Wife cheated, reconciled now threatens with false police complaints
Vishal
(Querist) 21 February 2016
This query is : Resolved
Dear Experts,
I got married in 2004 (love marriage), in 2007 a male child was born out of the wedlock.
Wife had a dominating and nagging nature and she never got along with her parents or siblings. Life wasn't easy with her and ignored her tantrums to maintain peace and harmony at home.
In 2012 she had an affair with the landlord's son, upon discovering the same tried to make her understand that it's wrong and the following ensued:
1. She became defiant that whatever she is doing is right.
2. Everything gone bad is my fault.
3. She continued the illicit relationship unabated.
4. Upon suggesting seperation 8 months after discovery of affair she attempted suicide (took 10 saridon tabs, only to threaten me and shut me up.
5. Changed residence hoping it'll help but March 2013 she ran off with the child from school.
6. I filed a divorce case at Gurgaon.
7. Case filed by her at women cell saying I had beaten her up and threw her and the child out of the house.
8. At Women cell Gurgaon it was agreed that I will provide stuff for her and the child which I had packed and kept at the stairs.
9. She came with a 17" truck and broke the lock of the house, ransacked the house. I called police but could not have her arrested since the child was with her.
11. 5 days later she left the child with me and returned all stuff and left.
12. Exparte divorce granted in Dec 2013.
13. Feb 2013 she appeals in court saying she did not receive notice.
14. During this time, numerous bogus complaints were filed against me at various police stations in Delhi NCR (gurgaon & ghaziabad)
15.The magistrate asked us to start meeting so that we could iron out differences.
16. We were sent to reconciliation which failed.
17. Visiting rights were granted in March 2013 by a lok adalat.It was agreed there that she and I will stay seperate and custody of the child will remain with me, She will meet him in my presence on weekends. (my lawyer did not tell me it was a lok adalat, had to change lawyer post that.)During this period my job changed and I moved to Ghaziabad from Gurgaon.
18. She was well behaved and all nagging and her affair was gone as I was made to believe. In the interest of the child I decided to stay together in Dec'2014. Hereby giving our life another chance.
19. She moved back with me in Jan 2015. Post which she again started to show her old self.
20. she doesn't take care of the child, does no household chores.
21. There have been numerous fights between us. In sep 2015, my job changed back to gurgaon where she also works. She has been fighting with me to move to gurgaon, which I did not want since have spent so much on court battles and the child is 8.5 years have to think of him and I need to make a base somewhere and start savings.Also, cost of living in gurgaon is higher than that of living in Ghaziabad.
22. I had a servant who was taking care of the child and home all this while. In the absence of servants I was responsible for all chores right from sending son to school to making lunch for him and all the other stuff.
23. On 14 Feb,2016 she put an allegation on the servant that he saw her while she was bathing.
24. The servant was asked to go, she also went to gurgaon to her friend's place post that to seek peace for herself without thinking how will I manage without servant.
25.took me 3 days to manage without servant and had to do lot of convincing for the servant to return on 18 Feb 2016.
26. She returned the same day and I told the servant to not do anything for her thinking that she might say that he has laced her food. She was supposed to be cooking for herself.
27. She called the police at 9 pm alleging that am beating her up, not giving her food and throwing her out of the house.The police came, explained everything in detail. They asked us to report to the station the next day.
28. The next morning got late in going to the thana, she called the police again, they came and took the servant who was asked to go without any action against him.
29. Now she wants the child to be sent to the hostel and then she will seperate. else she will not.
30. She wants 25 lacs for the harrassment me and my son have gone through.
31. Doesn't listen to anyone has company of few lawyers who are apparently encouraging her.
32. My inlaws although support me they are helpless. The same behaviour was with my mother in law before marraige. She had even attempted suicide earlier.
- Have all the proofs of her illicit relation.
- recorded conversations between me and my inlaws outlining her wrong doings and plannings to harrass me.
- Anyone from my inlaws coming to support me are threatened by her of the same fate as me.
Request advise to get rid of this henpecked life.
Thank you
Vishal
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Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 21 February 2016
Do not support this illegal demand.
If your wife has become wayward and adulterous then there is no meaning to keep this relationship.
Ask for mutual divorce on amicable terms. if it is done then go for it.
Else file contested suit of divorce on the grounds you have mentioned.
Even if she files criminal case you should find no difficulty to get bail and eventual acquittal.
Adv. Yogen Kakade
(Expert) 21 February 2016
You have sufficient ground to go for divorce petition.. if your wife doesn't get ready for mutual consent divorce. Appoint a good lawyer to proceed.
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Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 21 February 2016
It seems there is no other alternate but to move for divorce in the given situation. Try for Mutual consent divorce.
Guest
(Expert) 21 February 2016
Well advised.
