Vijay Patil
19 August 2018 at 12:05
sir/madam,
since my grandfather's time (1963) our family is settled in rajasthan but our ancestral village is in maharasthra. We fall in obc category in both maharashtra and rajasthan.
My father's paternal cousin's son has got his obc certificate so can i use reference of his obc certificate to get mine here in rajasthan and what's the procedure to do so ?
Please help
Abhinav
18 August 2018 at 22:10
My marriage happened through online matrimonial site, the girl family concealed her medical condition and given us her false detail regarding age and employment. The girl is diagnosed with Epilepsy and she is born in different month and i am not sure of her employment either but before marriage she said she is working as a govt employee.When I recovered the truth the girl’s family simply told me that if you do not accept we will put you under various cases. Now being influential they have put me under false DV case, what should I do? Girl lives with her parents in different state and we only lived as couple for 35 days only on a span of 5 months.
Now i have applied for divorce in my State, but the girl had also applied for the divorce in her State , district but after i have filed for divorce . As both divorce cases can not continue simultaneously, which divorce case will run. Do i have to inform the the girls court regarding divorce filed by me. How to do that
Kamranmulla
18 August 2018 at 14:33
I got married on June 30, 2018 it was arrange marriage; She is the cousin of my sister-in-law.
Summary:
The engagement happened in the month of November 2017 wherein sister-in-law exchanged numbers; my work location was Saudi hence we started talking and chatting on what�s app during all the conversation she confirm me her future plans and how she will stay after marriage she had promised me she will be understanding partner after marriage and used to send me videos and photos of her house hold work and cooking habits. Her family and She was assured me that she knows all house hold work and a good cook, and wish to be a good house wife.
In the discussion of engagement we learnt that girl is pursing MBA, me and my family declared and confirm marriage only after her studies are completed. Through the mutual discussion with both families it was decided to keep marriage in December 2018. During my interview of her parent and relative its was informed to them that due to present situation of Saudi groom (I) will leaving the Job and will settle in India.
All of a sudden her parents started showing so much of urgency in keeping marriage early try to dominate us. We tried to explain them that it is too early and we require time to prepare, even we request and scheduled a meeting at their location. In the meeting we again tried to convince them that let girl complete her study and till us also get the time to prepare. We also requested her family that girl finish her exams and give her some time of own to understand responsibilities as marriage is bigger step in life. Her parents then came up saying exams will be finish in may itself and they want to keep marriage after Ramadan to which we again clarified will her exams be finish they said yes and everything will be completed .They forced us to keep marriage on June 30th 2018 since they were too pushy we agreed I applied for leaves which were rejected so for marriage I resigned and came back to our country in May .The girl family demanded us to be present from 26 June since they want perform some rituals we agreed booked tickets and also return tickets sent both to them which included brides ticket while returning they acknowledged it as well .
We reached there on 27th June evening the bride�s mother came to us and said we will not be able to send the bride after nikah as her last vivah is balance and scheduled for 4th July we were shocked told them we had specified while agreeing to date of marriage her exams are finished to which they said yes now how all of sudden this vivah came in to the picture and if it was balance what was the need of hurrying so much for marriage it could have been scheduled after Vivah as well as far as leaving bride and going is concerned we cannot allow this as after nikah it should be on her husband�s concern whether or not she should be staying here and as far as exams go we will see what we could do and when you guys knew the Vivah is balance why kept mum even after looking at the return tickets we had already shared with you guys well in advance a week back why were we not informed why this was kept complete secret and brought like a shock to us .Her mom after listening to this left from there .
One more shock is that they have expressed that after Nikah bride and me will stay in hotel and were dropped in a hotel without our consent we allowed as they were too pushy and adamant .we were dropped there in night at 3.30AM and the brides brothers came in the morning to pick her .they took the bride to her parents� house not even bothering to ask me or my parents and by keeping me waiting in the cab outside their house .I was neither invited nor given glass of water I was later on dropped on a road nearby the hotel wherein my family self-arranged for their stay .Then after reception of our side my wife insisted she wants to be dropped to her parents� house for getting ready for mumbai to which I agreed and dropped her to parents house .Our leaving time was informed her I called up 2 hours prior to leaving time and requested her join . A shocking answered received from her, she disagreed to join us for matrimonial and informed is that she would stay until her exams are over here only, even though I promised her that it�s my responsibility to do arrangement for her exam and insisted as its not good to stay after marriage like this to which she kept on repeating the same statement in hindi it goes like this �main nahi Aaogi Nahi aaongi main nahi Aaongi nahi Aaongi �after which myself and mom went to girls parent house to convince them to send the bride along her parents refused to send her stating her study will be affected and they don�t want to send her so with most disappointment me and mother expressed our feelings�It is so disheartening the girl after marriage is not ready to accompany groom first day of