Mental harrasment
Guest
(Querist) 05 December 2011
This query is : Resolved
my in laws made my life hell. i am gold medalist doctor currently doing my internship.
i lost my carrier and job. all because of my in laws. me and my wife marry each other secretly in mandir and registered it but due to my in laws influence we keepit secret they promice us that they will make our social marriage in front of society in this december 2011 but they just make us fool my parents go to their home in this august and complete the procedure for which have to do for marriage means date fixation and all that.
but my inlaws have different plan they brainwash my wife keeping her attheir place away from and brake all contact and they all ways provoked me for verbal fight on phone and record it as evidence. and in anger i send some sms which have some bad words against her.
by this record they pressures me tosign on divorce petition and attempt first motion also her mama is saying that he will complain against me for physical harassment. as he have some friends who are dysp. i am now thinking of doing sucide because i lost my love and my family everything.
what should i do?
ajay sethi
(Expert) 05 December 2011
your parents have spent lakhs in making you a doctor and you married against your parents wishes . now you want to commit suicide just because of your wife ditching you .
if your in laws want you to divorce your wife sign mutual divorce petition and obtain divorce by mutual consent . move o n in life .
you are a gold medallist doctor you will find many girls wanting to marry you . you will be an eligible bachelor
M/s. Y-not legal services
(Expert) 05 December 2011
proceed as per your wish.,
"do suicide"
when you get thinking to commit suicide, you became as waste to your family, as well as to our nation., your coward should be get ends with you.,
in this case your lady not that much worth that to do suicide for her., even if you be fool more mean then commit suicide., dont be wasting your time.,
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 05 December 2011
Dear Doctor,
First of all, do you know what you want in life?
Unless you know what you want, no one can help you.
If you want divorce, the door is open for you.
However, if you want to bring her back, because of love and affection, which you think would be reciprocated. Fight by filing RCR (Though file only if you have genuine desire). And not get bogged down by threats and all.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
Sailesh Kumar Shah
(Expert) 05 December 2011
I suggest you to follow right advise of Mr.Ajay Sethi.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 05 December 2011
First decide whether you want this relationship or not.
If yes then come back here so necessary advice could be given.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 05 December 2011
I feel proud to read you are a Gold medalist
Doctor.A treasure of nation as a doctor.
I want to know what has been your objective in life?.Why you studied? was their some aim in you which has driven you up to this stage?
Have you completed that objective?
Is your life really your's?
Can you justify your depression??
Are you justified in your decision of suicide as doctor who takes oath to struggle to save lives by treating patient??.
Are you justified in giving up your life for a kind of such girl whose commitment is not strong,and she has been brain washed??
Does it convey her love for you??
Is it a love that can go for life long which has stood washed in few months??
These are question you need not answer us.But certainly you need to ask your self.
Life is not only bread and butter.Life is not only wife or our own children,or our parents.The duties of an educated person as a citizen of a nation are manifold.
At this juncture you need to think WHY AT ALL YOU ARE BORN?HAS GOD SOME PURPOSE TO SEND YOU HERE WITH BESTOWING SO MUCH INTELLECT???DO YOU HAVE SOME RIGHT TO FINISH YOUR LIFE WHICH IS NOT YOUR CREATURE.ALL WILL GO.ME YOU AND EVERY
BODY.CALL SHALL COME. THEN MEAN WHILE DO THE DUTY FOR WHICH GOD HAS SENT YOU.THERE IS NO POINT IN FRUSTRATING FOR A THING THAT IS NOT THE TRUTH.
Awareness is the greatest tool we should have!What ever you do ,know what are you doing.
Guest
(Querist) 05 December 2011
thanks for reply sir
i just want my wife back. i made one mistake that my junior doctor is fall in love with me
i tell her that i am married so she call to my wife and tell that we love each other and all that stuff and in this period i am busy in my internship and job so much that i cant give proper time to my wife and my inlaws take advantage of this matter also record the calls of that girl.
but god promise i dont do anything with that other girl as iknow my responsibility of being married person.
but i want my love back as we are in relation of almost 8 yrs.so sir please give me proper advice to save my marriage.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 05 December 2011
you have disclosed new facts now . its a love triangle .
dont agree for divorce if you want your wife back .make an application for RCR
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 05 December 2011
Is the girl you married is of not your cast??? and that is the reason her parents are opposed to it???
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 05 December 2011
Is the girl you married is of not your cast??? and that is the reason her parents are opposed to it???
Guest
(Querist) 05 December 2011
the girl is of my cast and the reason is her parents ego.
even my family have strong financial and social background.
but her mom dont like me as we do court marriage they allways challange me for verbal fight as they record my calls .
they also told me every time that i blackmailed her to marry me.
i dont know what to do?
as they are now blackmailing me for divorce on behalf of this tapes. can i challanged this tape?
ajay sethi
(Expert) 05 December 2011
frankly if her parents dont like you there will always be problems in the marriage . your mother in law will constantly interfere in your affairs . unless your wife is able to withstand their pressure you will always face problems .
the problem with you is with every new reply from experts you suddenly add new twists to your story . the new love interest in your life , the famous tapes have not been doisclosed earlier .
my advice to you is contact a local lawyer
Guest
(Querist) 05 December 2011
sir i allready told about tapes sir can i mak them false?
as they provoked me?
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 06 December 2011
No, whatever you stated can not be denied, as the repurcussions would be worse.
Graciously accept your mistakes if any and also if provocation was made, it would be part of the contemporaneous record, so you need not worry.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 06 December 2011
Sorry missed about your willingness to bring her back. If it is a genuine desire, then fear not and file for RCR based on true facts. That is the real purpose of RCR.
If you are frightened of other counter cases, then the desire is not very strong and you wait and watch how things pan out.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
Guest
(Querist) 06 December 2011
thanks shonee sir today i called her mama for mediation but he threaten me for physical harassment complaint against me . he also say that he will use his contact in police and arrest me for 11 days with third degree.
what should i do?
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 30 January 2012
Surprise?
You call it a marriage which you did not have couraage to anounce to society.
You call her wife who go brainwashed?
You do not feel lucky of getting rid of her so easily and at such less a price?
Even if you do not like (today) but Mr Ajy Sethi is right.
