Love marriage
rajni
(Querist) 27 September 2011
This query is : Resolved
Hello Sir,
I want to discuss my relation with you & if you feel comfortable in answering then plz. Do ASAP.
I am a jaat girl “gotra-olihan” from Haryana & in love with jaat boy “gotra-tewatia”.
Problem is my mother’s gotra before marriage was also Tewatia so I want to know whether we can marry or not.
For yes or no, Specify the reasons also.
Waiting for your prompt reply.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 27 September 2011
you can marry no bar. as long as your not rleated to each other there is no bar . merely because your would be husband is of same gotra as your mother would be no bar for marriage
rajni
(Querist) 27 September 2011
Sir,
I am not getting what you want to say.
Can you Please ellaborate your words
rajni
(Querist) 27 September 2011
Specifically this line-your would be husband is of same gotra as your mother would be
Shailesh Kr. Shah
(Expert) 27 September 2011
solution of query is not provided in law. discuss with senior persons of both family-what to do?
ajay sethi
(Expert) 27 September 2011
i said marriage is no bar . merely because your would be husband is of same gotra as your mother is no bar for marriage
ajay kumar mishra
(Expert) 27 September 2011
There is no bar to get married with a boy who has the same gotra as your mother because your own gotra will be govern by the gotra of your father so your gotra is not similar to your proposed husband.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 27 September 2011
The Hindu Law of which you both are subjects does not prohibits SAGOTRIYA MARRIAGES AT ALL,it prohibits marriage on the ground of SAPINDAS 3degrees ascent to mother side and 5 degree ascent to father side counting from you to upper side.The next prohibition is with regard to degrees of "prohibited relationship" which includes following::
two persons are said to be within the "degrees of prohibited relationship"-
(i) if one is a lineal ascendant of the other; or
(ii) if one was the wife or husband of a lineal ascendant or descendant of the other; or
(iii) if one was the wife of the brother or of the father's or mother's brother or of the grandfather's or grandmother's brother of the other; or
(iv) if the two are brother and sister, uncle and niece, aunt and nephew, or children of brother and sister or of two brothers or of two sisters; Explanation - For the purposes of clauses (f) and (g), relationship includes-
(i) relationship by half or uterine blood as well as by full blood;
(ii) illegitimate blood relationship as well as legitimate;
(iii) relationship by adoption as well as by blood; and all terms of relationship in those clauses shall be construed accordingly.
HENCE YOU CAN GO ON.
Guest
(Expert) 27 September 2011
yes u can move on, i do agree with Adv Prabhakar Sb.
Guest
(Expert) 27 September 2011
I endorse the views of Shri Prabhakar.
jitender pawaria
(Expert) 27 September 2011
According to law there is no bar if you get married with him. but according to custom apka friend aapki sadee ke baad aapki mom ko kya bolega mom ya Bua Kyoki aapke Mama or Apke friend ka ek he gotra hai.
R.Ramachandran
(Expert) 27 September 2011
Dear Mr. Jitender,
After marriage, the queriest's mother's gothra gets changed to that of her husband.
Therefore, after marriage, the husband of the queriest would call her mother as 'mother-in-law' or 'saus'. Why on earth anybody in that situation would call either "mom" or "Bua"? Quite funny.
