Dowry + female baby birth hrasshment,domestic voilence
santosh kumari
(Querist) 18 December 2013
This query is : Resolved
Dear expert
I got married on 20 Jan,2010.it was arranged marriage
just two days before my wedding ,wen all plans were done
my father in law called my papa n said " manda ji, dahej do to rajesh she jyada dena warn a mat dena..''
my brother in law who got married 13.3.2009
his name is rajesh
my father did wedding to his best extend,at the main time,they said ''khanna a cha Honda chahiye,subhash me band me dost log ayege,,
we did the best arrangement they told us that abt 500 guest will come but there were hardly 200
I was working as TGT teacher in Ambuja cement public school.
but my husband subhash told me to resign.
so I did
on wedding nigt my husband told me urr papa has gifted me sofa which sud not b given instead must have given bed,my parents r asking,gold chain which or papa has given is very thin
my mother in law starting abusing me.I did not tell my parents as my mother is ployneuropathy patient
we went to Jaipur,where his sister stay for a week,she started humiliating me by saying ,,,,tumhare pass h hi kya books me Siva,as I was writing govt exam
on 5 Feb we went manglore
my in laws stay at Mangalore.
after going 5-10 Feb in between my husband called my papa
they asked m e t o meet household expense,so I joined kV 1 pan bur Mangalore
on ad hoc basis
my husband went on ship,,on15.3.2010
he never used to talk to me,never had any physically relation.I thout he may b shy natured n must give him time
after his departure my mother father in started abusing me more,although taunts were there,like,,,kapde naahin diye there main baap he,kharche me praise LA,bandariya,,,
they said Hamelin bacha chaiye,tu bannnjh h ,n took me to gynecologist, I was Mumm,thinking DAT god will listen to my situationa.
did wat they wanted,although they had govt paid maid but asked me to to all things
I did ,n worked in school
gave them salary,but salary cheque was account paid,so had opened account in canara bank.this irritated them,I don't know why
wen husband came they started complaing abt me as I had made marriage certificate n accoutnt
they did gave me single penyy for my expenditure
neither my husband.said'''tu parlour eye brow ke liye nahin jayegi''
I did like that,I loved my husband,I worshipped him like god
I wanted him to have physical relation but he said''tu achi h lek in plz don't ask me for sex.''
I was mumm
my father in law wen my husband was not there,n mother in law out use to do toilet with open door of bath room
here I will mention that he was de-comissioned in his previous job (indian navy) for attempt to rape.
use to play hot songs in tv with full volume n asked me to sit n watch tv
I deniedour house was on ground floor,once i saw him peeping in night from my room window
he had I'll eye on me
2 .8.2010 ,,,husband came baak.
same scene no talking..no relation
during diwali 5.11.10
we came to celebrate it with brother in law n his wife at Jaipur
my papa came to meet us
they sarted complaint abt me
I cried a lot whole night,was unable to understand where I was wrong
small kitchen matter they called my mom n complaint
I stareted bleeding
my husband was either sailing or going to Mumbai for his job courses
he hardly called me
all time I only called him,msged,mailed,I use to cry all time .my weight collapsed from 56 to 44 kg
I was preparing.for exams
on 27.2.11
I requested him to have relation so that we can HV baby,we had
on 28.2.2011 he went bk Mumbai
that night conceived baby,my mummy underwent uterus removal operation.I plead them to let me go to meet her.
but they said no,they took my cell phone,didn't allow me to talk to anyone.but I told them I will go to Rajasthan,so did come to meet my mummy
I between I cleared one kV school exam written
wen I went bk,may2011
again joined kV,gave them salary,
my husband use to abuse me,my mother in law ,father in law all abused but i was mumm.had singke target that my baby must not get affected
20.11.2011
I had labour. pain , but in hospital mother in law started abusing me DAT,,,she is list h happy to see. this baby..called rajesh n told the same
we came to Rajasthan
april2012
in. family function.
same scene, no talking..husband was least interested in me
they told my papa to take me,n snatched my jwellery
that time husband was sailing
I was with my parents from 8.5.2012 to 14.2.13
he hardly called me,all time warned me telling that he will never come to talk
Feb,2013
he came saying sorry
his parents did not cum with him
I went with daughter ,we decided to not to go Mangalore,instead will stay. in rented house at Jaipur,but. he took me to brother houses,there. same scene again started now brother in law n wife,my husbandsistr
all. abused,pulled my hairs ,thrown me out,I started bleeding
I came to my father place
14 april2013
again they came with. his papa
say in things will not repeat
took me to village near solar
we stayed,samme hitting
10 days after staying. mother in law came.
brought me my parent home.left me
wen I call led he said 'urr language is at jaipur
,take. from there
I went to bring
I founn my money jewelry ,hospital paper missing
now no contact since12..5.2013
on18.5.2013 ,,my cousin met an accident, expired
so didn't ask u for so long
wat to do no?
