet him outside. This meeting can only save your marriage.
If everything fails then you can think of filing cases against them.
JK
(Querist) 12 December 2013
Have tried my best.... He donot meet up... doesn't reply to text or calls....
JK
(Querist) 12 December 2013
i have tried my best... he doesn't reply to call or texts even....
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 12 December 2013
Then try to catch him in office. Just give it one final try.
JK
(Querist) 12 December 2013
he is into business which he operates from home itself...
Guest
(Expert) 12 December 2013
Presently you dont bother him or even try to meet him for three months but if he tries to meet or communicate to you please respond.Let the TIME decide hope he would come for reunion.Dont be in hurry now and spend time usefully and let him realise your care
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 12 December 2013
TIME IS A GREAT HEALER, BUT MORE TIME MAY INCREASE THE CRACK .
SO TRY TO BE COOL, BEHAVE NICELY, SEND SWEET MESSAGES WITH COMMON FRIENDS AND RELATIVES. IT WILL WORK.
Do not take Legal action, do not complain to NGO or Police,
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 12 December 2013
Well advised by the experts, try for cooling down the matter.
If no chances of reunion, file cases of DV act, domestic violence, maintenance etc. Once such steps taken, rare chances of reunion would be left, hence should be taken when all avenues exhausted.
manoj joshi
(Expert) 12 December 2013
dear
i ve gone through with your case according to my openion u can give him notice u/s 9 of hindu marriage act if u r
if not than also u can noticed him for restitution of conjugal rights
Nadeem Qureshi
(Expert) 13 December 2013
Dear Querist
I comletely agree with experts, amicably settlement will be better, but if he or his family members are adament on divorce then no need to file any divorce case, when he filed the case then fight the case on merit.
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 13 December 2013
nothing more to add.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 13 December 2013
The issue is on religious beliefs. You can as well convince your mother-in-law that you are not against their beliefs and would respect them whole-heartedly. You can also tell her that either you take naamdaan or not you respect the family belief. It is a simple issue between you and your parents-in-law. It appears many people interfered in this simple issue which is not required. You people have several rounds of meetings. Can't you make another attempt to meet your husband separately and first convince him? In turn, he can convince his mother. Better not to create an issue when actually it is not there. Tackle the old generation with love and affection. This will solve your problem.
JK
(Querist) 13 December 2013
Thank you all for your valuable advice...
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 13 December 2013
As advised by experts, it is better to remain calm for the present. Do not react or get provoked over the developments. Keep watching the situation without any reactions. Patience is the essential thing to be maintained now. As you said that you want to save your marriage, adapt yourself to a very humble and modest form of life, I agree that the separation will be painful, but the developments due to heated exchanges will be damaging beyond repairs. Allow the time to answer the problems, because passage of time will bring relief and respite automatically in one or the other form. Do not lose your confidence and heart.
Guest
(Expert) 13 December 2013
Well advised by Expert Mr.T.Kalaiselvan Best Practical and Humanitarian approach Must to be followed
JK
(Querist) 13 December 2013
Thanks for the advice... its already been 4 months that I have been quiet... and thought of keeping patience. .. but even 2day once ngo ppl followed thm, they straight away said that thy dont want any compromise...and want to settle it with mutual divorce. ..
If I wait more for them, wont law ask me that whr were u for that much tym kf u wanted justice? ??
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 14 December 2013
Perhaps your parents-in-law side are sensitive and do not wish the interference of NGO in the matter. You can also ask the NGO people not to interfere for some time. As regards lapse of time, there is no time limit for rushing to the court for divorce. You can make all your efforts to save the marriage and separation is the last resort. There is no practical harassment except emotional mismatch in your case. Instead of roping the unknown mediators, you better keep quiet for some time and try to have patch-up first with your husband and with his help with his parents.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 14 December 2013
No, giving try to maintain family tie is your priority. if it fails then you can always file cases.
JK
(Querist) 03 February 2014
Please advice as there is no further developments happening....
ajay sethi
(Expert) 04 February 2014
contact a local lawyer . file for RCR since you dont want a divorce
