Emotionaly blackmailing
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Anonymous
(Querist) 26 August 2011
This query is : Resolved
Respected Sir,
Sir, i am facing a very bad problem, i have this girl who is emotinally blackmailing me to get married or else she will suicide and will put blame on me for the consuquence, acutaly i loved this girl we are in relationship since 8-9 mths, now from last 1 month and even earlier to she is behavin so madly with me that she gives me very bad words and insults me i have proof too with her msgs and voice recording where she threatens me and tell me if i dnt get married or dnt follow her she wil kill herself and wil put blame on me will destroy me and my family and says that i time passed with her which i never did and was ready to marry her too but according to good time. i even talked with her mother too but instead she started insulting me and said to stay away from her daughter and said if something happens to her she will not spare me like both mom and daughter are emotionaly blackmailing me. these girl has lost her sister some 3 years back due to suicide and they blamed some boys for this who are now facing court hearing. she wants me i should be under her and be get dominated from her, because of this im following whatever she's saying because of all this im totally gettin into depression.
i know law favours only women and i am a man i am just sacred to do anything, i just want somebody to give counselling to her and her family, or if something happens to her or her family i'l be blamed and i will loose my life and career and my parents which i dont want. Sir i am facing this situation very badly, not a single day i or my parents have lived peacefuly. i dnt want to escalate this things among my parents who are old. if u can recomemd me what to do and how to do things i will apreciate sincerly. i am writing this for a good hope and help from you to save our lives, i dont want to fall on this thinkin my problem made my problem.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 26 August 2011
1) you have been in a relation ship with girl for 9 months . did you make any promise of marriage? did you send her any sms promising her marriage? any letters to that effect?
2)you have said you have proof of her sms wherin she has threatened that she will commit sucide if you end the relation ship
3) consult a physchiatrist . take her to doctor get her medically examined if possible .
4) if medical reports show that she is suffering from mental illness it may help you .
5) loadge a complaint aginst her in local police station after you receive medical report
Querist :
Anonymous
(Querist) 26 August 2011
Yes i made promise of marriage to her and even send her msg to but she dnt have that msg she has deleted it from her cell and no letters, yes i have proof of voice recording and sms. what if she dnt come to a physchiatrist?
ajay sethi
(Expert) 26 August 2011
if you have made promise of marriage to her you are in trouble . if she complains to cops the cops can charge you with rape . you have said she has deleted those messages but she may have kept some of them . in addtion cops can write to service provider to furnish deatils of your various telephonic conversations .
do not ignore her . try to reconcile with her . tell her for our future together you must see a psychiatrist
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 26 August 2011
If no physical relations were developed during your 'love-season' then there is no big problem for you in totally ignoring her. if any person wants to commit suicide, none can do anything. You can report complaint against her in concerned police station for blackmailing you.
Shastri J.K.
(Expert) 26 August 2011
I agree with mr. raj kumar makkad
