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10 June 2013 at 09:42
Dear Law Experts ,
I am a 32 year old professional working in a leading MNC in B'lore with a very decent job and earning decent income .
I am from semi-modern family which respects traditional Indian values. Almost two years back my parents started searching a bride for me and found a girl from a village family near mangalore after searching and consulting family relatives and thinking that village peoples are most trustworthy and honest .
1.On my engagement day at the last moment we came to know by one of the girls relative that girls father is married for the second time without divorcing the first wife and first wife still lives in the same home with her two other male children's and as per girls father version he got a written agreement( i am not sure if its legal one ) from his first wife saying that she is fine with second marriage. i am not sure what kind of value it holds in court of law .
Though we came to know about this fact at the last minute and we almost kept in dark on this matter till the end, my parents ( really innocent by heart :( forced to proceed further as our family main intention was to find only good girl for me and we were not behind money or any assets .
2.Most hurting thing for me is what happened is on my marriage day . marriage mahurtam was scheduled around 12:15 am and as we needed to travel for a long distance ( above 150 kms ) to reach the marriage venu we reached marriage venu around 11:45 am and by surprise i was about to witness another side of my so called "father-in-law" as he started hurling abuses at me right infront of 500 crowd and also i came to know that girls family mis-treated our relatives who arrived to the venue before us . even super-agressive attitude of entire girls family ( including bride) shocked me for a moment. please note that given the fact that most of their family is not well educated except the bride and her brothers . but, i believe commonsense needs no education.
For a moment a thought i will not go ahead with marriage but as it was a question of girls life and prestige in our society and also about my mothers health ( she is heart-patient). as i don't wanted to make it more complicated and was wishing that things will go good in future days and even my relatives requested to not highlight this issue much i agree to proceed further and got married without any dowry or any high expectations.
3.After marriage i came to know few more lies as bride had female hormone imbalance issue as she grows up facial hair once in 15 days ( we never exposed to this truth when i saw the girl first time). for me this was worrying but not a serious issue and i known this is rare but not life threatening as there are many cosmetics and modern medication procedures are available to deal with this . girls mother still denies this fact! but later i am exposed to the facts there are few more health related issues and thats saddening for me .
Attitude side , though girl is well mannered in mannered in may aspects but as she has short temper and she is aggressive and that's causing few issues in my family life .
Most paining part is that of girls family attitude as they are not apologetic on anything and they say what they have done earlier is absolutely right .
Though , i know indian Law would have done a lot if i was girl and was going through this injustice . not sure how our law system can help me on this as i am a male .
Please help and any help is much appreciated .
Tarun Kumar
09 June 2013 at 18:26
sir,
My sister has got married 10 yrs ago but she has not been given yet status in family which she deserves. she has no issue. Her husband beated her several times. Her alongwith her family always make different practices resulting mental torture. Their behaviour & statements shows they did not like more stay of my sister with them. My sister tolerate at the level she can but after 10 yrs she also decided to not continue with such relation where no body care her and we also supported her decision. Now she come with us without saying about her view. Now we want to know what steps should be taken further by us. she also wants to take her 'STRIDHAN i.e ornamnents' but she also fear that they can charge her that it is stolen by her. Further she also want to know she will get any thing from her husband for livelihood or not. Please guide us what steps should be taken (step wise step) so that no error can be left at this end.
viviya
09 June 2013 at 17:36
Sir,
Please tell Is it possible to marry my second cousin??
our relation is "HE's my father's father's sister's son's son...
Please reply...we are waiting for it..
Thanks
vv
Satya
09 June 2013 at 13:15
Dear Sir/Madam,
I am married in may'2005 at the time I am working in Dubai with good job.my wife ask me to assist for her higher education (MSC) i said ok and supported her financial. she completed her MSC we both together planned to work in Hyderabad no need to foreign country. then i return form UAE and got a job in Hyderabad but unfortunately she did not get the job we are together living and run the hose happily, we have one child 5 years.
in our family life we have always facing problems due to lack of finance or some other reasons.i lost the job again i found another job.. these kind of issue going on...
I am hard worker where i am working reconised the management and promoted me before the marriage.after the marriage so many jobs i lost these are the conflicts effects our family life due to my drinking habit. several days she said if you stop your drinking otherwise i will leave the house. she left from my home and went her fathers house.i am completely fed up with her attitude and activities.
finally i visit one of the well astrology pundit in our place, he found her parents cheated you due to change of her Janamanakstra at the time of marraige they said my daughter janamnakshtra was "Swathi" but as per her birth time and date it is "Chitra" the charaterstics of wife similar and matching with her.
i am completely depressed and anxiety. i have this not the correct way i am doing then i search and found job in Kuwait with family status Visa and good salary, i am trying to convenience her and her parents but they don't want to send her back to my home always saying your dunking that is the reason we don;t to send my daughter along with you. the Kuwait is country complete Alcohol Ban country in the world that also i explained them but they did not interested finally they ask me to give divorce to their daughter. i don't give divorce to her because i love her very much
three times i went India and trying to convenience to her and her parents but there is no repose from them. due lack of leave i return Kuwait doing job professionally. but my heart and soul always thinking her, now they put a condition do not talk with my son also.
I have supported my uncles family more than IRS: 5 lakhs. at the time they enquired our village people they about my drinking habit they agreed and do the marriage.
