Job of wife
perumal
(Querist) 26 February 2012
This query is : Resolved
Sir,
I am working as a Software Engineer and drawing a considerable salary to run my family. My wife is working as a middle school teacher and drawing some amount of salary for the past two and a half year. I am regularly incurring some essential expenditure every month for my wife’s job. She gave birth to a male child and he is now two months old.
From my side as well as her side nobody is available to look after my child. It is very difficult to look after my child. My economical position will not allow me engaging a Servant Maid. She worked, earned and handed over the entire salary to their parents, who have got strong income basis for them. Either their parents or my wife saved even a single rupee of my wife’s salary. Thus, her earnings will not serve any purpose to my family. Therefore, I have instructed to resign her job since our entire future relies only upon our child. She refused.
What are the solutions? Kindly reply me, sirs.
Yours truly,
p.petchimuthu
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 26 February 2012
Resignation from job is not a good solution to your otherwise a simple problem. You may try for a crutch for your child and may convince your wife to save her salary in the bank or on the welfare of our child to make his bright life so that she may not divert her income towards her parents.
You should win your wife by your love and affection and not by negative dictation of leaving the job.
M/s. Y-not legal services
(Expert) 26 February 2012
yes., am also agree with makkad sir.. its not a good way for defeat your wife..
just make it clear to her..
-tom-
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 26 February 2012
I agree with experts.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
Sanjeev
(Expert) 27 February 2012
the matter is personal ans should be resolved amicably trying to enforce your deision to resign on your wife may lead to bigger issues and breaking of trust.
mahendrakumar
(Expert) 27 February 2012
dear Makkad,
I am really touched by your advise that "you should win your wife by love and affection...."
you have defenitly touched a very core issue of marital problems.
Guest
(Expert) 27 February 2012
Nice advice by Shri Makkad.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 27 February 2012
Agreed with Shri Makkad " You should win your wife by your love and affection and not by negative dictation of leaving the job."
Legally, you have no right to instruct her to leave the job. She is at Liberty to choose her profession, Employment.
Your act is not fair .
Child's liability is on both of you.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 27 February 2012
This incident confirm my List of Disputes that result in Divorce or separation, and unhappiness in couple. :"both educated, and working." These reasons are circumstantial, not by nature. No one is good or bad, See What is wrong.
Have a Joint Meeting of both parents & both of you Prepare Agenda: Child : who will look after & where? Who will share expenses : Make it percentage wise, as per Net Income of h-w. Let her share 50% of All Expenses, Social/ food, hone, clothing etc..
Your parents are maintained, but you must be using their residence.
Solve it with 3 meetings, 3rd being Final:
Let all know how all feel about Wife's Job.
Remember, she is not a cook, or cloth washer , not a servant.
Wife's Legal duty is ??? remember that..
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 27 February 2012
I pay thanks to the experts who liked my views.
Guest
(Expert) 27 February 2012
you have no right to instruct her to resign the job.This will create problems in future ,If your child go to school and suppose if any expenses like books, teaching ...-your wife can contribute .I agreed with adv. makkad sir as he said,"You should win your wife by your love and affection".
Deepak Nair
(Expert) 27 February 2012
Well advised by the experts above, especially Mr.Rajkumar.
This is a personal issue where there is no role for professional services of a legal expert.
Everything depends upon you and your ability to convince your wife.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 29 February 2012
When klegally you hve no emedy then I do not think that there can be better solution than the one proposed by Mr Makkar
