Girl cheated me
Guest
(Querist) 15 December 2012
This query is : Resolved
We were in relationship, but the girl cheated on me. Now i want to tell her parents about our relationship, show them our photos of kissing. I want to hurt her now as her parents will get hurt by hearing all this about their daughter, she will get hurt too.
'I wanted to know' if this can cause harm to me as her parents might lodge a case against me.
I know they can file a case but is there any way to save myself from that.
Help me, any idea because I want to tell at her home, for sure.
They can tell false to police that this guy assaulted our daughter. And the girls have advantage in these types of cases
I'm in the final year of my B.tech, there will be semester exams after 15 days.
Would I be allowed to give my exams.
I have told her father today that I want to marry your daughter but the girl told her father that I'm disturbing her. Her father has told me that dont call to her or me or I will call the police.
Either I would suicide because of all this or I want to give the girl punishment or want to marry her. Help me in chosing one of these 3 paths.
Help me please.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 December 2012
In India Jails are not as rosy and comfortable as shown in the films.
In films the cops role is done either by a comedian or by idealistic hero but in actual life they are what they need to be.
Meet a psychiatrist before being arrested.
Guest
(Querist) 15 December 2012
Sir, can you please help me in choosing one of the 3 paths or anything.
R Trivedi
(Expert) 15 December 2012
Three paths suggested by you are:
Path 1: Suicide: You will not live to see anything. She will feel relieved that good GOD this man is gone. So this is ruled out, don't even think of it.
Path 2: Giving Punishment to her: When two people come together and love that means both have come to equal footing. So you are not right in giving any punishment to her and you will achieve nothing, possibly few years behind the bar and you are alive dead, so this is same as option 1, again ruled out.
Path 3: Marry Her: If this is the path you want to follow then you have not yet understood the meaning of marriage. Love, marriage are full of happiness for others not for self and both of you do not know this yet. So this is also ruled out.
Now I would suggest:
Path 4: Complete your B Tech, put your entire energy in your studies, get into civil services and do something great for needy and unhappy people, see how life becomes beautiful for you. And a good girl full of joy and happiness will come to your life in due course. After a decade or so when you happen to see this girl you will feel happy for both of you, no revenge, no sadness.
It happened with me and after 20 years I am very calm and happy with my wife and kids.
Best Wishes
Guest
(Querist) 15 December 2012
R Trivedi sir,
Is there anything that i can do to live now as i am very stressed n tensed, Exam days are on, last exams of B.tech.
I wanted to punish her because that will give me some relief.
I was going to take some steps in these days but with difficulty i have made my mind that i will not cause any harm to my exams and will do it later on.
What can I do after exams also.?
I know time is a great healer and it will surely make us forget all this.
But i don want to leave the girl who cheated me and left me in circumstances of suicide.
R Trivedi
(Expert) 15 December 2012
Just chill and write your exams, no one in the history has felt relieved by causing harm to others. We are all mortal souls and repentance aspect is very strong after the act. So forget it, lead your life, and you will be surprised once the new girl comes to your life, that what a fool you have been thinking about suicide etc.
Guest
(Querist) 15 December 2012
Thank you for everything sir.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 15 December 2012
Good. Yu seem to have dropped fancy for being jail and receive inhuman kicking by convicts
