Kapdawala
12 May 2012 at 19:51
I have been going through a rough patch in my life. After marriage 2 years ago, my wife and I had lots of arguments within the first 6 months. I had just left my job and was jobless but doing freelance work. My wife was not working. At a point the arguments became so bad that we threatened to divorce each other. Unknown to us, my parents under the guise of family research got my and my wife psychologically tested. At the time my mother was behaving very badly with my wife. We were forced to go to a counsellor. I was given medication. I got a job, was working but my parents kept pressurizing me through the counsellor to leave the house. In frustration I finally moved out with my wife. We stayed together for a year, but things were difficult. We continued to have our arguments. My wife finally got a job and is working. She is also enrolled in an MBA program. I left my job in an NGO 7 months back. Was very emotionally disturbed in life. Not understanding the direction and what job to do. Financial insecurity and anxiety troubles. My wife earns 12000 and I would now get a job of 40000. We moved back to our parents home 3 months back. I moved in 7 months back. My parents have been forcing me to go to a psychologist, take medicine and counselling. My dad has Parkinson's disease and according to me is emotionally empty. He watches 3 - 4 times a day. My mother is filled with hatred towards my grandmother. They are supportive, but my father is a little crazy. He keeps insisting that unless I leave the house I will not learn anything. I am an engineer and have studied rural management. I left a well paying IT job to pursue my interests and passions. I taught in a school and worked in NGO, but have realized on my own that this will not run my family. I am now looking to switch back to IT. However I feel threatened and emotionally anxious about two situations - The moment I get a stable job, my parents will again start pressurizing me to leave the house. We are well to do with a 2000+ sqft house in Juhu. My sister got married 3 months ago. In my marriage I insisted on a simple marriage in the house itself. By nature I am a simple person. I am intelligent and hard working. I enjoy peoples company and care for others. Essentially my personality and thoughts differ from those of my parents. Neither my wife or I trouble my parents in any way like threatening them, abusing or torture. We are both busy in our own lives. I do not want to take medication all my life or keep going to a counsellor because my father will feel I am becoming okay. But if I resist then they will keep pressurizing. I am in a very difficult situation. I want to know if my parents can legally evict my wife and myself from the house. I want to focus on my career and make my marriage work. My wife and I both are loving people and want to live as a family in our house looking after my parents in their old age. I feel my parents have gotten it in their head that I am after their money or will become dependant on them. In their anxiety they are going totally crazy and pushy. The household atmosphere has stopped being normal. My father writes weird letters and tries to prove to me that there is something wrong in my thinking. I have no response to these. If I keep silent then I am labelled dominant, if I protest I am creating a bad environment. Unfortunately I am not sure this situation will improve. I have to deal with it. But at the moment I do know that there is actually nothing wrong with me. The only problem is that I had not anticipated such turn of events in life. I had often wanted to go abroad to study, but my parents kept telling me that family means to stay together. The problem with me is that at all times I really trusted and believed in my parents. I am very obedient in that ways and help out my parents in all ways. But my father is quite pushy and often inconvineinces the entire house with his projects. He is unable to move and walk properly. He is perverted and cannot be left alone. My mom has to be following him 24 hours.
Realizing the future trouble I just want to focus on my work and get some sort of financial independence from my parents and stability in career. But I am afraid my parents will untimely try to accelerate that process thereby causing more harm. If I know that legally they cannot evict me then for the next 3 years my wife and I can focus on stabilizing ourselves and then by choice move out. The anxiety caused by their threats would cease to cause mental anxiety.
I honestly do not want any part of their money. But am unable to get them to sanity. The house atmosphere is unloving and uncaring. No one talks, laughs or anything. My father is in his own world and my mom is left frustrated which she takes out on me and my wife. I just want to know if I should get too mentally anxious about being evicted. I know that at the moment I cannot be independent and there is nothing wrong with me just because I think this way.
There are millions of families in which children live with their parents. There is nothing mentally wrong with such children. It is just a clash of my parents expectations from me with my own personality.
I often feel frustrated and drained by it. I know my parents will not change. If I can focus on my work, then after 3 years my wife and I can move to her parents home. I am trying to figure out how to prepare the ground for the future, but my parents keep hurrying me along. It is then my mind stops working and I feel incompetent.
I sometimes think if I declare my self depressed then my wifes responsibility will fall upon my parents and they will be unable to evict us. I do not want it that way it helps no one. So what are the possible way out for me.
