Anonymous
15 August 2018 at 13:45
How to cancel engagement legally 5 months before marriage ?
Bride's family behave cheap. We have no demands.
We Asked for simple marriage. Engagement over. Simple and cheapest engagement ever seen. Only engagement expense for bride was food and photo. [Not even worth 50k]
We spent [dont want to mention amount] for gold/saree and gave to bride.
Similarly, giving mental pressure to do a cheap marriage as well. We dont want grand marriage, but, they dont discuss with parents about their incapabilities. They tactically say some bits and pieces to me and later inform my parents that i agreed for things, making me Bakra. Bride's family tries to put financial burden on us as well.
On retaliation for above tactics, they complain against us and blaming us. Gives mental pressure.
They can't point out 1 single mistake against us. They say generic statements. No proof.
And Bride's family is cunning & keeping quiet; waiting for us to cancel/take decision. Not willing to talk also.
I'm sure, If I marry her, they will apply for divorce later and demand more money. Spoiling my life.
Please help me on cancelling this engagement.
Anonymous
14 August 2018 at 23:27
After 3 years of separation with my wife i had filed a divorce case against my wife. i got divorce decree after 1 year as she did not attend court and became a ex-parte . later she filed high court case to nullify divorce case she won that case ,verdict was given in just 2 months as my lawyer also joined with her after taking huge sum of money from me.
Now judgement is case is disposed in high court and given to family court for fresh hearing. here my time my money is all lost with no results . law always favours women . she dosent want to stay with me and wants me to suffer,but in court she said she does not want divorce
What can i do? i have hard time trusting lawyers .. all lawyers are not bad . but iam kind of stuck should i withdraw case or pursue case. i dont want to waste time and money again.
simran
14 August 2018 at 18:40
Hello everyone,
I have a situation here and really need tome genuine support and guidance with my current marriage. Let me give you a background in multiple paragraphs since it too complicated for me now. . I come from decent north Indian family where parents have always given us traditional and modern values . But my husband if from Bihar where his whole extended family has directly indirectly taken dowry for their sons. My husband and I met through a matrimonial site an and when we started talking he made me believe that his thinking is not like his extended family and very much believes in respect and equality of everyone.
We got engaged and my husband asked me to invest in a house where we can start living as soon as we get married. I got excited and emotional and hence invested (say he invested 8 lkh and I gave 6 lkh , also 50% emi I give every month and I am the co-owner as well ). but then I noticed a bit of change in his behavior as he asked me money for our honeymoon ( out of 1.6lkh to be spent, he asked me to pay 1 lkh) , which I didnot like since our marriage was about to happen in few months and already i had put my savings in the house. Then too I thought that may be he needs support right now, I was able to give him 50k for the honeymoon.
After we got married, he told me that my family did not give them any thing in tilak and took them for granted and gave nothing like TV , fridge etc ( which as per me is dowry) and fought with me on this. I wasnt able to tell this to anyone because it was hardly a week I as married to him. Then I overheard him telling his uncles that the house we bought has only been bough by him and his dad ( which made me very sad and angry since I had invested all my savings for our house and his family was trying to hide it) .
In parallel, since we had decided that after marriage we will try to move abroad for job and will respect who ever gets it first the other one will come along and try to search the job. By God's grace I got the job first and we decided to move abroad and he also got a job in the meanwhile before we moved to the new place. While we were in India I was handling all the household things , maid etc and he handled just the rent. I tried to help because I thought he would be short of money since we both would have had some responsibilities in our wedding arrangement/shopping etc. But then suddenly he tole me that the about 1 lk of money which I gave him ( out of 6lkh ) for the house , he used to pay his credit card bill for his wedding expenses. This was again alarming for me and we argued and he pointed again that my family did not give them anything .
After a month of time, both of us moved abroad with new jobs where I earn slight more than him .He started asking me money to handle every expense of house saying I have taken some debt from friends and need to return them so you can handle at times the whole expenses . Also he started saying that he needs to save money for his sister's wedding and needs to send some money to his parents and help them buy a home ( which was never told to me before wedding as he had mentioned that everyone is independent and no one is dependent on him). This was alarming for me as he even asked me that for our home we would have to take possession in the coming year and he would need money from me (which was nvr decided between us when we purchased the house. We again argued and he kept on saying your family did not give anything and took us for granted. I was shocked to see his behavior. Then he started forcing me to put min 50% of contributions in all the expenditures and mentally torturing me about the dowry thingy directly indirectly. I do not know what shall I do right now.
