How to proceed for divorce?
Amisha
(Querist) 05 December 2015
This query is : Resolved
Dear Team,
I just wanted to know how to proceed for divorce? My case history is as below:
I met with a boy in 2013 via shaadi.com, we both date eachother. My family was not agree from our marriage so we got an arya samaj marriage in Nov 2013. Boys family were present at our marriage but they haven't give their acknowledgement at the certificate.
After my marriage, i felt that the boy got married from my money, as i left my job and got my PF & FNF which was approx a lakh amount.. That amount i gave to my family before my marriage.. When my husband knew he was shouted on me and abused me.. later on in our relationship money is the only matter where we were fighted.. from the day of marriage i am spending all my salary in my in laws.. Now i got pregnant and my husband knew that my father had an LIC on my name which was approx 35lakhs will be cashing this Dec 2015. Everytime my husband ask when the policy get cash.. I want to buy a car, want to spend their.. i clearly told them that i will not invest a single peny from that.. apart from that due to some financial crisis i owed few credit.. which i was not able to pay... Now i am getting maternity exp. from my company of approx 50k.. instead of that my husband is asking to spend my salary in unnecessary exp..
And blame me that i have not seen that thing before our marriage.. as i have a sister and my mother to whom i have to take care but due to my husband i am not able to look after them.
Please help me.. how can i get divorce and my financial condition is not too good.. i want peaceful settlement as we all are female in my family. And my husband gets very hyper and start abusing me and some time he hit me. He tried to get suicide before our marriage, that's why i got married to him.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 05 December 2015
U have not mentioned what does he do for a living? So he is living to eat,but not eat to live.
Amisha
(Querist) 05 December 2015
What do you want to ask? He's also working and earn good. I just want to get separate from him.
Guest
(Expert) 05 December 2015
Better Discuss with Seniors/Elders of both the Families and Go For Mutual Consent Divorce which would be Completed in 6 months Time.Consult a local good advocate.
Ksreddyacs
(Expert) 05 December 2015
Discuss this with your elders(both sides)..Then think about diverse..
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 06 December 2015
WHERE ARE YOU LIVING.
He will not agree for divorce unless called in thana with parents.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 06 December 2015
Try to have amicable settlement and try to save marriage.
If not possible explore scope for mutual consent divorce.
Do not bear any physical abuse, lodge police complaint if he does so.
K.S.Srinivas
(Expert) 10 December 2015
First go for mutual consent divorce.
If he is not agreeing, then go for contested divorce.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate 
(Expert) 13 December 2015
Before filing a divorce on the grounds of cruelty you should lodge a complaint with the police for dowry harassment and get him to the police station after which you can file the divorce case under MCD or on the grounds of cruelty.
Amisha
(Querist) 14 December 2015
I only want to get seperated from him..as their family also dont care about him.. As my husband is adopted from the relatives and they have only 4 sisters... I went to inlaws a day prior, nor my mother in law offer me for water, food etc.. in my absence they investigate all my room and almirah.. They hasn't give any good sanskaar to him.. i am staying in my mummy's house from last 1 month, as i am expecting for my 1st baby as well.. from that time when ever i called to my husband or told him to come and meet..
Amisha
(Querist) 14 December 2015
After that he came and attend my calls after to many calls.. Some time when i didn't call him.. he has no liability to call me or ask about my health and etc.. he came when he need some thing in term of cash etc.. Now i have decided after my delivery i will go for divorce.. Please suggest the expenses and how to do the documentations for that.. and how i get seperated from him easily.. i do not want to demand any kind of alimony nor any compensation, as i knew He will not able to fulfill that thing... Please help me out.
K.S.Srinivas
(Expert) 14 December 2015
Go for Mutual Consent Divorce. In my view it is better.
