Divorce
Guruprasad
(Querist) 02 April 2017
This query is : Resolved
Hi All,
I am depressed in life from a long fighting between my wife and my mother, also after several years we separated as my parents staying in first floor and we stay in ground floor but now my mother claiming that she need to stay in house and we should go and live outside. My wife is not ready to vacate the house, if i asked her to move out she is shouting on me. My mother didn't come to come from one day as i know that she is staying in my relative s and i am getting calls from all my relatives. Can any one please suggest me that if i go for divorce or stay away from my wife as i have one boy child who is 3 years and my wife is not earning women.
Guest
(Expert) 02 April 2017
Mother and wife are equally respectable and more over now you are a father.Any problem close to our eyes would be seen as very big.Dont ever think of divorce or betrayal of parents. Be cool and handle it with your talents.You could find no human being in this world with out any problem.Take Care and all the best.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 02 April 2017
If you and relatives can counsel wife and mother and ensure harmony in relationship then nothing like it.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 02 April 2017
One Perspective: If parents ( father/Mother) are owner/holder of the property, then they can ask their children to vacate and even proceed to evict................and further can even decline to give any share form it.
If you ( implying you+your wife+children) want to enjoy the property then you all need to live with affection and care.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 02 April 2017
Another Perspective: Take another house on rent and ask your wife to manage within your limited means. End the daily altercations.
Build irrefutable record that establishes you left due to daily altercations of wife/wife forced to separate from aged parents.
Request her to work and earn for betterment of family and children.
Come and meet parents in between, with family.
As a son perform your duty to serve your parents even if you are not staying with them.
As a husband perform your duty towards your family (wife and child) even if you are not staying with parents.
Realizing the loss of coziness and comforts in parents (in law's) home the wife may mend.
Realizing the distance from son and grandchild mother may mend.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 02 April 2017
Another Perspective: If wife has forced husband to separate from aged parents then it is against wife.
However litigation can be stressful, protracted, and costly and OP can also lodge series of complaints against you and family.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 03 April 2017
It will be a very hard situation to balance between wife and other.
This development cannot be a reason for seeking divorce.
For the present you can remain separated from your wife so that she realises your absence and comes down a little and in case she is not amenable then you may decide to proceed as per your plans to dissolve the marriage.
But remember that the problem will not end in divorce alone, it will continue in a different form especially if you remarry and who knows the character of the new incumbent.
For the present patience is the best aproach.
Adv. Yogen Kakade
(Expert) 03 April 2017
Divorce is not the solution for every issue. I think you should take a help of some elders to interfere in this issue and get the solution amicably.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 04 April 2017
You are licencee of your parents in their house where they should (rather must) be allowed to live with peace in their house and not to be disturbed. Avoid unnecessary litigation, harassment, humiliation, loss of love & affection and wastage of money.
Search for some other property for yourself with your wife leave the house for parents despite resistance from your wife.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 04 April 2017
Tread carefully.
Be flexible than being rigid.
Your own role is crucial and all relations: with parents, wife, child (ren), relatives from both sides, and warmth in relations and marriage can be saved.
With careful counseling and time you all can stay together.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 05 April 2017
Thank you Mr. Rajendra K Goyal for agreeing with me.
Guruprasad
(Querist) 06 April 2017
House is in my name where my parents living in first floor and we are living in ground floor . My wife is rejecting to vacate the house and my mother want us to go outside and live in separate house than this. We had another property and sold , i have not taken any share in that money.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 08 April 2017
With careful counseling and time you all can stay together.
Guest
(Expert) 08 April 2017
It is the Right and Legal Place for the Wife to Stay .
