Cheating
geet
(Querist) 13 March 2012
This query is : Resolved
Hi ...
I never thought in my wildest dreams that i would be here. I would be glad if you all can suggest and show me a right way. Am a MBA graduate and working woman. I have been seeing a guy from past 3 years.this is just like fairy tale which has come to an end. He did commit to me that he will marry me and made me meet his parents and they did took care of me aswel no complaints. his dad was not quite happy with me however my guy promised me that he will convince everyone and it would be fine soon. His dad use to call me and check whether their son is with me or not. I mean it was a very happy family put together. My parents passed away am one and only child & self independent financially.I dont know what happened when i went out of town on a family occasion for two days ans i fell sick and hospitalized. Just before that v guys fought which is common in any relationship and this is wasnt a our first fight so far.my cousins tried reaching him a trillion times he dint take the call neither replied to my msgs, however my bade mamma called his father and said that am not keeping well and whats happening with ur guy can u ask him to call, surprisingly his father said " i dont know which girl you are talking about , lot of girls come to my house and why r u bothering us , let her die, we dont care" . Since then my guys all the numbers r switched off. i tried reaching his brother and his father not taking my call, however i sent him a email apologizing on my cousin behalf calling him at that time and asked his son to call back and i cant live without him. I havnt got reply yet. Am worried is he fine...r something wrong at home??i tried my evry single resource but dint work. After my parents passed away he is my only world nd i dnt have much friends to seek help from. I really love him and he loves me too..his father not letting me talk to him at all...i dont know what to do my life is not something to use for three long years and just dump it..i want the truth to come out is there a way that i can legally approach by not harming their image in society?. for three years we did live like wife and husband and i did get aborted once, which v never disclosed to anyone...Please help he i lost my parents and i cannot afford to loose him at any cost. My guy loves his father and nd he listens to him all the time is it some kind of emotional blackmail? am scred to take any step bcz in their family very high profiled people r there and they will throw money and get things done. i hope this would not lead to any future threat for me. I feel like killing my self at times. all our friends circle and family relatives knows that v were seeing each other. I am not able to face the society as i have always lived with pride and self respect. i treat his family as mine i dont want to drag them on streets and i really want to be part of their family not to destroy..please advise...
ajay sethi
(Expert) 13 March 2012
did you have physical relationship?
it appears that your boy friend is not interested in continuing relationship with you . since he refuses to answer your calls and his family is also not interested forget him .
you are well qualified MBA and must be doing well in your career . concentrate on your work . time is a great healer .
legally if you were in a relation ship and your fiancee had pormised to marry you and has subseqnetly backed out you cn afile police complaint against him . police will carry out investigations and may book him for rape . you must have sufficent evidence to prove that relationship was entered into under promise of marriage
geet
(Querist) 13 March 2012
Yes we had physical relationship for 3 years. and in 3 years his phone was never switched off. yes he did promised my family members that he will get married and all our friends cousins know it. infact after my trip we are about make our elders sit and do the talking . i have all the photographs with their family friends and cousins with us..our private trips and stff as well. From he beginning i have been telling him if doesnt work lets live apart but he dint do that and was aways stuck to one thing that he will convince his father.he never changed his words so far...I do understand time will heal everything but i would not be able to move on nd fool around a man nd get married nd wipe sins off..the way we check the background of a grl before getting married obviously they will check mine and am 100 % sure that they will get to know as its not something which was hidden from society neither i would not hide...todays world if i tel my future husband that i have slept vth a man for three years they just walk away...my life has been destroyed completely...
ajay sethi
(Expert) 13 March 2012
any emails? any sms? any letters?
geet
(Querist) 13 March 2012
sms r there no letters...i never thought this would happen evr so coudnt keep a track..but few r there and if i get my phone records sms details by filing fir everything would be crystal clear...
ajay sethi
(Expert) 13 March 2012
if in sms he has made commitment of marriage then you may have a case. but it would be advisable to forget and forgive .
do you want to waste your time runnin around courts ?
Deepak Nair
(Expert) 13 March 2012
By reading the entire sourse of incidents, it appears that your guy himself is not interested in you. Otherwise he would have contacted you by this time.
Here, he is avoiding your calls and his family members too are not respondig to your calls and approaches.
Thus, as advised by Mr.Sethi, it is better to move ahead and live a fresh life.
There are people who supports and encourages pre-marital sex. But, these are the aftermaths of such relationships. The girl loses everything and then gets thrown away. That leads to many further inpleasant incidents.
Anyways, if you have proof of promise of marriage along with witnesses, then you can file a case for rape and sexual abuse by promising to marry.
geet
(Querist) 13 March 2012
well i have filed a case...i belong to cops family nd my father's friends r now posted in same city...thanx alot
Deepak Nair
(Expert) 14 March 2012
Well done.
good to know that you have initiated actions unlike those girls who suffer in silence.
Anyway, you are form a police family. That is obviously an added advantage.
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 14 March 2012
Hmmm,
Now that you have already taken action. Nothing is left to be added.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
