Urgent advice
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Anonymous
(Querist) 16 December 2011
This query is : Resolved
as per expert advice i met my husaband to solve the issue amicably.i told my husband that i want to stay with him,he said dat he will first have to talk to his mother whether to take me back home or not ? he said me that he will give me a call.for which i waited,he called me after about 1 week,suddenly he started calling me a mentally sick person, i got angry on this & said him not to repeat this again.but he continued to call me the same , so just to avoid quarrel i disconected the phone.next day i called him bt he didnt respond & sms me dat i shud apologise in front of my whole family for yesterday's episode.now v r not on talking terms.he is enjoying his life to the fullest.also, i saw his relatives (cousins)wearing my clothes which are still in my matrimonial home,as when my mother in law left me at my parents home i wasnt carrying even a single thing, only the clothes which i was wearing on that day.please help me let me know what can i do as in my absence they are distributing my things to others.
thanks
mahendrakumar
(Expert) 17 December 2011
I think,sharing of clothing articles are very common and only based on that,dont escalate things.
I feel,you should meet a family counselor and discuss these things as seek his/her advise first before thinking any legal remedies.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 17 December 2011
I agree with Mahendra kumar.
Do not agitate the matter.
Keep calm & cool, Do not get angry.
ANGER SPOILS THE RELATION BEYOND REPAIRS. HANDLE CAREFULLY.
Both of you and your Family need interference of few elderly common relatives, to understand and improve your behaviour.
Try to improve relationship. It is always better to bow down for future happiness. Forget about their using your dresses.
Adv Shroff
17-12-2011
Sankaranarayanan
(Expert) 17 December 2011
Both are given u valuable suggestion bcz it is ur life so btr to seek remdy by way of elder of ur family and solve ammicabvly
Sailesh Kumar Shah
(Expert) 17 December 2011
Go ahead as advised by Mr.Mahendra Kumar and Mr. V R Shroff.
Guest
(Expert) 17 December 2011
Take the help of some sensible and experienced mediator, who can help honourable settlement for both of you with the sense of forget and forgive for the past and peaceful living for the future.
But, take care, the mediator should be other than your relative. He can of course be a sensibel relative from the other side, if not a third person.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 17 December 2011
thanks experts for your valuable advice.
i have tried talking to my husband & also my parents talked with my in laws that we can arrange for a meeting, where some elderly persons from both side will discuss so that we can get to some solution,bt all in vain they do not want a meeting,my in laws told my parents if she wants to come,it vil be your on your responsibility,we are not coming for the meeting especially my mother in law & fathar in laws very specifically said that even if me,my relatives & parents go at my in laws home they wont wait at home for the meeting.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 17 December 2011
also the clothes are not common the clothes are my wedding clothes, i am pretty much sure that nobody in this world would allow anyone to use their wedding clothes & jewellery.especially if thing are so much tensed,in my absence how can somone give my things to others ??? officially is this right??
Guest
(Expert) 17 December 2011
You can ask them through notice for return of Streedhan at least till they are not accepting you and send them notice not to use any of your valuable articles/clothings your parents gave to you during wedding.
For mediation, I have already pointed out to take help from a third person (not by contacting personally by you or by your parents).
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 18 December 2011
First decide what you want? Negotiate or settle?
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 19 December 2011
It seems your clothes are more important for you than him .
If so, file DV act, sec 12, get immediate order for return of clothes.
Probably only clothes will remain with you lifetime
ok best of luck.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 20 December 2011
hi mr shroff i respect ur suggestion bt i think u are very impulsive person u didnt read my query properly i cn undertstand u have lots of work to do bt please do not play fool n play with someone emotions by giving this kind of advices.
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 20 December 2011
Calm down dear,
Though Mr. Shroff put it bluntly, he has a valid point.
Jab marriage hi nahi rahi, what is the use of marriage gown?
Don't fret on small stuff, fight for bigger cause.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