Kindly advise on the below:
1. How I can get back my son from them?
2. Is there any chance to get my money back from uncle?
3. i have leave period 30 days only this is enough time to settle through the court?
4. Is there any punishment for cheating in marraige (janmanakshtra the details and charterctis as follows:6/2/13 Chitra Nakshatras, Chitra Nakshatra female natives, attitude
www.indianastrologyhoroscope.com/ChitraNakshatra_Female.html 1/1
Family portrait
The natives of Chitra Nakshatra are perceived to spend their lives away from their father and birth home due
to variant possible reasons as her parents might be living separately and his birth home may get destroyed or
sold or she might be compelled to stay alone due to some other reasons. These people are attached to their
parents while being much closer to their mothers and love their siblings but they would suspect them too for
being highly sensitive from inside.
When it comes to conjugal path of Chitra Nakshatra natives, it is perceived to possess much of hurdles as
their will be much conflicts in between the spouses which would lead a lack of peace at home. Besides this,
there are possibilities for the death of partner or divorce as she would lack at the side of husband’s life.
Childlessness could also be there. Acquiring remedies is almost really important in the lives of Chitra
Nakshatra women.)
I love my wife i don't divorce i want my son and my wife to be back, Please help me
Gaurav
08 June 2013 at 22:43
I stay with my wife at my mothers place for last 1 year. I tried living on rent also with my wife for 2 yrs but she likes to quarrel n shes very doubtful nature n always doubts me having an xtra marital affair. She doesnt gel wel with mom too n always finds reasons to fight. She has now stoop down to a level of bad mouthing abt my mothers character n says I sleep with her.....I have sms proof n voice recordings of she saying this....my argument is ......god cant b everywhere so he created mother do mother is equivalent to god.... if someone abuses my god y should I even think of staying with tat person. Can I divorce on sec 13 n which sec under it... n can my mom immediately throw me n her out of her house as she is a threat to her now.. n on my this argument can I skip d mediation session n directly ask for speed divorce.plz suggest asap.
Regds
Gautam
smita patel
08 June 2013 at 21:49
me and my husband are staying separate for last 7yrs and he use to always beat me with no mercy.for same i had registered NC against him.for last 7yrs i am paying the maintainance of flat,light bill,and looking after my childs education and all expences,
no peney is provided by him.
now he has file petition,for divoce,but i have not received any sumance from court for the same.
what shall i do.
even suggest me good defending lawyer
rajiv_lodha
08 June 2013 at 17:59
I filed divorce case sec 13 i a, wife is contesting. Child aged 6 yrs is living with me from past 18 months. Nobody has filed formal custody case, she asked for temporary custody of child in DV case for few days in winter holidays, was granted. Questions are
1) Can she ask for permanent custody in my divorce case? Any section of HMA available to her in this divorce case OR she has 2 file separate GWA case for the same?
2) In DV case, is there any provision for permanent custody for her / me?
3) She hasn't shown any sign of custody fight so far, child going to school from past 3 yrs, she enjoying visitation only...Is it advisable 4 e to rock the supper & apply for GWA from my my end?
ChandanLawyersclub
08 June 2013 at 13:15
Dear Sirs,
Couple is married from last 9 years
Wife has taken unilateral decision of not have kids, she do not want to adopt, not come forward for any treatment, infact she stops husband having relation during her fertile days. She tells she had no interest in marriage and child before marriage also, she married on obligation of parents.
Even if husband talks about adopt a child , she say she will not take any responsibility of child.
Husband has bought a joint property , 8 years back from his earlier savings and bank loan, now property worth 1cr, wife ask for half of money for mutual divorce, all his life long saving in this. Wife has not given single penny all was given by husband.
Wife threatens if husband file divorce case, she will take full property and half salary of husband through court. Implicate him 498A. Husband has offered 20-25 lakhs one time settlement for mutual divorce, post disposal of house, but wife says minimum 50% in property and salary. She works earn 20 thousand per month, husband earns 1.50L per month.
a.Is it advisable to break marriage for child by paying such huge money? If husband also wants to become childfree then relation of husband and wife becomes very good. Husband wants child, wife do not wants “at all “is creating the biggest rift in relation. Many couples stay child free life these days in developed countries.
b. Can husband file case of mental cruelty, and case of cheating because she was not interested for marriage but forced by parents for social obligation. If He contest for divorce, how much alimony and compensation he is liable? Wife do not listens to any one ( her parents, relatives, even husband has done counseling in family court to change her attitude for motherhood but in vain).
Pl. advice
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Husband wife conflicts
Dear Sir,
My wife was gone to her motherhood for delivery on 17th January 2013. on 12th february 2013 we have got a child.since she is living in her motherhood.I had good familier relation with my wife & her family till 24th March 2013. A normal misunderstanding/conflicts was happened between us on 25th march 2013. since she blaming on me that I had raped her after delivery, I attempted to kill her. she also blames that after our marriage which was passed on 16th April 2012 I used to do mental,Sexual & physical harressment with her.Now she does not want to live with me,she do not communicate me since 25th march 2013.she also do not take any action. but I do not want to leave her or divorced her. My family is also attend a counselling with her family but they do not cooperate with us.Her family is fighting with wrong words at the time of councelling. Now my wife's parents said that they do not ready to send her to my home. if they will send as per their choice or not.whetherI would send her a legal notice for living with me. How it will works? What appropriate action taken by me? give me appropriate solution on my case.
Regards : Kewal Bhaskar