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Anonymous
(Querist) 26 October 2011
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my husband & in-laws had left me at my parents home since past 6 months my father have several times tried to contact my husband & in-laws to take me back bt in vain.on top of that without any fault from my side in-laws have sent me a notice making fake allegations about me & my family.after that also several times i & my family members have asked them to come & take me back but they are completely denying it.some times in a blue moon day husband calls me & asks me to come and meet him some where outside but if i say him come at home & take me back he starts sulking.please help as i am confused what exactly he is upto???
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Anonymous
(Querist) 26 October 2011
my husband & in-laws had left me at my parents home since past 6 months my father have several times tried to contact my husband & in-laws to take me back bt in vain.on top of that without any fault from my side in-laws have sent me a notice making fake allegations about me & my family.after that also several times i & my family members have asked them to come & take me back but they are completely denying it.some times in a blue moon day husband calls me & asks me to come and meet him some where outside but if i say him come at home & take me back he starts sulking.please help as i am confused what exactly he is upto???
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 26 October 2011
Go and meet him. Discuss things with him.
Don't take any bullshit from him though of false allegations.
Try to sort the matters amicably, otherwise be prepared for legal battles.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
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Anonymous
(Querist) 26 October 2011
discussions are only talks for him as wahtever he commits or says he never does it, only for time being he says things which i like he claims that he cares for me but has never made me feel like that he is a very cunning person.if really he have being feeling for me & marriage he would have come to my parents,assure them that things would be better in future but he has never come to my parents.he & his family wants me & my parents to apologise them as we are girl's side.he is a sweetest cutter i have seen in my whole life.
Darshan Shah / 09892727182
(Expert) 26 October 2011
Everything depends upon you, first of all you need to be clear what you want and depending on that you can take action.
Sanjeev
(Expert) 26 October 2011
@ Anonymous- when you ask your husband to come and take you back do you mean what you say or just say that whats the harm in meeting your husband other than at your home. Things cant work the way you want if he is making the first step you should have met him and discussed how you want to go forward.
If you have such feelings in mind as he is cunning etc than there is no point asking him to come home and take you. Will you be able to go with him if he comes home.
Its your marriage and you are grown up and sometimes you have to take independent steps to move further.
Husbands dont like to sort issues with your parents he did not marry your parents. Extra involvement of parents destroy marriages. If you cant meet a person you married alone and expect some foulplay than sorry forget it that your marriage can be restored. Parents are nobody to solve your issues. Thinking from husbands prospective no husband would like to speak to girls parents in such circumstances.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 26 October 2011
sanjeev i think u didnt read my query properly & posting your comments just for the sake of it i have clearly written he has sent me a legal notice & made fake & cheap allegations on me,& one more thing i have not run away & married him, at the time of marriage he had come to my parents to talk about it now he doesnt need my parents how do u justify that?? i am not a kid that why i very well understand how it feels when without reason you are thrown out of house & when people dont get anything to say they start losing there dignity as my husband & in-laws are doing.extra involment of parents destory marriages this is applicable for boys also.i have stayed with him & i only know what kind of trauma,mental & physical harrasment,torchure i have gone through.so just typing something n being biased towards boys wont be called a good human being.try to be fair & unbiased if u post something & plz read the queries properly.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 26 October 2011
The legal notice sent by your husband is nothing but to show his malafide if you further initiate any legal action against him and his family members. It is merit-less and has no value in the eyes of law.
Now you decide which way to go. You have legal right to file 498A/406 IPC FIR, DW Act, maintenance allowance but relations shall definitely become strange whereas efforts for settlement can also be done.
Arun Kumar Bhagat
(Expert) 27 October 2011
When there are so many defects like cunning, sweet cutter etc. in the husband then it is better to severe the bond by adopting legal proceedings as advised by Mr. Makkad hereinabove.There is no guarantee that after conciliation the husband will change his nature and character.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 27 October 2011
thanks makkad ji & bhagat ji for ur valuable suggestions.i am not understanding,why he wants to be sweet with me when he himself has started the legal battle if things could have been sorted out by discussion.also when my parents & relatives went to in-laws, in-laws have clearly mentioned we dont want her here anymore,at that time he was present & just nodding his head to what his parents were saying.also pls explain me about 406 IPC FIR & DW act.
thanks
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 27 October 2011
ONLY SPOUSES KNOW HOW TO SAIL A
MARRIAGE BOAT, IF THINGS ARE BEYOND
YOUR TOLERANCE,SEVERAL RIGHTS ARE
THERE IN YOUR HAND SUCH AS 498a,DV
ACT,DIVORCE MAINTENANCE,ETC.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 27 October 2011
QUERY CLOSE N MY POST HAPPENED SIMULTANEOUSLY.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 27 October 2011
f your husband is not coming forward then legal recourse as suggested so that he may be realised the value of human being especially Ardhangini.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 28 October 2011
thanks makkad ji very well said...could u pls tell me about 406 IPC FIR,as i know very little about it.
thanks