Kindlly help me
how should I move
santosh kumari
ajay sethi
(Expert) 18 December 2013
file complaint under 498A / Dv act . contact a local lawyer . yur husband and in laws dont want to maintain any reltions with you . you are entitlwed to streedhan / maintenance from your husband and right to stay in shared household
santosh kumari
(Querist) 18 December 2013
Thanx sir for the quick response,
Today only they have told we will go for mutual divorce
N were asking to settle the matter by paying money
WO bhi they r telling engagement n marriage ka,,,,,
Meriiii jwellary bhi unaki
Betiiiii,,,,,depends what amount we say
Otherwise they will take...n yes ,,,telling subhash is not here,,,,get divorced without him
My query
1.unkaki koi chal to nahin h mujhe fasane ki,book jar ki woo ladaki praise ki lalchi h air him to gaye there mamla sukjhane me liye lek in amount but jyada mango
2. Pls suggest me,its my n daughters lives matter
3.sued I go for mutual talk
A)without husband
B)without in laws
C) presence of husband n in laws+ mediator
3.when I sit for talk,
A) sued I sit with.my lawyer ( because I am sure tthat they will not accept my conditions
As. Have tried before
4) please guide me,how us I proceed,I am confused
santosh kumari
(Querist) 18 December 2013
Sorry
Typing mistake
Querry no 1
Ye unaaki koii chal to nahin h mujhe fasane ki,
WO ladaki praise ki lalachi thi .like that
Nadeem Qureshi
(Expert) 18 December 2013
Dear Querist
it will be better to file the case under section 498/406 of ipc, domestic violence case, maintenance case against them after that settle the matter with your terms and condition.
feel free to call
santosh kumari
(Querist) 18 December 2013
OK sir
So I just want to confirm again that instead of going for a mutual talk and and settlement I must file a case without informing them.
And this means they are just trying to play tricks.
santosh kumari
(Querist) 18 December 2013
Dear Nadeem Sir
As you said that then settle the case as per your terms and condition; so kya case karne ke baad mein "Raazinama" ho sakta hai ?
I am saying so because I want end this as soon as possible.I am already 30 years old now.and I want to stand on my feet as soon as possible.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 18 December 2013
Razinama depends upon their intention not on you only. Without filing all these cases you will not be able to take your belonging back.
Contact a local lawyer dealing in family law. File complaints at a place you can follow up easily or at your parents station.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 18 December 2013
NOT even Mutual Divorce can take place without a petition to be signed by husband and wife and filed in court.
Your in laws are none to settle it out side court.
You are entitled to all of your Stridhan as well as to maintenance for you and your daughter and an accommodation to live in.
File cases advised.
santosh kumari
(Querist) 19 December 2013
Thankyou all experts
Yesterday I went to talk to local lawyer
They said following points
1.dowery is not murder, they may get Bail after 6 months
2. Your loss is more ,if u file such case ,no body will marry u in us life because all will say ''YE wohi h name jisne pahle wale ko jail bheja .
3. Tumhari bet I,unaki property h after 5 years .they may take her,if u fight for her,court may send her to nari niketan
4. U can change this world, better to say bye bye with mutual talk
5.his salary may be 20 lakhs per annum but u will be paid hardly 5,000 per month,which is not big amount for him
6.although u r staying away since 7 months but time period of separation must be at least 6 months after applying in court
7.zindagi akele nahin nikalti ,tumhari beti ki shadi hone kke bad tumhein ekkkant khayega
8. How much amount should I ask for compensation ,n maintenance to be paid all together ??
( any approx idea)
How true is his suggestion sir
Kindly suggest me,I have suffered a lot.n would like to have peaceful n happy life ahead with dignity
Thank you for helping me
santosh kumari
(Querist) 19 December 2013
Dear experts
Kindly reply to my above mentioned equerry
Seeking for advice
Santosh kumari
skmanda@gmail.com
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 19 December 2013
Sorry, too long a query
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 19 December 2013
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