how can i save myself?
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Anonymous
(Querist) 27 January 2010
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mera naam anjali hai(pet name) maine 28 feb 2008 ko ajeet gupta se shadi ki arya samaj mandir mein, shadi se pahle hum 1saal se friend the. shadi se pahle usne mujhse jo bhi bataya sab jhoot tha.. maine usse shadi apni family ko bina bataye ki thi. shadi ke baad usi din mandir se seedha main apne ghar aa gayi. aur one month tak hum nahi mile.. uske baad jab main usse mili tab mujhe uske baare mein har din ek nayi baat pata chalti thi.. main dari hui hoon. mujhse galti ho gayi thi usse shadi karke.. maine adjust karne ka socha kyonki shadi ho chuki thi.. hum shadi ke baad ek din bhi sath nahi rahe. main use apni family ke layak banana chahti thi.
isliye apni poori salary aur apna naam bhi use diya , wo kuch bhi nahi kamata tha.. usne kaha ki wo gadi ka kaam start karna chahta hai isliye use gadi purchase karni hai. maine socha shayad ye kuch kaam kar paye to achcha hi hai.. isliye maine khud 150000rs use dekar apne account se use indica dilwayi..
usne mujhse kaha ki wo kisht bharta rahega.. isliye maine uski help ki. 6 month tak usne mujhe koi paisa nahi diya, mujhse hi leta rahta tha.. 8 month baad jab mujhe bank ka letter aaya to pata chala ki usne kisht nahi bhari hai.. maine usse poocha to usne aur uski family ne mujhse ladayi ki.. main tension mein thi... job nahi kar payi main bcz meri tabiyat kharab hone lagi thi... main dipression mein thi.. uske baad usne apna mobile no band kar diya..aur jahan rahte the wahan se ghar bhi chhod diya.. main usse koi contact nahi kar sakti thi.. main din bhar use dhoondne ke liye bahar rahti thi
usmi mother ka phone aata tha std se , humesha rokar mujhse paise mangti thi.. par mere paas kuch bach hi nahi tha, mere no mangne par wo ph cut kar deti thi
next 1 year tak main roti rahi , meri family mera treatment karwati rahi par maine apne ghar mein kisi ko ye baat nahi batayi..ab ek saal ke baad uska ph aaya hai wo bol rha hai ki jabardasti mujhe le jayega, use ab bhi paise chahiye..mere paas uske no ke alawa aur kuch nahi hai.. main apni family ko aur dukh nahi dena chahti , main unhe batakar dukhi nahi kar sakti..
main bahot pareshan hoon.. plz help me.. kya meri fmily ko bina bataye kuch ho sakta hai.. plz help me.. mujhse bahot badi galti ho gayi us par believe karke.. plz help me.. kai baar suicide karne ka dil karta hai par apni family ki badnami ki vajah se nahi kar sakti..
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 27 January 2010
Yu have not told whether any certificate was issued by Arya samaj or not and whether your so-called husband has such copy of certificate or not.
As on the day the marriage was not conjugated means physical relations being husband and wife have not established till to date so your marriage is not a marriage in the eyes of law and you can get a decree from family court seeking your marriage as nullity and your family is not required to be involved in this process.
You can make summons over your husband at the last known address through publication in the news paper as per direction of the family court.
Arvind Singh Chauhan
(Expert) 27 January 2010
Raj Sir has suggested the right way. But you should not hide the story from your family members, it will be help full to get over from your depression. I hope surely they would help you.
Sachin Bhatia
(Expert) 27 January 2010
Don't hide anything from your family members, tell them that you have commit a mistake and file a case for divorce.
samyak Satish
(Expert) 28 January 2010
Pl. contact local women's rights activist along with senior and wise person in your family. You can also contct Social Branch Officer of POlice Department.
Guest
(Expert) 30 January 2010
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