Adive on divorce
Zakir Ali Khan
(Querist) 27 June 2013
This query is : Resolved
My arranged marriage took place on 17th September 2011 , My in law has told us that my wife knows cooking , can handle the house independently and will live in joint family
We are 5 people , My mother , 3 younger brothers , 1 sister
After marriage it was known that she doesn’t knows cooking ,and avoid household working citing illness
She doesn’t take interest in learning cooking , and doesn’t talk to my mother and sister . stays alone in the room and chats with her sisters and mother over phone all the day
On complaining to her mother . she ignore the issue and support her
During the period of 1 year she has stayed more than 8 month in her mother house citing illness , Family function . She wants to stay separately near her mother house . Which I cannot as I have to look after my mother, sister and brothers
My Mother suffers from Arthiritis , In absence of my wife , my sister takes cares of cooking and house hold work , she is not willing to marry as she is worried about my mother and us
Her relatives are threatening to go to the court
Since last 1 year she is in her mother house . Now I or no one in my family want her back and i want divorce so what are the steps i should take? pls help me
Also i would like to ask what are the steps i should take to be on a safer side
Adv Archana Deshmukh
(Expert) 27 June 2013
Send some relatives to her house and try to resolve the issue amicably. If not possible, then convince her for MCD.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 27 June 2013
Try to settle the issues amicably as advised by the expert Adv. Archana ji. She should be told that life may not be so much easy and as per one's wish even after separation. Some adjustment has to be made always. Why not now?
Moreover, you should try to adjust some more period. Your sister should not refuse marriage due to this. Another life would spoil due to non adjusting nature of your wife.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 28 June 2013
let her continue to stay in her mother house . if she dosent want to return dont force her . dont take first step for divorce . she may retailate by filing false cases of DV / 49A against you and your family members . just keep on talking to her telephonically and ask her to return . get your sister married . once your sisters are married and she realsies you are staying alone with your mother she may return or ask for divorce
ajay sethi
(Expert) 28 June 2013
it appears you have 3 younger brothers too . you can make an offer to your wife that you are willing to stay separate if she learns cooking . you can stay in rented place near your family .
Zakir Ali Khan
(Querist) 28 June 2013
I thank for all the valuable replies given to me. Would like to know if she is going to court what will be penalty imposed on me.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 30 June 2013
If she approached to the court then she can get maintenance allowance and a separate rented accommodation at your expenses.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 30 June 2013
ALL ADVICES ARE OKAY HOWEVER AS A MUSLIM DIVORCE WOULD NOT BE A PROBLEM IF IT BECOMES INEVITABLE AS YOU CAN DO SO WITH HELP OF A QAZI AND DULY COMMUNICATING IT TO HER.
