Compromise in Women Cell
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Anonymous
(Querist) 15 June 2011
This query is : Resolved
Dear Friends,
Please help me in this matter.
My wife tried to hurtself but was unsucessful as I was present there. Then I called Doctor to examine her. But she got angry when doctor arrived and went to police station (This advice was given by her father earlier). There she complaint that my family tortures her & I dont care for her. Police asked her to file complaint in women cell.
Women cell IO heared the case on 1st date and referred the matter for counselling as according to them our marriage can be saved.
AFter attending counselling session I also realised some of my mistakes and ahe also realised her mistakes.
We both want to save our marriage as we both love each other but there are some issues as under:
1. I am under fear that she may again to try to hurt herself as she is quite impatience and lose her temper easily. How do I prove that I or my family members have not done anything.
2.She has got good influence of her parents. Due to their interference siutation has become worse as they hear only her side of story. She has habit of telling only her version not her mistakes.
3. I am only son & my mother is widow, she needs my support. It will be very difficult for her if I stay seperately from my mother. It is very difficuult for me also to leave my mother. My wife dont want that I should leave my mother but muy mother is not willing to stay with her due to consistant abuse and fighting from her and her parents also.
4. I came to know that she has alleged various false accusations like dowry demamd and other things in complaint to women cell. She have overstated everything there. It may be under advise of her relatives or advocate.
5. If I want to make any compromise in women cell what precautions I should take to save myself from future problems in case she again fights.
6. Will an undertaking or affidavit from her and my inlaws have any legal validity in case any future problem.
Thanks in advance.
adv. rajeev ( rajoo )
(Expert) 15 June 2011
Taking affidavits, undertakings won't work. You have to convince your wife nicely. Take her to some tour and convince her there.
The reasons for the difference between you and your wife are her parents.
PALNITKAR V.V.
(Expert) 15 June 2011
Once you have decided to stay and live together, both should repose confidence in each other. Both of you should take care of each others feelings, sentiments, needs, problems, apprehensions etc. Try to understand each other with a positive attitude. Do not look at each other with suspicion. discuss the things frankly. Try to please each other. Try to enjoy each and every moment of life. Join hands for happiness.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 15 June 2011
Under the circumstances as mentioned above I do not think that staying again with her together is not far from danger whatever protective means you adopt.
mahendrakumar
(Expert) 16 June 2011
WHILE following the advise of Mr.Palnitkar,keep in touch with a family counsillor,so that an expert monitoring will help you to overcome your problems.
such incidents are increasing in our modern neuclear families, as minor issues get enlarged without interventions of other elders as in the past joint family systems.
Kiran Kumar
(Expert) 16 June 2011
well advised by my Ld. friends, Mr. Palnitkar in particular. It will be a matter of mutual confidence now, otherwise no third person can keep all time vigil upon you.
there can be some temperamental differences but you will have to make adjustments.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 16 June 2011
Mr. Palnitkar v v AND Mr.Mahendrakumar HAVE GIVEN A SERIOUS THOUGHT TO YOUR PROBLEM HAVE EXPRESSED THE BEST.OFTEN NOW A DAYS GIRLS PARENTS' THEMSELVES ARE RUINING THEIR DAUGHTERS MARITAL LIFE AND THIS FACT HAS BEEN ,OF LATE, TAKEN NOTE OF BY OUR APEX COURT TOO.
Jitendar Kumar gupta
(Expert) 16 June 2011
put some condition while executing the compromise which you think that your as well as your mother life will be safe.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 30 June 2011
Dear Sirs,
Thanks for your relevant guidance.
Taking affidavits outside court will not work but there is any other way by which I can protect myself from coming under IPC 304B in case my wife commits suicide in case of future conflicts. Is there is any process that she can give any undertaking in court, so that I could be saved from dowry allegations.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 02 July 2011
Dear All,
Awating for your response.
Thanks
