About child custody
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Anonymous
(Querist) 11 January 2012
This query is : Resolved
Respected Experts,
I am in a very upset mood.I have got relief from you all expressing my worries here.please guide me in this situation also.
I have two sons elder one is 8 years and younger one is three years old.My elder son was very much attached to my husband.Though husband left us for his mistress I took Shared house hold order and now living in the same house but in separate floor.
The step I took not separate my son from his father is now giving lots of sufferings and tensions.My son passes more time with father and in laws than me.That is not the question , I dont have any objection if he likes passing time playing with his cousin who is 3 years older than him.During the time my husband and in-laws brainwashes him against me , so he is becoming uncontrolable for me.he does not hear me at all and all the time he stays with me keeps fighting with his younger brother who likes him very much!Creates tantrum whenever i say him anything.
Yesterday evening husband brought him to my
floor and told my maid to keep him with us as he keeps fighting with his cousin.So he kept playing with my little son.At About 9.30 they took two sticks and keep running here there where chances of accident to any of them were sure, so i took the sticks tactfully.My elder son demanded that if i dont give him the stick then he will not take meal instead he threw all the food from his plate before the younger son who was having his dinner.
I was very angry and slap him fr throwning food .He called shouting his father who came up and took him to their residence .Then came back alone after sometime and fought with me for slapping her.
Now, what should i do if my husband and in-laws brainwashes him and give indulgence to wrong doings of him?
I smsed my husband that if you like and able to keep him in a better way than me, then keep him.I just want him to be a good person in future aand moreover he will be in front of my eyes as we are in the same premises.
Will this sms help him in getting child custody?Is there anything about child-custody while living in shared household?Will i loose my dearest son??
please reply.
Thanks and regards.
Gaury.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 11 January 2012
your son is rebelling against you . he resents the fact that you and your husband are not staying together . you should consult a child psychologist . the fact that he is constantly fighting with hisyounger brother /cousin is to draw attention to him .he knows you and your husband are separated and is trying to play one against other .
you and your husband should also consult a marriage counsellor .
Deepak Nair
(Expert) 11 January 2012
Children learns from their parents.
No legal action can help you in this case. You have to have to sort out the issue tactfully.
Here the issue is winning the heart and not the battle.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 11 January 2012
Thanks.I dont force him in any case except such injurious things.My husband is not willing to live with me and he has extra marital affair.If we live together to give him both parent's love the result is this.If we get sparated then he brings him to stay at in laws place and dont even allow me to talk to him over phone.I am thinking to consult a child psychologist but my husband will not for that because he don't want my son to be gentle with me.What steps should i take so that my husband can't take advantage of that?
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 11 January 2012
Only the your unselfish love and affection to the child can tide over this problem.
Otherwise the same old court complaint needs to be done.
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 11 January 2012
Hi Gaury,
I appreciate your efforts.
However as advised, you should consult a good child psychologist and should engage him more in doing activities which he would enjoy.
Start spending more time with him.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 11 January 2012
The problem is not a little one and shall grow more unless relation between you two becomes normal cool and dispute less for their welfare,to improve that not legal but marriage counselor and child psychologist are needed for desired result.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 12 January 2012
I think this is only humanitarian problem having no relation with law of legal experts. You need to win the confidence of children by showing your in-depth love and affection without any motive. Winning the heart of children is very easy so amend yourself accordingly and entire solution is reserved therein.
Deepak Nair
(Expert) 12 January 2012
Experts have advised you sufficiently. Now it is up to you to take the appropriate action.
