Plz help me to live
sravya
(Querist) 28 April 2012
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hi sir,i am in love with my mother's sister's son from 12 years.is there any chance to marry him legally.plz give me a small hope to live. thankyou
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 28 April 2012
How on earth could you manage to fall in love with someone who is so close your relative and who is none but your brother?
It is totally prohibited.
Just imagine how would your parents and siblings react and feel when they would eventually come to know about this.
sravya
(Querist) 28 April 2012
sir,plz i want to know about,the Hindu Marriage Act 1955
Marriage Act 1954.
for my problem.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 28 April 2012
Have you not read my reply?
Marriage would be void.
Exception is made only for few castes where Custom among the community/caste allows such marriage within close relatives.
Advocate M.Bhadra
(Expert) 28 April 2012
It is prohibited relation according to Hindu Marriage Act,it can be solved by changing religion one of you.
sravya
(Querist) 28 April 2012
thank you sir. i am christian sir.is there any chance now sir.i am ready to even die to do this.
Sankaranarayanan
(Expert) 28 April 2012
ethically and legally , logically against the nature
sravya
(Querist) 28 April 2012
hell.i know who he is n what he is n y i m suffering.is there any legal chance r not.its my life.dnt b silly.sorry
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 28 April 2012
Sravya,
You look distrubed in your expression.You say you want about HMA and again you say you are a christian.I understand your curiosity and frustration,but your relation is nothing but Sapinda relationship as per HMA.Continuing to the views of the above experts,I would like to enlighten you that you would be making your entire family suffer for this act of yours.He is nothing but your first cousin.
What way you are a Christian? Have you alone converted yourself?Even in christianity marriage between first cousins is probihited in Chatholics,but it is permitted in protestantts,in the west,but not in India.
Hence my sincere advice is try to reconcile yourself,and go as per the wishes of your elders.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 28 April 2012
I see you dying then only course open is that both adopt islam .
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 29 April 2012
if ur family , both parents agree for it, u need not die.
Best is : Love is divine, Pure, and need not have affection or sex in it. OK Live together, Love each other, as brother and sister. Is it necessary to have sex? is it necessary to marry?? Can't you scarify physical relationship for your so called tremendous LOVE, that cause your death also??
Think it over, talk to your parents.
First cousin marriages are rarely successful, and must be avoided by all means. Love each other, live together, without physical relationship.
Do not disappoint your parents.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 29 April 2012
Even christianity does not allow such marriage. If you were hindu could have possibly fooled a Pandit. But in christianity churches are able to keep record of relationship and notify marriage in advance. Very less chance for you unless some greedy parson volunteeers to avoid the code which are rare to be seen.
Dr V. Nageswara Rao
(Expert) 30 April 2012
1. I know one case in AP where a boy married his own mother's sister. This is totally repulsive and bad in law.
2.Though under HM Act, marrying cousins is strictly prohibited, South of Vindhyas there is the custom of marrying certain first cousins like father's sister's kids or mother's brother's kids.But not mother's sister's kids or father's brother's kids.
3. Marrying mother's sister's son is like marrying your own brother. Such a marriage is void legally.
4. Time has come for Courts not to recognize marriages within prohibited degrees even if they convert into Islam as that is fraud on both Hinduism and Islam. Courts have refused to recognize divorces after conversion to Islam from Hinduism only to defeat the provisions of HM Act and by resorting to instant triple talaq.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 30 April 2012
I entirely agree with Dr. Rao.
I said so only because she said she shall die.
Anirudh
(Expert) 30 April 2012
Supplementing the views of Dr. Rao, while in South it is not uncommon for a girl to marry her mother's brother (uncle) and which is a very well accepted custom. In fact such an uncle is believed to have a right over his niece. Only when the uncle rejects her, then the family of the girl can look outside for a groom and otherwise not. Sometimes when the uncle is not considered as a groom, even fights take place and family relationship gets cut for ever!
However, I have not come across a situation a where a boy has married the sister of his mother.
sravya
(Querist) 30 April 2012
v r ready to stay together without any physical relationship but not as sister and brother but as a wife and husband,want no kids,he is enough for me.but who believes n where is d security.in these 12 years we never went wrong in physical way.is this love?even after this much years the love remains unchanged n becoming more stronger n stronger.what is this called.is there any way to solve this problem in this world.we r ready to do anything for it but cant loose our parents and also our love.
Guest
(Expert) 30 April 2012
Dear Sravya,
In short, your marriage with your maternal cousin will be invalid in law.
So far your vow, "v r ready to stay together without any physical relationship but not as sister and brother but as a wife and husband," nobody can believe that fire and oil can live together without burning each other if both are placed together.
RAJU O.F.,
(Expert) 30 April 2012
As you are Christians, the relationship for marriage is prohibited for most of the Christian denominations and hence the church and your parents and community would oppose you. More than that, the children born in such relation are said to have genetic problems. Better you may keep only a good relation of brother and sister.
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 04 May 2012
Rightly advised by experts.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
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adv. rajeev ( rajoo )
(Expert) 28 April 2012
