help me, mark on arm
Guest
(Querist) 05 November 2010
This query is : Resolved
Iam married , from last 5 months. since my marriage lot of problems are going on. Before marriage i told each & everything to my husband about my past present everything. actually when i was in college,5 years back i did a mistake. due to some problem in life i had cut me left arm,nerves,i got 6-7 stiches. so i have the stich marks on my left hand, nerves. I honestly told everything to my husband and married me,but soon after he started critisizing me and abusing me,he disclosed everything to his family and they all started insulting me,now they want divorce from me,and they have complained police that i threaten them that i will committ suicide etc so they don't want me in there house.Actually they have got a point, and i was a kid that time a teenager,around 17 i was not mature, but now i can't even think of taking such action, but now what to do im helpless, does past matters so much??? even my husband tried to committ suicide when he was in school consuming poison,but it doesn't have any mark on hsi body so i can't say that, so please help me. This is unfair, i honestly shared each n evrything to my husband & he has punished me so badly. plz guide me
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 05 November 2010
If your husband does want divorce, he can file a case for that anyway and you can not stop him. But the incident as you hae stated is not so strong to get divorce banking on it alone.
adv. rajeev ( rajoo )
(Expert) 05 November 2010
It is silly act by your husband, get rid of him. Try to convince him, if he didn't divorce him.
s.subramanian
(Expert) 05 November 2010
You are paying the penalty for having been exoraordinarly frank and indiscreet. when things have to this fore,it is better for you to get rid of such a fellow instead of wasting your future with him and subjecting yourself to avoidable mental and physical torture. I agree with Mr.rajoo.
Parthasarathi Loganathan
(Expert) 05 November 2010
It is highly pathetic to learn the situation. Involve all your in-laws and close relatives, apprise these matters and get it resolved within internal sources. If there is no solution, there cannot be a better option than that of our Ld. Subramanian Sir's advice.
Arun Kumar Bhagat
(Expert) 05 November 2010
The adage "Honesty is the best policy" sometimes does not work positively in conjugal life. Try to resolve the issue by family arbitration first, if it does not work then wait for the divorce suit. This can not be the ground for divorce.
Kirti Kar Tripathi
(Expert) 05 November 2010
I think, this problem can be resolved by you alone. whether can can live in these circumstance or not, this has to be decided by you alone. no one can help you accept showing sympathy. thus be bold and take appropriate decision at your own.
Guest
(Querist) 05 November 2010
Thankyou so much for your guidance. yes iam paying for my honesty or rather say my foolish act. No my husband and his whole family thinks the same and they are not supportive. BUt thanx to all of you. gob bless you all. thanx again.
aman kumar
(Expert) 11 November 2010
what is you want ???
