harrasment
rani
(Querist) 01 June 2011
This query is : Resolved
i am being harassed by my husband mentally , my daughter has turned eleven, he uses foul and abusive language infront of her.we have had a judicial reconciliation five years back i delhi high courtwhere he had agreed to pay 30 k monthly, he is doing that but his behaviour is getting uglier, he has started abusing infront of neighbours, during our earlier fight in year 2002 and a seperation of four years he quietly moved our present maatrimonial home in my mother in laws name and he also holds another flat in cghs scheme in dwarka, which has pssed cbi inquiry, where he has given the flase addresse of aljpat nagar, for my daughters sake i dont want to start litigation but there seems little choice or scoope for improvement, shall i write to his employer , he holds a criticl job , as he is a commercial pilot or sent him a court notice.our slanging match happens regularly once in two months , he knows that because of our daughter i am not going to court , talking to hi employer will it help, i want to warn him seriously,i sometimes fear for my life.what kind of notice can i send through cort to warn him.
Jitendar Kumar gupta
(Expert) 01 June 2011
you can at least file complaint to the police as well to the national commission for woman and Delhi state women commission stating all the facts. i hope that your problem shall be solved.
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G.Sundara Rajan
(Expert) 01 June 2011
You said your husband was harassing you mentally, but have not said how.
From the description you have given about your slanging matches, it seems that the feelings between you two are very bitter, or may be just that you are over reacting.
As about the flats and cbi enquiry etc...etc.. I dont really see how it is affecting your family life.
Writing to his employer cant help. It will only make things more bitter. And for the fact that you are receving 30k a month, it is only from his salary and if you make his job tough or make him quit, it is only going to make you suffer. Because it seems that you are not working or employed anywhere. In case you are employed then you will not be eligible for the 30K grant which you are receving.
It seems that you are living together and in that case a notice cant help.
You have to exactly describe how and what is manner of mental harassment.
You have described the situation with regard to your opinion, that there is no scope for improvement.
I feel that you should analyse the entire episodes and incidents with a calm and cool frame of mind, without any bias, and in silence.
And then talk it over with your husband.
If you are still not able to live with him, divorce may be the only option, but that is left to you.
Since it is a pure domestic family problem, my strict opinion is that going to the court can only lead to endless bitterness. But even if you have a divorce, you can do so mutually after going through the above step of talking it over.
Parveen Kr. Aggarwal
(Expert) 01 June 2011
You may consider filing a complaint under the provisions of the Domestic Violence Act.
Guest
(Expert) 01 June 2011
Instead of making any complaint to police or writing to the boss of your husband, you may approach the wife of the boss and explain her your plight. Try to get her help to convince her husband to tackle the issue psychologically without making him know about your approach through his wife. I hope, on asking by his wife, the boss can take some investigative steps to learn the happenings and to compel him to behave properly.