I am terrified that what he might have his mind and hence I had reduced giving money for household things after all what happened soon after marriage. But because of so many heated arguments I am trying to put all the efforts to make things right and agreed o give 50% of the total household expenses( rent, travel, food, grocery etc) but then he keeps on making new issues every day, for example saying that you do not give me proper food, he keeps on saying that since you earn more you should give more in everything, as per him I should not think of helping my parents as my inlaws should be my priority, he also says I left India because of you and I do not like my job( though I told him we can go back whenever you want etc). He is also now trying to sell the house we bought (though we do not have the possession yet) but since I mentioned to him that the registration/possession money is something he has to handle he got furious and said that its better we sell it. This is all mental torture to me and I cannot discuss with my parents . Even his parents keep on referring to there other daughter inlaws that they gave this much of dowry or artifacts etc.
Lot of things are verbal communication between us which even if I want to proof in future I might not be able to . But the fact is it is completely a mental torture and I do not know what should I be legally able to do in future if he makes the situation worst.
Sorry its a long post , but I would really appreciate a genuine response and guidance.
Ashu
14 August 2018 at 15:27
Dear Sir
मै आशीष कुमार, मेरे पिताजी बैंक अधिकारी थे, उनकी दो शादियां हुई जिसमें से पहली बीबी की मृत्यु हो गई, पहली बीबी से तीन संतान (मैं और मेरी दो बहनें) दूसरी बीबी (मेरी सौतेली माँ) से चार बेटे और एक बेटी हैं, मेरे पिता जी का देहांत हो गया, उन्होंने मुझे अपने ग्रेच्युटी में 50% और PF में 100% nominee बनाया था, जिसको बैंक ने मुझे उनके housing loan, car loan and other loans का amount deduct कर के payment किया।
अब मेरी माँ (step mother) और उनका बड़ा लड़का वो घर बेच रहे हैं (मेरी बिना जानकारी के)।2lakhs का agreement भी किसी property dealer से कर चुके हैं। जब मैंने इसके बारे में पूछा तो वे लोग मुझे जान से मारने की धमकी देने लगे।
मेरा प्रश्न है कि-
क्या मेरा उस घर और कार पर पूर्ण अधिकार है। इसके लिए मैं दावा कर सकता हूँ?
Please guide me..
Thank you sir.
Saira Banu
14 August 2018 at 09:37
Muslim wife left 2 kids 10 and 12 yrs old and ran away taking all jewels and her certificates to her parents home in 2010. Husband was living with wife and 2 kids for 15 years abroad and had no job after returning from abroad and was forced to take care of the 2 kids without job. Husband married another woman to take care of the kids after the kids pleaded their mother to return and informed her that father will marry if she doesnt return. Husband's mother and friends helped in educating his children and has a huge debt to pay them. Wife filed for divorce in 2016 to marry her lover. Currently in the Draft Issues stage in court. Wife working in school since 2010 and enjoying her life alone. Husband wants ACCOUNTABILITY on the part of wife for neglecting the kids future, dessertion, cruelty, failing in matrimonial duties towards husband and kids etc. Husband is willing to give divorce on following conditions:
1. Return the husband's jewels given at the time of marriage
2. Pay the school fees of children from 2010 to 2018 or Disown the children if not willing to pay
3. Wife's father to pay back loan given by husband's mother for the wife's neice marriage.
Husband hopes for a judgement keeping in view whether his kids should be married if the judgement will favour the wife without making her accountable. What will be the judge's decision if the husband does not sign the divorce if the conditions above are not met.
Please advise.
Manikandan
13 August 2018 at 22:25
I am a widower and I would like to marry divorcee.We have proper document but both family not accept our decision. So we would like to do our marriage in temple and Register our marriage. Unfortunately no temple was accept to do marriage inside temple. I have approach some agent. They were asked more money. So please help me.
Shiv Gawale
13 August 2018 at 21:43
Sir,
Me & my wife stay separately from last 7 years. In between she had filed dowry case (498A) in May 2016. Till date I have not received any type of samans, my lawyer told me about this case but my lawyer got information not on time. In between court decide a judgment against me & my family members on the basis of several reminders from court but no response from our side so, court order to arrest me and my family members. Actually I have not received samans or any type information regarding this case it may be intestinally hide by my wife & her lawyer.
