Need to know my boyfriend is cheating me.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 15 April 2017
This query is : Resolved
I am Hindu girl lives in Pondicherry and my boyfriend is a Muslim who lives in Chennai. We had been in a relationship for more than 9 yrs. Both of our family knew that. He told me that their family is forcing him to marry his uncle's daughter 7 yrs ago. Suddenly one day he told that he got married after 1 week of his marriage. I really frustrated and told him to lead his life. He promised me I will get divorce and marry you. If you leave me I will die. He got addicted to alcohol and I itself had been admitted him in more than 4 times. My aunt gave him 1.5 lakhs for his business and I spent more than 2 lakh when he was unemployed. His family members knew that but didn't object him for getting money. Till now he didn't get divorce and telling me they are demanding more，30 lakh for thalak I can't able to give that much. We will Let them to ASk for divorce, please believe me. They are not educated they will do anything. I'm the only man, we don't have any support for us. Please wait and trust me he is saying. He used to come and see me once in 3 months. Recently I saw few photos with his wife in mobile and I enquired him he told if I pretend to be a good husband while approaching for divorce Jamat will approve divorce without demanding anything from me. I don't know what is happening, I'm going to turn 30 and waiting for him. Please advise how to know the truth as I'm remote to him I don't know anything. I don't want my family members to know this. They already frustrated seeing me like this everyday. My father had expired and have 2 sisters, married. I don't have any friends also.
Guest
(Expert) 15 April 2017
When the Truth is in front of your eyes where is question of how to know the Truth.Forget him and get rid of that man who is other Lady's Husband also.Other Man's Wife Other Woman's Husband and Others Money would be always Poison. First think of your Parents and Make them happy by Settling in Life..
Guest
(Expert) 15 April 2017
Send a Legal Notice with the help of your Advocate Or File a police complaint to get back your money Or just forget it and have a Pleasant and peaceful life atleast from now on wards.
Adv. Yogen Kakade
(Expert) 15 April 2017
Love is blind... But this much????
What you need is to talk to the elders in your family.. may be with your sisters..
Life is precious.. not worth to spend on such people..
There is no need for the experts to tell you whether he is cheating you or not.. you know the answer very well.
Querist :
Anonymous
(Querist) 15 April 2017
Sir, he is afraid of his brothers. He used to tell me they are uneducated and will do whatever they want. Please be patience and trust me.
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 15 April 2017
no reply 2aq.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 15 April 2017
No reply to query from anonymous author.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
Normally there should be no reply for anonymous but you misconceptions need reply :-
"We had been in a relationship for more than 9 yrs."
IT IS YOUR STUPIDITY THAT YOU ALLOWED IT FOR 9 YEARS.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"Suddenly one day he told that he got married after 1 week of his marriage."
SO HE GOT A PEACEFUL LIFE AND PERHAPS GOOD DOWRY ALSO AND HAPPINESS OF FAMILY WITHOUT RISK OF BEING TURNED OUT OF SUCCESSION AT THE COST OF FOOL LIKE YOU.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"He promised me I will get divorce and marry you."
YOUR STUPIDITY IS AT HEIGHT. WHILE AS BACHELOR HE DID NOT MARRY YOU NOW YOU EXPECT THAT HE WILL COME OUT OF HAPPY MARRIAGE ONLY FOR THE SAKE OF FOOL LIKE YOU.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"He got addicted to alcohol "
PRUDENT WOMEN EVEN IF MARRIED TO SUCH A PERSON WALK OUT AND YOU EXPECT TO GET MARRIED TO HIM AND ALSO FEEL YOU WILL BEHAPPY?
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"My aunt gave him 1.5 lakhs for his business and I spent more than 2 lakh when he was unemployed. "
WHY? WHY? WHY?
Why even a single penny was given to him on sinking investment like him. Were you giving advance dowry?
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"His family members knew that but didn't object him for getting money. "
WHY SHOULD THEY OBJECT WHEN FOOLS LIKE YOU AND YOUR AUNT HAVE EXTRA MONEY TO SQUANDER ON THEIR SON WHOM THEY DO NOT FEEL LIKE GIVING ANY MONEY.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"Till now he didn't get divorce and telling me they are demanding moreļ¼30 lakh for thalak I can't able to give that much."
