Sex on the false pretext of marriage

vrinda (Querist) 03 July 2013 This query is : Resolved
one of my patient was in a relationship with a boy and they had sex on the promise of marriage from the boy.the boy even introduced the girl to his family and he assured her that they liked her and have no objections for marriage. but now the boy got some other marriage proposal and after that he started avoiding the girl and when she counter questioned him that why did he had sex with her on the pretext of marriage and now why isn't he taking a stand, he said that he has told his family about their physical relationship and his family says that you don't have to worry about her as she is a girl she wont take any action against you since doing that may jeopardise her and her family reputation. when the girl told about this to her family, instead of supporting her they asked her to shut the matter.the girl feels sexually exploited and helpless at present as she is looked down by his own family members. what can be done in such a case? also I would like to raise a question here, why even after so much awareness and education there is still no space for a female to take any action upfrontly against such fraud as she is afraid that by doing so she may jeopardise her reputation? she lost her virginity that will affect her future relationship, why only she is the sufferer? the boy didn't took a stand and exploited her sexually on the promise of marriage but still living a very dignified life. what kind of justice is this? is it the laws or our society's mind set? at present what can the girl do?

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Dr. Jyothi Vishwanath (Expert) 03 July 2013
Social issues raised in this question. The society's mindset is like this. But one question also arises, why did the girl agree for such relationship even on the promise of marriage. Now no use going to court and making a big issue out of this.
Even if the boy is legally forced to marry her, will she be happy?
If he totally refuses to marry her and even if gives her some compensation for breaking of promise, is that she wants?
Better is to forget that boy and be careful in future and settle properly as per family wishes.