Being punished for nothing
Sanjay
(Querist) 12 July 2011
This query is : Resolved
Sir, In my company i met a girl, she approached me and proposed me i first denied then later i also agreed , we got to know each other, she loved me lot, just in a month she took me the bed, she paid the money from her debit card and booked the room in the Hotel i have proofs for that, later we also got intimated several times, after few months when her old friend came to her, she started avoiding me and said she doesn't want to see me, i didn't know that time that she has found someone else and as we are in the same company and same office, and i was trying to carry the relationship so she has complained abut me to HR taking just a personal matter to her said that i took her phone for few minutes. now in front of her she has told that now she doesn't want to be in contact with me anymore. now she is telling all my friends and colleagues that i was after her and i used to harass her, torture her and she told them that i used to say to her i could not live without her. she is just defaming me. what should i do. she used me, cheated me and now she is just destroying me in all respects. she played with my mind , money, and now i am in trauma and feeling very suicidal ( i mean it , trust me). I am shattered and lost. what should i do.? please help me. i have proofs that she slept with me like she paid herself and took me to the hotel and all mails she wrote and messages she sent to me. what to do.
R.Ramachandran
(Expert) 13 July 2011
Just forget and carry on with your life. There is no point (whether you are serious, or joking) in thinking in terms of sucide etc.
Darshan Shah / 09892727182
(Expert) 13 July 2011
If she is defaming you warn her not to and in spite of that if she continues then show all the proofs to your seniors and colleagues.
Guest
(Expert) 13 July 2011
Dear Sanjay,
Don't be insane for her. It is quite clear, she used you and passed her time until she found another person for her pastime. If you show such a fancy for her and she is propagating against you, her intention must be to blackmail you at some time to extract money from you. Her own spending on you was just a feed for the bird to catch in the net. She may also be under some compulsion to deny any relationship with you. So, better understand the position.
FORGET ABOUT THE PAST RELATIONSHIP, IF SHE DOES NOT WANT YOUR COMPANY ANY MORE. Rest depends upon you and your sensible behaviour.
Sanjay
(Querist) 13 July 2011
thanks .. Ramchandran, Darshan shah and P S Dhingra sir for your value able advices.
yesterday i talked to her friend, he told me that she has told him about me like i was very possessive for her and was not letting her to talk to anybody else, was harassing her. All these things are literally not true.
But now if someone came up with any such things telling me, i would tell and show them the truth.
but just want to ask if i show won't there be any problem for me na ? like if she says that i approach her and asked her for all the things.. ?
Arun Kumar Bhagat
(Expert) 17 July 2011
Close the chapter otherwise you may fall into big trap. Your admission of live-in-relationship for a brief period will go against you and you shall have to fulfill her all legal demands prescribed in PWDV Act.
