Life threat from girlfriend's father
Guest
(Querist) 18 April 2012
This query is : Resolved
Hello Everybody,
My name is Arunprakash, im in love with a girl (27), we both working in Singapore. My parents were already shown green signal for our marriage, but my girlfriends father causing problem. He is keep on calling my dad and scolding using bad words,giving life threat to my parents since i'm living singapore. even he set-up one guy to threaten my parents over phone. We traced that number and we found that SIM card belongs to my girl friends father under his address.Also for the past four years he got money from my girlfriend via internet banking and he is refusing the repay those amounts and her jewels as well.How do we proceed legally? please help us.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 18 April 2012
Dear Arun,
You have been keeping on mentioning her as girlfriend but not fiancee.The words make a lot of difference.Well, that both of you are very stubborn and sincere of marrying,proceed with your marriage without any delay and complication.Immediately both of you together give a criminal complaint against the girl's father and other relatives,stating there is a threat to your lives, by these people.Also state that your parents have given consent to the marriage.Mention regarding the threats being received by your parents from thegirl's side.Hope she will side with you without any fear or favour.
Guest
(Querist) 18 April 2012
Dear Sainath,
Thanks for your quick turn around. Sorry, that was my mistake. I and my fiancee both are very stubborn.where i'm supposed to file the complaint? my fiancee's area police station or my home town police station, we both are from two different locations in tamilnadu.Do i need to engage q lawyer or compliant should be good enough?
thanks
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 18 April 2012
File the complaint in the area where you are getting threats.
There is no need to engage a lawyer, just mention the complete facts and lodge a complaint in the nearest Police Station.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
ajay sethi
(Expert) 18 April 2012
your girl friend ought to raise issue with her father . request him via eails not to ask fro any more money . to return her jewels . ina ddtion request him not to threaten your parents .
if this does not work then lodge plice complaint
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 18 April 2012
Dear Arun,
ASk her to issue a legal notice to her father,demanding the money sent and the jewllary given by her.For the money sent records will be available in the bank statements.How was the jewellary given,I mean in what form?If she has the receipts she can demand them also.
Finally I would like to ask one question,Can't the girl's father be mediated and councelled for the marriage?Why not try as a last resort?
Where does the problem actually lie?Do you belong to two different communities,castes or creeds.Is that the reason for the girl's father to behave in such a manner?
PARTHA P BORBORA
(Expert) 18 April 2012
i have a different view - the money given by a daughter to her father can not be treated as loan, perhaps it was given as financial aid or contribution to her family or parents. It should not be claimed by you or your fiancee.
Moreover as both are major you can solemnize your marriage under Special Marriage Act under this Act concent of the guardian or parents is not at all necessary. But if he Again threaten your father, your father may submit an FIR IN THE police station of your Fathers locality.
The best way is to register your marriage under Special Marriage Act as soon as possible.
Guest
(Querist) 18 April 2012
Dear Sainath,
Regarding jewels, she gave all jewels to her parents along with the receipt.
We tried our best through family elder people and friends but it didn't work.
Yes, we both are from different castes but both families are same in the sense well educated and well settled.
thanks
Sankaranarayanan
(Expert) 18 April 2012
You follow accoding to all experts suggestion. But only one I like to aask that the father got right to get money from his own blood daughter. May be she does not like his approch then stop send money hence forth. Morally that is the bound duty to get moey and spend money. As for as the threating call ask your father to lodge the complaint with full details along with any evidence if any
M/s. Y-not legal services
(Expert) 18 April 2012
he threatening your parents, also he is getting money from your fiancee..
whats your exact problem from the stated above..
for the first one you can lodge police complaint against him.. but for the second issue you can not do anything..
your fiancee have to take necessary steps.. more over he is nothing but to her father., so he can get money from her if she like mean..
am i right?
Guest
(Querist) 18 April 2012
@ tom,partha..
the first problem is threatening. Second problem is the money, initially my fiancee's father said that he'll repay the money given by my fiancee. Basically she helped her brother for his eduction (MBBS) followed by his career. So we believed they'll repay it. but now the things are getting worsen.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 18 April 2012
Dear Arun,
The reason why I mentioned caste was to ascertain,whether that is the reason for the girl's father to deny his consent.
One sincere advice I would like to state is,as you are prepared to marry at any cost,better forget whatever she has given to her parents.If you keep on perstering,that would further escalate the problem.Hence get married as possible.AS far as your parent's harrasment is concerned,ask them to immediately lodge a criminal complaint with the police and if the police are not cooperative,they can even file a private criminal case in the court of law.
BEST OF LUCK
Guest
(Querist) 18 April 2012
Thanks Sainath and everybody.
PARTHA P BORBORA
(Expert) 18 April 2012
if there is only cast problem and if both are major ~ there is the special marriage act to solemnize inter cast marriage. You are a well educated person so handle the situation in a smart way. Register your marriage under special marriage act. It does not required any concent or permission from parents or anybody else.
PARTHA P BORBORA
(Expert) 18 April 2012
just go for a registered special marriage. Good luck bother.
Rajeev Kumar
(Expert) 18 April 2012
Yes i agree with my ld.brother.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 18 April 2012
So you have selected a girl who is stubborn enough that she while not being married will demand money given to her father.
You still expect to be happy in this marrige.
Yiou have selected daughter of a greedy criminal. Even if he is cordial wil fleece you.
You still expect to behappy in this mariage.
Nice thought........
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 18 April 2012
Unless you are married with that girl, you have no legal or moral right to intervene in the financial issues between daughter and her father. You have got no occasion to demand even.
Now come to matter of threatening. These are being made to your parents so they have to lodge it at their own place. You do not indulge in that complaint as the same may change the nature of the understanding of the police which may reflect in their further action.
Your father should be a complainant and meanwhile you do marriage, obtain marriage certificate from Singapore Govt. and send copies of that certificate to your father in law and your family.
Guest
(Querist) 19 April 2012
Hi All,
thanks for the suggestions.
Guest
(Querist) 19 April 2012
Hi All,
will it be helpful if i record the conversation between my dad and my fiancee's dad? Can i use it as a proof?
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 20 April 2012
He has opened an account under the name Arunprakash,and after enough replies immediately deleted his account.
