Gifts and gold given voluntarily by inlaws to groom
Kiran Kavatagi
(Querist) 21 December 2018
This query is : Resolved
Hello Sir/Madam,
My query is- my inlaws are voluntarily giving me gold, money for clothes and land. We have not demanded any sorts of gifts money or gold.I am strict against it and denying what they are giving.But my in laws are saying, they are giving it as a token of love. Is it considered dowry or something else ? and is it acceptable ?
please kindly clarify.
SHIRISH PAWAR, 7738990900
(Expert) 21 December 2018
You can accept any gift as long as it is dhej and no complaint is filed by your in laws.
Kiran Kavatagi
(Querist) 21 December 2018
Sir, do mean to say it is dahej(dowry) ?
Kishor Mehta
(Expert) 21 December 2018
Yes it can be considered dowry.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 21 December 2018
IT is good that you are against dowry and do not want to accept.
Remain firm and convey gently that spouse’s side should not bring such items.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 21 December 2018
GO thru;
Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961
;2
State amendments
Service rules of your establishment (if employed)
There are many threads on dowry that you can search thru SEARCH option in threads, files, Articles
e.g;Article under my profile;
“Spouse of employee in marital dispute can get copy of 'Dowry Declaration signed by employee”
And may also go thru some landmark and latest citations ;
e.g;
Supreme Court of India
Ran Singh And Anr vs State Of Haryana And Anr on 30 January, 2008
Author: . A Pasayat
Bench: Dr. Arijit Pasayat, P. Sathasivam
CASE NO.:
Appeal (crl.) 222 of 2008
And relate with customs of your community.
IT is always better to keep irrefutable evidence in form of photo, video, recordings, documents so as to defend in long term, and even exchange say by emails etc
A very able LOCAL counsel can also help and update you.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 21 December 2018
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There are such very able counsels at each location.
Check for such counsels at LOCAL; Family/Civil Courts, HC, SC,..
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Your counsels may opine that you can appear on 1st date, and obtain copies of petition etc to reply later ….and inform the court that you shall be engaging a counsel and appear thru your counsel….Or your counsel can appear and obtain copies of petition etc and reply later or your new counsel can appear for you.
Your counsels can advise after examining all docs/record/inputs pertaining to your matter and help you. You can also search threads on similar query in SEARCH option ON left Hand side of threads in Forum/Experts section. Having learnt a lesson, remember to consult beforehand for your matters or any matter about which you are not properly informed.
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You can go thru/search the cases contested by any Lawyer at court website.
Rest; Your own very able LOCAL counsel as already advised above, can advise you in person, after examining all docs, inputs in person.
Obtain proper legal opinion in writing.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 21 December 2018
You are welcome!
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 22 December 2018
Not understood how the following persons can be helpful
Seasoned PIPs, help groups, NGOs, experienced colleagues, association, religious scholars/leaders, influential persons, Employees Trade Union leaders, help group for spouse…………..
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 22 December 2018
The guest has not stated any problem and is just making academic query. The reason for sending him to seasoned lawyers etc is not understood.
Vijay Raj Mahajan
(Expert) 22 December 2018
No this not dowry nor it is istridhan of wife, its just gift given to you at the time of marriage which is now your absolute property that can not be demanded or taken back from you.
To prove that it was dowry article the onus to prove is on the wife side or prosecution in court and not you, your statement as being given as gift is good enough, rest is their case to prove that you forced them to give you is on then not you. The value of the articles given as gift is always taken in consideration, so get a valuation done for these articles, this will prove viz a viz their financial condition of presenting you these articles.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 23 December 2018
I disagree with experts.
It is a gift from in-laws, you can/ should (rather must) accept it as their blessings, there is nothing wrong / illegal.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 23 December 2018
it will be dowry if it is for consideration of marriage i.e. there will be no marriage without the same whether given at the time of marriage /before/after, whether given by parents/relatives of girl/boy.
