Divorce from not co-opeating wife
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Anonymous
(Querist) 12 January 2011
This query is : Resolved
i am married and we have a lotof problems and my wife is neither ready to live with me nor ready fr divorce. I tried my maximum best.
Case is pending against me 506a
So i am planning to apply for divorce. I strongly believe she will file Dowry case what ever is there.
She is telling ppl who every talks to her that i am bad and will not give divorce and not ready to solve the problem..she is using delaying tactics.I am getting irritated and not able to tolerate.
We have problem since beginning of our marriage.
When we lived in Chennai , we had a fight and her brother came to our house and we had a fight and i came out of the house.
She got job and left for Bangalore without informing me anything and later i came to know.
from then her behavior got changed entirely and she is staying at bangalore. After that point she is not ready to come and stay with me. Even 1 year we didn't talk to each other. we have a son.
I need to make a several calls and send a mail to her if i want to talk her.
She was not ready to talk to me. The reason she said was i am bad.
So i tried with help of frds and relatives 3 times to solve my problem..some how i compromised with her not she..i started visiting her and my son. again fight. she didn't allow me to inside her house.
Again as usual i kept quit for some time and started talking to her with the help of others. she was not ready for anything(divorce or living)
Mean time i changed my job and wen to Bangalore. But she did allow me to stay with her. i was staying alone. after some time i approached her through relatives for divorce. But she is not ready. Pple forced me to go and stay with her.
Again fight. She complaint woman police station.I took my mother and asked her to stay with us. Again fight....she brought women police and asked us to vacate the house. We said we can not until unless she takes a decision. so she went to police station and filed 506a against us.
and we vacated the house and staying alone for the last 5 months.
Then some ppl talked to her. as usual she is blaming me and not ready to take any decision.
She is working. Now please advice me what should i do .
As far as i know she is not ready to take any decision. i am getting irritated also emotionally i am down and suffering from loneliness,stress ,depression etc.. and not able to concentrate on my work...loosing my hope and mental balance.
I hope u can understand my situation.
Please advice me what should i do ?
She will not leave me to live happily. Since beginning i am telling her that is she doesn't like me, give divorce.she is not ready to listen.
I am afraid of police an court. I might loose my job if i apply for divorce(she will file all cases against me).
Please give me a practical solution.
Amit Minocha
(Expert) 15 January 2011
you have to be bold and strong from inside first. Unless you are ready to face your problems boldly no one would be able to get you what you want.