My parents are constantly a step ahead of me. Instead of worrying about them if I focus on my work then I will be successful. What should I actually worry about.
Sapandeep k
12 May 2012 at 17:02
Sir - My sister is suffering from a complex personality disorder which is evident from her behavior but hasn't been certified by a doctor as she never visits one. She is normal otherwise but sometimes her mood fluctuations make her aggressive, abusive & violent.
She recently had a divorce & is now living with my mother & her daughter at my mothers home. Her behavior sometimes becomes so violent that she physically abuses her daughter which is 8 years old & did physically abused my mother too 2 days back.
She is a danger to my mother, her daughter & herself too & is not in control of anyone. She appears normal to most people in general but me & my family knows that her behavior is so strange which can not be of a normal person.
What is the legal route i can take to safeguard my mother & my sister's daughter from her?
Regards
SK
JOTHIKUMARAN
12 May 2012 at 16:50
Dear Sir,
My neighbour friend married a girl and living a peaceful life. But his mother-in-law is living seperately in a village.She does not have any income. She is married to a man and raised two daughter who are now at the age of 33 & 27 (Both are married).
Her husband is having a illegal relationship with a lady from the year 2000. He raised a boy baby(Age 10) from her and living with her. Recently my friend's mother in law husband retired from the Indian Civil Service and got good amount of money.
Now her husband is not giving her any amount. 6 months before her husband came to her house to take photograph togother to claim money from the Government for the retirement. He said to her that if he produce the Joined Photograph to the Govt. he would be able to get the retirement amount and he will give her the share.
But he had cheated her and not given any penny of amount to her. He had bought land, vehicle and given some money to his relatives.
Does my mother in law has legal rights to claim for his pension money from her husband? Does the daughters has legal rights to claim the pension of their father?If so, how to claim and where to claim?How many days it will take to get her claims? Their family is very much worried and mentally disturbed.
I request you to kindly advise for this issue. Thank you.
Ashish Gautam
12 May 2012 at 13:56
Hi All,
I want your expert advice in one of the concern.
I need a divorce from my wife.
Wherein I have received a bond paper from wife side in which she has signed the copy and I have also signed the copy and given one copy to them and kept one copy.
wanted to know what is the procedure to file that bond paper in court.
Thanks
sasha
12 May 2012 at 13:41
i have been strruglling for two years for my maintainance.my husband is in merchant navy.july last year the court granted me the maintainance or 30,000 rupees per month .i had to put 128 to get my money .my husband gave me the maintainance of 8 months that too in installments from his mothers account .now he has stopped giving maintainance .two times conditional warrants hav been issued but mother says son is not at home.
he has changed his passport ,his company and his bank account .property also he has transferred.i dont know what to do.he is in foreign shipping.i have got two kids who are studying in school.is there any light in this case or he will be escaping like this only .if any plz suggest.is there any way that i can trace him
sasha
12 May 2012 at 13:32
i was married to an engineer in korea .at the time of my marriage my husband was not divorced .we went to korea and my marriage was registered there.my husband was brutal to me .he used to beat me up and i hav the proof of it as well.two years back i came back from korea with my son . i never went back .
about 4 months back i started the case of maintainance .nobody till date has appeared in the court .insted he has sent me divorce papers from korea . i hav no idea wat to do .i hav no money to fight my case in korea. he wants my son . he has not even seen my son for last two years neither he has supported him .tell me wat to do.
Gulfam
12 May 2012 at 12:03
I have enough evidence to prove my innocence.
1. Letter written by her before leaving home.
2. Call conversation recording.
3. Proof of presence in organization of the day she mentioned in her FIR.
4. Speed post and Registry receipt of letter i sent her to call her back.
Plz guide me.
I am Muslim and marriage was according to Muslim Personal Law.
Arvind Singh Chauhan
12 May 2012 at 08:44
Sir,
In 125 trial, I raised objection in court that neither husband nor wife resides or resided within district.
My objection was dismissed as I could not prove that, wife is residing in another district. But during the hearing of application for interim maintenance, wife submitted some documents which shows she is residing in another district.
Whether issue of jurisdiction can be raised again at this stage ?
Shantanu Wavhal
12 May 2012 at 01:50
is a case-law of a particular state's HC (any HC all over India) binding on all the district courts (i.e. district court a in different state ?)
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