Divorce after 14 years of marriage
nupur
(Querist) 24 September 2012
This query is : Resolved
hello..i have a querry..i have been married for the last 14 years now and as stated earlier i had to file a contested divorce since the other spouse was not ready for a mutual divorce..i was sure he would not go into any legal hassels and i would be granted divorce through exparte..but that didnt happen as he had appointed a good lawyer from his end..the next hearing is on 19th of november 2012..i had stated that am seeking the divorce on grounds of physical and mental torture and inability to live with the man on irreversible grounds..but i had filed the petition withut any proper evidence such as police cases or maintainence..my question is since this case has gone to that extent now what immediate actions do i need to take or rather proofs at this time so that i can be granted the divorce..i am a working lady and is it possible for me to apply for a maintanence..as per my lawyer its late now for me to file a 498 against him..can i do it now? and what else evidences can i gather against him which would help me to get this divorce sooner..i wish to resettle in my life and i am going through tremendous stress in my life..would medical reports of me going thru psychological treatment help me finish off this case soon??
my ex has only one motto now..he says he is not there in my life anymore and vice versa and wont spare me by giving a divorce..he is doing that only for his son who stays with him..so in this scenario what and how do i act to get this case in my favor and get a divorce asap..please help
ajay sethi
(Expert) 24 September 2012
madam
without knowing the averments made in your application it would be difficult to advise . you have mentioned you are working .how much you earn per month? how much is your husband earning? doe she have any dependent parents?
if you are earning well and are highly qualified you may not get maintenance . depends upon your husband life style .
if your husband dosent want to gi ve divorce you have a long messy battle ahead
nupur
(Querist) 05 November 2012
hello., i would like to mention that i earn around 15 thousand per month and my husband earns just the double. he does not have any dependent parents on him . only my son stays with him and he has to pay the maids at home.
i have another hearing on the 19th of this month whereby my ex will be asked to submit his view. i tried talking to him politely asking him to sign the papers instead of going through all the hassels at court. but his only answer is i have lied to him all throughout my life regarding 2 extramarital relationships and since i had kept him in darkness he wont sign the papers at any cost.
my prblm is i didnt want to harm him anyways but wanted a divorce peacefully since i want to resettle in my life and my lawyer filed the case without letting me know tat it wud be useful if i file some cases as 498 against him. i am in a soup now. i know he would go to all his limits to keep this case hanging for as long as he wants but my question is dont i have any way which would trigger this case and make it end?
what should i do now since i know now that he does not want to resolve it peacefully? what should be my next and immediate steps. my ex is a person who is very conscious about his job and this society. he used to abuse me stating that he would take away my job any minute. but as i stated unfortunately i have not registered any case against him. so what should i do now ASAP to put that person in trouble?
it is becoz i have understood he is not a person to talk and resolve things peacefully so if he is upto making my life a hell i want to make it too for him !
i want him to be in a position where he himslef will give up and sign the papers..he had abused me enuf and yes it is true i got married at 19 and he was 32 years old then..so if i had been into relationships it was his fault..he didnt give me the space i wanted be it mentally..physcially or financially..i had to go thur an emergency operation and child birth just becoz he forced me to be physicall with him !
i had been good enuf with him all this years.. but not any more..if he wants to give me pain and keep me hanging i want to know wat the ways now to make his life hell ,,i am going thru trauma and cant lead a normal life..i want him to go thru this too...i have heard female laws are strong so what the laws i can impose on him?
i am sure there must be some way out to resolve this issue at teh earliest..i have kept quite fr long but not anymore..it cant happen again in society where a male can dominate a female as long as he wants!
i want to knw all the possible ways to land that person in trouble and end up signing the papers...pls help
