Love Marriage
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Anonymous
(Querist) 04 July 2011
This query is : Resolved
I am 24 year old muslim girl, wants to marry an muslim guy (28 year), due to his sub caste my family is not agree for our marriage. we both are self dependent.
Pls give us right suggestion and knoledge of law for the same.
R.Ramachandran
(Expert) 04 July 2011
It may some more time. But have faith in your respective parents and try to convince them that your happiness would lie in marrying the boy/girl whom you like and that any other arrangement would not bring you the happiness. After all, when the caste system is sought to be made a thing of the past in the country, when both of you belong to the same Community, let not the issue of sub-caste be brought in unnecessarily. You both respect the family and that is why you are insisting for their blessings and approval. It is to the credit of the boy that he did not do anything wrong and behind anybody's back. Therefore, the parents have to see reason and accept the proposal and to bless the approve the marriage. Again, as youngsters you may want things to be done at a faster pace, but these issues do take time. If you have the patience, try to convince your parents, talk to the community elders and get a very good marriage performed with the blessing of your family and elders. If in spite of your repeated attempts and pleadings they do not agree, then as mature adults you have to take a decision. There is no legal impediment in both of you getting married. But the honour of the family and the sentiments of the parents do come into play and one should try to respect that. The question posed by you is not quite easy to answer, if only one is torn between the family values and the urge of the youth!
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Anonymous
(Querist) 04 July 2011
Sir,
We have ready to wait, but in now-a-days my family is making pressure on me, they are forcing me to left job even they are doing wrong things like slaping, hard behave.....
All these things are unbearable for me... The guy's family is agree for our marriage but only if my family also get agree.
We both don't want to go against them but situations are making us to go against ....
R.Ramachandran
(Expert) 04 July 2011
I fully appreciate your views and position. Even against those odds, yes, you have to endure some more patience. As already advised, try to seek the elders in the community - they will be able to see reason and be of great help. Since the boy's parents are agreeable, they can approach the community elders. But, never ever give up your job, whatever may be the circumstance.
A V Vishal
(Expert) 04 July 2011
You are both adults and can marry under the Special Marriages Act.
Querist :
Anonymous
(Querist) 04 July 2011
Sir,
Can I take police protaction to continue my Job ?? as my family has stopped me to go outside ??
And also describe me special marriage act how many time it'll take to get marry and if I do NIKAH first then is it possible to take protaction ??
Kiran Kumar
(Expert) 04 July 2011
yes you can seek police protection...
Hon'ble SC in, a case of year 2004, Lata Singh v/s State of UP has held that in such kind of circumstances the parents can severe social ties with the children but can not kill them.
if the police fails to initiate any action or does not provide you any protection then you can approach the High court of your state with appropriate petition as advised by your lawyer.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 04 July 2011
Sir,
If I got marry then my family will definatly go to police for FIR against us, in that case pls suggest us what can we do to save our both family .. ..
Jitendar Kumar gupta
(Expert) 04 July 2011
if yu really want to marry go head and get married but after that take the protection of police for you both lives and property.
R.Ramachandran
(Expert) 04 July 2011
Since both of you are majors, by lodging FIR with police, your parents cannot do any harm to you. Even police cannot take any action on the basis of the FIR since being major, you are entitled to take decision yourself and that action is not illegal. Therefore police cannot do anything to you.