marriage at our house � and left from there .after Coming back to mumbai we kept on waiting neither the girl nor her parents called or messaged about her exams they kept mum 10 days passed no info and after one fine evening all of a sudden to our surprise we were in receipt of ticket send by her and said that she is coming to mumbai. We were surprised by this type of act however still welcomed her and picked her from the airport .The girl from day one started acting over smart her way of living completely came as contrast from what she portrayed she was not able to perform any obligation of wife and it looked from her she wasn�t ready for marriage and parents forced her into it .If I ask for a cup of tea she used to fight and angrily come to hit me .I had performed my obligation of providing a shelter comfort and food. She was only had interest in going out and staying at home at all it was not even two days of her staying in home .She never used to care of listen of anyone at home in my absence she used to go down in buildings garden alone and talk to someone for hours even she didn�t give her ears on my objection .after week again her parents asked her to come stating the date of exams have been released as per her request I booked flight tickets from my expense and dropped her to airport as I was not getting leaves from work .after she left from house only once she called and messaged and after she stopped messaging or calling her parents were least bothered from the start only .after week a messaged her asking her how she is and how were the exams instead of replying to that she started fighting and arguing after this the call from her stopped and her mother called up my mom stating whats the issue my mom said very politely when there no issue or problem why you guys insisting there is one we don�t have any problems .after this for week no call no message and suddenly one day her mother called 10 times and mentioned in a message I was out with some work so couldn�t answer as I had forgotten the phone at home .I replied politely her mother read the message but didn�t reply for a week she again called on working day Monday while I was driving and called only twice and she was mentioning about problem and was asking us to come to Hyderabad all the way from mumbai to their house I replied politely y couldn�t pickup call and why they didn�t try calling on Saturday or Sunday I also meniotned we never called and told them we have a problem they are the only one finding issues so if they have issues they should only come and sit unnecessarily keeping bride at their house they are making issues then for a week again her mother didn�t respond and then directly she messaged asking y we were not answering call to which I replied she was blaming her daughter has completed all the obligations to which I replied with correction I replied and ever since there no response from them I am mentally getting harassed by this and wanna end this marriage what should I do
Amit
18 August 2018 at 08:11
Kindly advice that if maintenance under HMA 24 is being decided for application filed by wife in divorce case filed by husband & later if husband withdraw divorce case then will that maintenance will also stop & wat reason to be given to court to withdraw case if OP want to contest it on merits
Kamal
16 August 2018 at 13:57
Good Day Experts,
Myself Kamal Triloksingh settled in Virar Maharashtra for the last 30 years. All my documents, house etc. are in the same name.
However my parents had named me Kunwarjit and the 'Kisan bahi' in my village(Pauri Garhwal) bear the name 'Kunwarjit'.
I now wish to return to my village. Kindly advise what should be done to change the name in 'Kisan bahi', because when I submitted my aadhar etc. there was great confusion. There are no issues from my brothers, relatives etc., only the different name is creating issues.
Thanks for reading my question.
ANURAG
15 August 2018 at 19:38
Only 2 months have past of marriage and all sorts of compromises failed to protect marriage.NO registration of marriage has been done and both parties readily agree for quick separation for their future prospects as both are almost overage.Marriage is not consummated and bride is confident to prove that she is untouched(Virgin). She alleges that ceremony was done forcefully(emotional blackmail) and had married earlier with someone at Hindu temple but with little proof. Can we file the case of annulment on the ground forceful marriage, bigamy as it is second marriage? Second party(husband) have no objection and looking cooperative for ex parte decision in order to Avoid next long 18 months wait for mutual consent. Please guide in this matter for robust way of liberating both lives? Thanks again.
Anonymous
15 August 2018 at 13:45
How to cancel engagement legally 5 months before marriage ?
Bride's family behave cheap. We have no demands.
We Asked for simple marriage. Engagement over. Simple and cheapest engagement ever seen. Only engagement expense for bride was food and photo. [Not even worth 50k]
We spent [dont want to mention amount] for gold/saree and gave to bride.
Similarly, giving mental pressure to do a cheap marriage as well. We dont want grand marriage, but, they dont discuss with parents about their incapabilities. They tactically say some bits and pieces to me and later inform my parents that i agreed for things, making me Bakra. Bride's family tries to put financial burden on us as well.
On retaliation for above tactics, they complain against us and blaming us. Gives mental pressure.
They can't point out 1 single mistake against us. They say generic statements. No proof.
And Bride's family is cunning & keeping quiet; waiting for us to cancel/take decision. Not willing to talk also.
I'm sure, If I marry her, they will apply for divorce later and demand more money. Spoiling my life.
Please help me on cancelling this engagement.
Anonymous
14 August 2018 at 23:27
After 3 years of separation with my wife i had filed a divorce case against my wife. i got divorce decree after 1 year as she did not attend court and became a ex-parte . later she filed high court case to nullify divorce case she won that case ,verdict was given in just 2 months as my lawyer also joined with her after taking huge sum of money from me.
