need advice on divorce situation
ravi
(Querist) 12 November 2017
This query is : Resolved
My husband and his wife were are married from 6 yrs. They have one daughter of 3 yrs. Their marriage was normal with no domestic abuse situation or dowry issus etc. But husband was bisexual/gay and he came out to wife 6 months back and requested fr seperation. Husband have had hookups with guys in last 6 years of marriage and he has told his wife about same. He didnt intend to abandon the wife and had plan aroundsetting up her job home etc and then seperating thru divorce. Wife behavior was cooperative in last 4-5 months though she was obviously angry. She doesnt want to leave him but guy cannot stay married.They have moved back from USA to india recently.but wife moved to her parents home nd after moving there her behavior is not cooperative. She still request her husband to stay married, but paralelly is scaring him with repurcusssions if he doesnt stay together. She has gone to women commision with her complaint and is asking him to visit them too. What should guy do in this situation..he doesnt want to be rude to her wife and he wants best growing up environment for his daughter . please suggest
Guest
(Expert) 12 November 2017
Mr. Ravi,
Your description, "MY HUSBAND and HIS WIFE were are married from 6 yrs." reveals as if you have a husband, who in turn also have a wife (not you). That situation is quite uncommon, rather is quite impossible.
Anyway, in Divorce, DV and Dowry case, rudeness cannot be expected to be shunned by any party. Further, you seem to be taking side of both the boy and girl, which is rare only.
Better discuss your own problem, if you really have any. Since both the husband and his wife, who are USA return can probably express their problem much better than you. So, ask them to discuss their problem with some local lawyer or the respective family members for mediation to to bring normalcy in their mutual relations.
Vijay Raj Mahajan
(Expert) 12 November 2017
Marriage in normal course is between two persons of opposite sex however some people in world have bisexual mentality as in the present case.
Husband seems to be more inclined towards male partnership for his sexual urge which is by no means acceptable to the wife.
The lack of normal sexual relationship between husband and wife in marriage definitely amounts to breaking of the marriage.
In this case too marriage is broken down but wife seems to keep it intact hence all efforts are being applied by her.
I fail to understand how women commission can help in this process which itself has members who are in process of breaking marriages by advising wives to file all sort of false criminal cases against husbands.
The best solution in such case is either consult marriage counselor or divorce advocates.
I see no other solution in this case but divorce by mutual consent after settlement of issues of child custody, permanent alimony for wife, maintenance for minor child and other relevant issues.
Kiran Kumar
(Expert) 13 November 2017
though you have made jumble of facts...the sense conveys the husband is homosexual...it could definitely be a shocker to a wife...the best solution for both is to sit together and come to a conclusion with mutual consent...help of family or some marriage counselor may be taken for amicable solution..
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 13 November 2017
If husband do not want to continue with the relation, it would be difficult to pull on the relation.
Try to have amicable settlement, try for mutual consent divorce.
