Mental abuse by wife
Anant
(Querist) 27 May 2014
This query is : Resolved
Hello,
I have being married less than a year and my married life is hard hit due to arrogant behavior by my wife, who mentally harasses me and my parents, we tried to talk her politely but she is not in a mood to listen. I her talks she just talks for herself and doesn't even bother other feelings.
When I was sick and was admitted in hospital she was enjoying with her parents and later when I was in my house, she did not even care to look at me, but later she started accusing me of not treating her properly.
Now due to company matters I am onsite, and now she quarrels me on skype and demands "handsome" pocket money for her.
She doesn't take interest in household work but instead stays in bedroom all the day, my mother does all the things...my parents are really fed up and cry when ever I call them.
She openly told me that she doesn't care about my career and wants me to shift to her parent's house instead.
I have left with no option but to think of divorcing her, as she is spreading false images for me and my parents.
Can you please help me on how to proceed with the filing for divorce in this case?
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 27 May 2014
Before going for divorce I would suggest you to give another try to save this marriage.
However if it fails then you can file a suit for divorce on the ground of cruelty perpetrated by your wife.
You need an advocate to draft and file a suit for divorce.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 27 May 2014
Try for amicable solution and save the marriage. You may explore the possibilities to stay separate from your parents with her if situation permits and hopes of solution exist.
Failing you may proceed for divorce, no other alternate but to spoil 5-6 years of life in going to court, facing 3-4 cases including criminal cases against you and your family.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 27 May 2014
Hindu Marriage is performed before all the relatives and friends who witness the marriage. You should call your parents-in-law and their relatives and your relatives to discuss the problems from both sides. I suggest you to make a note of the meeting, and get the signatures of the relatives, your parents and their parents including yourself and your wife. You can discuss thread-bare your problems and seek the assistance of her parents for corrective action. This document will be an evidence for future in case if they contemplate any cases against you and your parents. I do not suggest to live separately away from your parents - it will not work - as the problem is not between your parents and wife, but it is between you and your wife.
You should also think from the girl's angle and correct yourself if she expresses any genuine problem with you or your parents. After this reconciliation also if there is no improvement, consult a local advocate and take his advice for filing divorce, which should be the last resort.
Once you go for divorce, as expert Mr.Rajendra K Goyal told, your valuable time of 4-5 years is lost apart from the money and mental agony. Even if you get the divroce, you will have to pay the maintainance through out the life. With a stigma of divorcee on your face, getting suitable girl if you wish to re-marry, is also difficult.
These are not easy decisions. You have to think very coolly and try to solve the problem instead of landing into another.
Sankaranarayanan
(Expert) 27 May 2014
Try to solve the problem by talk and try to live together.It will make happy to both parents side.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 27 May 2014
visit a marriage counsellor . try to save your marriage . if situation dosent improve file for divorce by mutual consent
K.K.Ganguly
(Expert) 27 May 2014
1. For filing Divorce Suit, you shall have to wait for one year from the date of your marriage,
2. Collect evidence of her cruel behavior viz., letters, emails, SMSs, audio/video recording etc.,
3. After completing one year file Divorce Suit on the ground of cruelty,
4. However, before taking the above advised harsh step, try to settle the difference amicably since Divorce is the second most stressful event in one's life.
Biswanath Roy
(Expert) 27 May 2014
I do endorse the valuable advice of Mr.Malipeddi Jaggarao. Follow his advice.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 29 May 2014
Yes, expert Mr.Malipeddi Jagga Rao has taken pain to render an elaborate advise in the interest of saving the sacred institution of marriage between the author and his wife. There is nothing wrong in having one more round of talks with her, if the said talks also do not materialise for a congenial atmosphere, skip the issue, stay separately from her for a period of six months and maintain dead silence throughout, the time passed in between may procure a desired result or if there appears no change, you may proceed with the drastic decision you have proposed now.
