Judicial separation or divorce or anything else

Querist : Anonymous (Querist) 22 November 2011 This query is : Resolved
Hello expert advocates,
Iam a father. Mother(my wife) comes from joint family background.Son is adult and brainwashed to marry girl who is very close relative of mother. Father's consent not considered
important.Hence no consensus.Ofcourse son can marry whoever he wants & out of sapinda. But father completely ignored.Not a single other prospective bride was considered or brought in to discuss with the father. Father's views or opinion not asked for at all on this important subject. So head of the family becomes just for name sake for the son and his mother .So what should a father do under such circumstances???
My very good regards to the expert lawyers. Please advise.

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Devajyoti Barman (Expert) 23 November 2011
Though you have enough reason to get hurt but think twice as to for this reason alone you at such a late stage of your married life would go for judicial separation or divorce.
I would rather advice you to stay separately for sometime so they could understand your importance in their life.

Rajeev Kumar (Expert) 23 November 2011
Somehow agree with Barman

Shonee Kapoor (Expert) 23 November 2011
No cause for seperation made out.

Regards,

Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com

prabhakar singh (Expert) 24 November 2011
You are feeling hurt because you feel you should be obeyed as head of the family.

But i tell you it is not a legal matter.

My own experience that as time passes

mothers tend to care more their sons than

their husbands and this is not simply a

natural phenomena.I see few more reasons

behind it.Ladies commonly in India ,in my

observation have greater life age cycle

than males and then most of their

population is dependent on husband which

they carry in their mind that how to lead

widowhood life?It is this that prompts them

to bring a daughter in law of their own

choice so that co-ordination as per future

needs may be pre-prepared.

So my advise is that do not feel "throwed"

Rather restart with a feeling that you have

attained the age of "VANPRASHTHA"AND FEEL

LIBERATED FROM LIABILITIES. FROM LIABILITIES

THAT HAS COME TO YOU FROM THE MARRIAGE

INSTITUTION OF SOCIAL LIFE.

TO FEEL SO YOU DO NOT NEED ANY PHYSICAL

SEPARATION.

YOU JUST NEED TO CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK.

DO NOT THINK YOU DID SO MUCH FOR YOUR FAMILY

HENCE YOU SHOULD BE OBEYED.

JUST THINK IT WAS YOUR DUTY AND THAT YOU

PERFORMED IT NICELY.HENCE THE MATTER IS

OVER ON YOUR PART.WHY TO LOOK FOR ANY KIND

OF RETURN AND TO FEEL SORRY FOR THAT.

FINISH THE FEELS WITHOUT ANY FEELING OR

COMPROMISE AND YOUR REST OF LIFE FOR SURE

WOULD BE GREATLY PEACEFUL IS MY PROMISE.

Raj Kumar Makkad (Expert) 24 November 2011
In addition to lovely advice of prabhakar singh, can I raise a simile question from you? Isn't it your failure of life to make intact your place in your family? You should review yourself. Whether you by your own act and conduct have made your family to completely ignore you in such important occasion?

Despite of your frustration, you again meet your blood, bless young couple and try to reconcile and make them happy so that old bitterness may be forgotton and your wife and son may realize their unpardonable mistake and thus whole family may again remain united and lead a happy family life.

I am associated with various social organizations and see the condition of old persons in old houses wherein they keep on repenting their sins. So do not invite that condition and be a in-separable part of your family giving place for the modern views and independent thinking of our won children. Jmane ke sath chlo-jmana sath chlega.

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