A request for Solution ( Wife's Tortures)
Jayesh Raninga
(Querist) 17 April 2009
This query is : Resolved
Hello all respectable people. This is jayesh here from ahmedabad, india. I have been suffering from my wife's tortures since more than 1 year. I request you to guide me the genuine solution as I feel I m lost and can’t decide what to do further. I have been married since 1 year and suffering from my wife’s tortures. And it is still going on. She has so much anger in herself that she is even not able to control herself, her words, and behaves like an enemy to us. ( Me, My Father and my Mother). She tortures us by behaving very rudely and uses bad language in home. She shouts very loudly and creates a mess in our home. She is aware of the legal benefits which a lady can acquire from our Indian Law. Now the situation is, she has met the lawyer, demands heavy amount of money and blackmails us by saying that she will not go from here and demand huge amount of money. If we not pay her, then she will do case to us 498A and all others step by step which can affect us. In this one year, she has went for 5 times to her home (her father’s) by creating mess in our home. Now she has again came back and tells us everyone that we are asking for dowry to her. When we asked her why she is saying this, she says “now u have to hear all such type of things.” She also tells us that if anything done in the home which is not in favor of her, then she will gather people and create mess. Every now and then, she tells us (Dhamki) for this cases and makes us feel down. As a result we are badly suffering and are not able to focus in our routine life.
As far as I know about the Law, I have came to know from lawyers that most of today’s rules are favoring woman. And If we even file a case against her behavior, or for divorce, it is she who will have all the benefits of law and not us.
I AM SUFFERING FROM A GENUINE TORTURE. I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO FURTHER. BECAUSE OF FEAR, NEITHER I CAN GO TO COMPLAIN AGAINST HER NOR ME AND MY FAMILY CAN BEAR HER TORTURE.
I request you to provide me solution AS SOON AS POSSIBLE as I m unaware of what to do.
Thank You.
Jayesh.
Prof. Dr. Amaresh Kumar
(Expert) 17 April 2009
Dear Jayesh,
After hearing from your end alone will not sufficient to resolve your problem. If your sotry is true to be believed, please get a pen digital camera easily available in the market. Record the same and keep it for proof. In other case you are going to be in grate legal web.
In my way of resolvng your situation it seems that you are not able to fulfill your marital responsibilities. In ohter case no wife is rude with his lovemate. Are you able to satisfy her wish and desire as a man. If not you are suppose to face the same. What ever may be the religious and cultural veil may be every lady wants a satisfied co-habition from his husband. On not being satisfied with this family are bound to be break
adv. rajeev ( rajoo )
(Expert) 17 April 2009
U r in a very critical position. Almost in all cased court is very has got soft corner about the ladies. U better solve the ur problem with the elders who were the elders for your marriage and also sitting with ur wife's family members discuss about the problems what u are faciling and regading behaviours of ur wife u bring it to the notice of ur father and mother in laws and their family members. U can also inform this to ur community elders. Because some times elders will take the responsibility IN my opinion to avoid all the legal consequences it is better to meet the elders of your socieity and ur father and mother in law. Why don't u try to take ur wife to the Doctor for check up by convincing her in a better way. I think she short of something, better consult a good doctor or advisor.
SANJAY DIXIT
(Expert) 26 May 2009
I agree with the views made above.