HE IS JUSTIFIED IN FOOLING YOU AS LONG AS YOU ARE DYING TO BE FOOLED.
HE IS MUSLIM HUSBAND ALL THAT HE NEEDS TO DO IS TO PRONOUNCE THREE TALAQS PAY THE MEHAR AND MARRIAGE IS OVER.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"They are not educated they will do anything. I'm the only man, we don't have any support for us. Please wait and trust me he is saying. He used to come and see me once in 3 months. "
HE CAN SAY SO AS LONG AS YOU ARE WILLING TO BELIEVE.
HE IS ENJOYING A WOMAN OTHER THAN HIS WIFE FOR FREE RATHER ON PREMIUM.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"Recently I saw few photos with his wife in mobile and I enquired him he told if I pretend to be a good husband while approaching for divorce Jamat will approve divorce without demanding anything from me."
JAMAT ?
THEY HAVE NO LEGAL STATUS WHEN DIVORCE IS PRONOUNCED BY INDIAN MUSLIM HUSBAND WITHOUT CITING ANY REASON, NO EXPLANATION, NO NOTICE REQUIRED.
EVEN IF THEY HAVE SOCIAL PRESSURE DO YOU THINK THEY WILL ENCOURAGE DIVORCE OF A HAPPILY MARRIED COUPLE.
HE IS HAVING GOOD TIME FOOLING YOU AS LONG AS YOU VOLUNTEER TO BE FOOLED
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"I'm going to turn 30 and waiting for him."
SO WHAT YOU WILL TURN SIXTY ALSO ONE DAY. KEEP ON WAITING.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"I don't know what is happening"
YOU WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT IS HAPPENING AS LONG AS YOU DO NOT WANT TO KNOW.
2+2 IS ALWAYS =4
WHETHER YO9U LIKE IT OR NOT.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"Please advise how to know the truth as I'm remote to him I don't know anything. "
YOU ARE AT WRONG FORUM
THIS IS NOT ASTROLOGICAL FORUM
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
""I don't want my family members to know this."
DO YOU WANT THIS FORUM TO BELIEVE THAT YOUR FAMILY DOES NOT KNOW.
THEN WHY YOUR FATHER DIED.
WHY YOUR AUNT DONATED MONEY TO HIM
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"They already frustrated seeing me like this everyday."
SO WHAT
YOU ENJOY YOUR SELF TRUSTING THAT FELLOW
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"he is afraid of his brothers. He used to tell me they are uneducated and will do whatever they want. Please be patience and trust me. "
SO HONOUR HIS FEAR.
KNOWING HE IS AFRAID OF BROTHER AND STILL YOU KEEP BELIEVING HIM AND TRUST HIM.
KEEP DOING SO.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"Till now he didn't get divorce and telling me they are demanding moreļ¼30 lakh for thalak I can't able to give that much."
IS THIS THE MEHAR AMOUNT.
ANYWAY HE CAN PRETEND IMPOSSIBILITY OF DIVORCE BEFORE YOU AND STILL MAKE YOU TO BELIEVE THAT HE WILL TAKE DIVORCE.
SO CREATING A BACKGROUND EXTRACT SOME PART OF 30 LAKH RUPEE FROM YOU .
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 April 2017
"He used to come and see me once in 3 months."
MANY PERSONS DO SO. THEY VISIT SECOND WOMAN AT THEIR LEISURE.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 16 April 2017
I am thankful for the agreement kindly expressed by Ms Usha Kapoor.
I fail to understand why this learned lady is not able to write my name's spelling correctly knowing very well that wrong spelling of anyone's name is one way of insulting him which I am sure she will never intend)
Guest
(Expert) 16 April 2017
Please Some one differentiate the Meanings of" Agree" and "Agreement"
Guest
(Expert) 16 April 2017
Agreement-A negotiated and typically, legally binding arrangement between two parties as to a cause of action.
Guest
(Expert) 16 April 2017
Agree-Have the same opinion about some thing concur.
Guest
(Expert) 16 April 2017
Relevant Correction should have been done in the Agreement it self.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 17 April 2017
As per rules of this platform I do not reply to the query raised by an anonymous author and request other experts to reconsider their view, desist with such practice and discourage such author.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 17 April 2017
Agreed with conclusion of Dr J C Vashista.
