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Sathish
(Querist) 16 May 2014
This query is : Resolved
Hi Experts, I am in situation where I keep getting harassed and mentally tortured by my wife and her family.. I got married 13 months ago.. But in the recent past from five months when my wife got to know she is pregnant all the dramas started happening... First she started fighting every alternate day for silly things like serial's on TV, if I like any of my friend pic in FB, if I dont keep my shoe back on rack after a tiring day at work, Worst thing if I speak to any of my male colleague.. She just need a reason..Her Sister is like god to her and involved every decision we take at home if it is benefiting them its agreed otherwise fight again, If I raise my voice blackmail will start I ll kill myself and write all your family members name and stuff... I have seen her sister in action where he scared a shit out of onepoor real estate agent for aasking money for the work he did for them by telling I ok file harassment case on him and stuff he ran from that place this happened right in front of my eyes... Coming to my issue I no longer can take this torture of blackmail ing.. She had made me an alien to all my friends andrelatives iI had to listen and keep them at bay cause of this blackmail... Also they made me take loan for 13lakhs to clear their debts.. Which I am paying the EMI they give some part of the money once in blue moon... Now for her pregnancy in five months I had spent around 60k only for her medications, food supplements, consultation's etc... Now they are planning to take her to her place till the delivery and post delivery also for sometime.. For which I have agreed I ll pay 5k every month for her expenses... Still I get mentally tortured everyday recent being to through my younger brother from home... My parents can't come here already that's one big blackmail... Please advise how to get out of this torture even after spending so much going through this emotional turmoil... I am worried now is if I confront them or her for sure they ll file a case against me... They ll do what all possible to get the hell out of me.. I am sure they don't spare ME and my family.. Her mom had already ditched their father for long time and came back to their lives just before our wedding....Please advise on how to prepare myself if I want to file for divorce or how to keep myself and my family safe if they file 498a case against me... I am sure one or other day I have to confront cause I am already under so much stress....
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 16 May 2014
You have two option=
either to cower under threat of of cases and digest all the humiliations silently
or
to protest their actions and take a firm stand.
A fear of case can not let a married life live a normal life.There is no need to worry much about cases. Once you get bail the cases does not have any force.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 16 May 2014
Try for an amicable solution, if not possible face the situation boldly. sooner or later you would have to face the situation, start from now.
Biswanath Roy
(Expert) 17 May 2014
As a husband you must show that you possess he-man personality. By your posture you must show that you do not fear for any odd situation whatever may come or happen and you know how to tackle the adverse condition but as a good and caring husband you are bit lenient to her. Don't take any legal action now.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 17 May 2014
Since she is in the mid of her family way, it is advised to better be as calm as possible and tolerate all her so called tortures and humiliations, because any retaliatory act from your side may affect the child in her womb. there are chances that due to the in fights between you both the child may not develop properly in the womb or there may be a premature problem or the child may take birth with some defect, I mean these are some of the possibilities. She has voluntarily come forward for a temporary relief to you by saying that she will go to her parents place for delivery and has also asserted that she will remain for little more time there after delivery, in my opinion this is going to be relief for you who knows, the child birth may change her mentality too, lets hope for it. Thus for the present, you may adopt to remain silent and endure the things.
Sathish
(Querist) 18 May 2014
Thanks everyone for the guidance... Hope situation gets better... I ll do the wait and watch...
Sathish
(Querist) 28 May 2014
Please advise. It has gone onto a new level.. Where she has removed her mangalsutra.... Nothing she ate from morning... Tried to hang using her Saree twice... Ask of sudden started telling she ll not go to her place... I don't know what to do. . from morning am sitting like watch dog next to her... Please advise.. Her parents again taking her side and calling me wrong..
ajay sethi
(Expert) 28 May 2014
she is only doing tantrums . if she dosent want to eat dont force her . it appears your wife does not want the child . hence she is trying to harass you .if she wants to go to her mother place let her go .
record your wife conversations if necessary . send letter to your in laws pointing out your wife abnormal behaviour . send letter by regd post ad . keep copy for your record
Sathish
(Querist) 21 August 2014
Hi Experts, as I have mentioned above that I have given them somewhere 15 lacs money.. Now there is a situation with them that her Dad's retirement money is gonna come and they have to pay that back me ..but now all new types of drama and tantrums are started somehow to avoid giving the money because they want easy money and no one in their house want to earn...also her sister told me one day that she would file for divorce and stuff.. However another 40 days left for her delivery.. Please advise shall I confront and tell them whatever shit they are doing is not right, will I get some legal help if things go wrong?? How can I secure my job and my family?? Cause I am too depressed and I can't sleep peacefully every alternative day some or the other torture they have become pain in the ass.... My mom too is under depression and under medication please let me know what shall I be doing to get out of this hell....
Sathish
(Querist) 21 August 2014
I heard in some scenarios or some article it will be safe for me to let one regional and national media know about this..also can take anticipatory bail., could I know the procedure and cost for it please... I am too disturbed and I can't concentrate or sleep.. Please help....