As per my lawyer said me regarding this case I have filed reconsideration appeal (397) with reference to Supreme Court appeal no. 1265/2017 Rajendra Sharma vs Utter pardesh regarding guideline and misuse of 498A. But honorable court refuse my appeal, reason is no such type of guideline received as on date and reference case of Chandra dev vs prakash chadra \ghosh A.I.R. 1963 S.C. 1430 and Nageshwar Tiwari A.I.R. 2010 S.C. 2261 honorable high court matter is “where there was prima facie evidence. The Magistrate was bound to issue process and even though the person charged of an offence in the complaint might have a defense, the matter has to be left to be decided by an appropriate forum at an appropriate stage. It was further held that the issue of process can be refused only when the Magistrate finds that the evidence led by the complainant is self contradictory or intrinsically untrustworthy”.
My query is Can without any evidence filed 498A and what is the procedure of close down this case?
On my knowledge any type of order by Honorable Supreme Court to follow all the court for the date of judgment or order so, why family court not follows the guideline of Honorable Supreme Court in this case?
What is the revision procedure filed in session court?
Also guide me on what basis I have go to high court?
Dharmesh
13 August 2018 at 13:52
Hi ..My case is going in Vadodara since 2015 for 498a and DV.
Can i apply for Quashing of 498a and DV .
Thanks
Dharmesh
Anonymous
13 August 2018 at 06:47
Hello Sir, I'm the groom.
Few months back my parents found a bride in Matrimony portal on January 2018 [resident of Bangalore, & origin is Tamil].
Our engagement happened on April 2018. [We wanted a family girl who doesn't work. Luckily she was 1 year free after completing her graduation and was jobless.]
Some background History :
From the beginning [till engagement] the father of the bride was not actively speaking with my parents or me.
Only her mother used to interact. She speaks to me over the phone often [Takes more time than Bride over phone].
I respect my elders, so I can't cut the call abruptly, so , I kept listening to all her conversations.
But, She always speaks bad about her Husband's family. How they tortured her. How they tried to stop her marriage.
She always praises about erself on how as a single woman she brought up her daughter.
One fine day before engagement the below conversation happened :
Bride's Mom : I want my daughter to work. She doesn't have value for work & money.
Me : We wanted a girl who doesn't work and take care of family very well.
Bride's Mom : Yes. I know. But, she should understand the importance of money and how difficult it is outside.
Also, she wants to clear her education loan by herself.
Me : She graduated a year back. Why she hasn't found a job all these time.
Bride's Mom : According to her horoscope her time is not good. Now she has good time to get even a stable Govt. Jobs as well.
Me : But Aunty, I don't want my wife to work. Are you asking her to work for educational loan alone ? If so i can take care of the loan.
Bride's Mom : No no. It will be very bad for me to put the loan on groom, I will never do that. I asked you only for her to realize the importance of money.
And the hardships we face to earn it. If you are not happy let's leave this topic.
After Engagement [Father started to get along well after engagement] :
My Fiance suddenly calls me and say's, I need to work. I got a notice. To pay educational loan.
I asked, we agreed that you won't work right ? Why suddenly you are changing the plan ?
She said, even you agreed to pay the educational loan.
I was confused. I'm in middle of office work and she was very nervous.
I don't remember signing a stamp paper to anyone that I'll bear it.
Still, I'm kind hearted. I asked her to calm down and said, "Please ask you parents to pay minimum emi at least. After marriage I'll pay the balance.
I never refused. I just told, I can't give you any money before marriage. My parents won't be happy. After , marriage I'll pay it.
She was blackmailing, If you trust me then pay now. Else police will catch me. I need to goto work.
I directly told, Inform my parents about this.
After a while, her father called me. Asking that i only agreed to pay the loan. And conversation went on This way.
From this day my life is messed up. I was called as cheater and faker for not paying the loan. They have our gold ornaments worth 1.5 Lakhs [that we gave for engagement] and still call me as cheater.
From that date till now lot's of cheap things they started to do. Lot's of meaningless arguments. I can't resist. They try to pull my mount. They Irritate me during sleep.
I NEED AN EXPERT ADVISE HERE.
I HAVE MANY MORE DATA TO ADD BUT THE DATA IS SOO HUGE THAT ILL END UP WRITTING A LITTLE BOOK IN THIS PORTAL
Please help me in correct direction. What they can do next. How I can protect myself from these kind of scams.
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