divorce or live with him
deepa
(Querist) 25 March 2010
This query is : Resolved
sir,
i am married to a person who does not want a family. we are married from 4 yrs. he is a drunkard and friendoholic. my parents are from middle class family they sold our house for the sake of my marriage. at the time of marriage my in laws said my husband was earning 15 thousand rupees. But after marriage i came to know that he has no earning and has extra qualifications like friends and alcohol etc. during marriage my parents gave 150 grams of gold a new tvs star city bike suit rs 50000 in cash and grand marriage. from the beggining he was torturing me mentally. he used to drink come late in the night and hold my feet and ask for sorry. next day do the same thing i was fed up and started shouting on him to change himself but in vain his mother and sister always support him. meanwhile we had a kid now she is 1 and half yr old girl. all these days i suffered the pain alone and torture meted out to me. Evan after the child is born he has not changed. when i ask his so called relatives every body says he was brought up very childishly he will change or u just adjust. Sir my mother in law is working and
she is only taking care of us that is the problem she wants all of us in her grip. she wont allow her children to earn or develop. recently i came to know of an issue. my husband used to speak to a girl who was his class mate long back, they speak to each other send messages and then delete them so i wont come to know. sir my husband wont sit and talk to me as wife even for 5 minutes how can he do this to me. he has sent i love u message to her recently. when i told my parents they came to solve it mutually, but he denies doing any thing and my in laws also support him. i have asked all his relatives about this but in vain they say again adjust come back and stay together. even if he wont talk just adjust. sir i am fed up because i am staying in my parents house. my brother be graduate has been selected for job in a company and will join from april 1 2010. i do not want to make him also tense while entering into the new world of career. also i cannot adjust with him like that only. either he has to change or make a separate house so that he gets a responsible sense. i am con fused sir. I want to know whether what kind of help will i get from my husband in case i divorce him or is there any other way i can deal with it. like domestic violence act etc. what is the procedure and what possibility of together ness sir because even if he does not like to live with me i am an indian girl who can love a person only once in alifetime and that too only her husband. what is ur good advice sir i am too stressed out with this problem and feel very tired because i still feed my daughter. please give me a correct direction sir.and also one important thing is all the property is in my mother in laws name only a shopping complex with 8 shops is in my father in laws name. my mother in law is the sole head of the family and my husband has a sister and one brother. kindly advice
adv. rajeev ( rajoo )
(Expert) 25 March 2010
Deppa,
Dont take much strain in this matter. Be kool first then think.
Guest
(Expert) 26 March 2010
Have a one-to-one frank talk with your husband. Take the help from your in-laws and ask them to counsel your husband to mend his ways. You have to think about your daughter's future, too.
deepa
(Querist) 27 March 2010
i want a legel avdice please tell me if i can be benifitted in any way after divorce or domestic violence act or any other method because he does not sit for talk with any body neither with me nor with our relatives he can only be mended by law please help!!!!!