Now judgement is case is disposed in high court and given to family court for fresh hearing. here my time my money is all lost with no results . law always favours women . she dosent want to stay with me and wants me to suffer,but in court she said she does not want divorce
What can i do? i have hard time trusting lawyers .. all lawyers are not bad . but iam kind of stuck should i withdraw case or pursue case. i dont want to waste time and money again.
simran
14 August 2018 at 18:40
Hello everyone,
I have a situation here and really need tome genuine support and guidance with my current marriage. Let me give you a background in multiple paragraphs since it too complicated for me now. . I come from decent north Indian family where parents have always given us traditional and modern values . But my husband if from Bihar where his whole extended family has directly indirectly taken dowry for their sons. My husband and I met through a matrimonial site an and when we started talking he made me believe that his thinking is not like his extended family and very much believes in respect and equality of everyone.
We got engaged and my husband asked me to invest in a house where we can start living as soon as we get married. I got excited and emotional and hence invested (say he invested 8 lkh and I gave 6 lkh , also 50% emi I give every month and I am the co-owner as well ). but then I noticed a bit of change in his behavior as he asked me money for our honeymoon ( out of 1.6lkh to be spent, he asked me to pay 1 lkh) , which I didnot like since our marriage was about to happen in few months and already i had put my savings in the house. Then too I thought that may be he needs support right now, I was able to give him 50k for the honeymoon.
After we got married, he told me that my family did not give them any thing in tilak and took them for granted and gave nothing like TV , fridge etc ( which as per me is dowry) and fought with me on this. I wasnt able to tell this to anyone because it was hardly a week I as married to him. Then I overheard him telling his uncles that the house we bought has only been bough by him and his dad ( which made me very sad and angry since I had invested all my savings for our house and his family was trying to hide it) .
In parallel, since we had decided that after marriage we will try to move abroad for job and will respect who ever gets it first the other one will come along and try to search the job. By God's grace I got the job first and we decided to move abroad and he also got a job in the meanwhile before we moved to the new place. While we were in India I was handling all the household things , maid etc and he handled just the rent. I tried to help because I thought he would be short of money since we both would have had some responsibilities in our wedding arrangement/shopping etc. But then suddenly he tole me that the about 1 lk of money which I gave him ( out of 6lkh ) for the house , he used to pay his credit card bill for his wedding expenses. This was again alarming for me and we argued and he pointed again that my family did not give them anything .
After a month of time, both of us moved abroad with new jobs where I earn slight more than him .He started asking me money to handle every expense of house saying I have taken some debt from friends and need to return them so you can handle at times the whole expenses . Also he started saying that he needs to save money for his sister's wedding and needs to send some money to his parents and help them buy a home ( which was never told to me before wedding as he had mentioned that everyone is independent and no one is dependent on him). This was alarming for me as he even asked me that for our home we would have to take possession in the coming year and he would need money from me (which was nvr decided between us when we purchased the house. We again argued and he kept on saying your family did not give anything and took us for granted. I was shocked to see his behavior. Then he started forcing me to put min 50% of contributions in all the expenditures and mentally torturing me about the dowry thingy directly indirectly. I do not know what shall I do right now.
I am terrified that what he might have his mind and hence I had reduced giving money for household things after all what happened soon after marriage. But because of so many heated arguments I am trying to put all the efforts to make things right and agreed o give 50% of the total household expenses( rent, travel, food, grocery etc) but then he keeps on making new issues every day, for example saying that you do not give me proper food, he keeps on saying that since you earn more you should give more in everything, as per him I should not think of helping my parents as my inlaws should be my priority, he also says I left India because of you and I do not like my job( though I told him we can go back whenever you want etc). He is also now trying to sell the house we bought (though we do not have the possession yet) but since I mentioned to him that the registration/possession money is something he has to handle he got furious and said that its better we sell it. This is all mental torture to me and I cannot discuss with my parents . Even his parents keep on referring to there other daughter inlaws that they gave this much of dowry or artifacts etc.
Lot of things are verbal communication between us which even if I want to proof in future I might not be able to . But the fact is it is completely a mental torture and I do not know what should I be legally able to do in future if he makes the situation worst.
Sorry its a long post , but I would really appreciate a genuine response and guidance.
© 2026 LAWyersclubindia.com. Let us grow stronger by mutual exchange of knowledge.
Maintenance for kid
Respected Sir,
main ap sabhi se ye janna chahti hu k agar husband apni wife aur 2 sal k bachhe ko chhor de.tb kya krna chahiye.maine aur mere husband ne 07.05.2014 ko love marriage ki.mujhe huband kabhi sasural ni le gaye.wo bihar se hai aur main kanpur se.hmara ek beta hai.abhi 2.6 year ka hai.husband bahar rahte hai job perpose se.january 2018 me unhone ye kah kar chhor diya k main dur rah kr demand puri karunga.but tere pas ni rahunga
rahi bat rahne ki to itna batna kafi hai k mera beta apne pita ko pahchanta nahi hai.4 month ka tha jb job k karan bahar gaye.Dec-15 me hua tha beta .tb se lekr aj tk 4 tym aaye wo.last time sep-17 me aaye they.meri koi job ni h .mummy papa ki financially condition thik ni hai.bache ka admission mama ne karaya hai.
mujhe apne liye kuch ni chahiye kya bete ke prati bhi koi farj nahi hai ?????
please reply