Mental agony and fear of defamation
gj2015
(Querist) 03 June 2015
This query is : Resolved
I have been married for 21 years to a man who has not let any day pass by without causing me, my children and my parents mental agony so painful which I cannot write in words.
I have been in this marriage just for the sake of my children and when I tried to break away from him he took the extreme step of jumping from our fourth floor apartment and broke his legs. The result of this action was, I was forced to leave my job and throughout my family and friend circle it was made out that I have forced him to take such a extreme step. This was in year 2010. I have two children whom he has disowned and has always tried to hurt them with use of harsh words.
I am working and supporting myself and my children. He lives in the same house which is on my name.
I want to ask how can I protect myself and my children from getting blamed for his actions in the future. In case, he tries to harm himself again I want something in written which states that I and my children should not be held responsible for the same.
I request you experts to kindly suggest me whether there exists any such legal provision which I can use so as to protect us from this man.
Waiting to hear from you.
Guest
(Expert) 03 June 2015
Protection lies in mutual understanding and trust, not by legal recourse. Legal recourse can only tend to bring utter sorrows for the family as a whole.
gj2015
(Querist) 03 June 2015
Dear Expert,
Thank you for your reply on my email. However, I have given 21 years of my life to try and gain his trust. Even though we have no relationship as a man & wife I do all my duties as a wife for him. But he still slanders me and my children to no avail.
So as to protect my family I have been avoiding any legal action rather due to my dependent situation I was not able to take that course of action.
But now as my children are growing up I feel the need to be protected against his impulsive behavior tactics to pressurize me and my children. That is the reason I am looking for some kind of protection so that the future of me and my children is secure.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 03 June 2015
Once the marital cord is broken, it is very difficult to tie it together.Now as UR children are growing up it is too late to go for any legal solution,which may affect the children's future.If he not in a position to reconcile,better forget him and U have a responsibility till UR children settle down.
ADV-JEEVAN PATIL, MUMBAI
(Expert) 04 June 2015
1)Better make police complaint for hi habitual attempt cause harm him n blame yourself. 2) file dv application
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 04 June 2015
Presently law can not guarantee against any of his steps. Avoiding and having no relation with him is one way. You can file DV case against him.
Biswanath Roy
(Expert) 13 June 2015
'Long ago I noticed a caption of advertisement of HOYEL'S PAINT which was 'DON'T SPOIL IT HOYEL IT'. In your case as you have already spent 21 years of your conjugal life ( might be with numerous harassments as alleged ) and considering the future of your two children, I advice you to follow the said slogan of Hoyle's Paints. Your husband as I apprehend is suffering from Psychosis associated with fabricated fearfullness, therefore, it will be your prime duty to arrange necessary psychological treatment of your husband instead of taking legal action.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 21 June 2015
Breaking away from him may appear to be a good solution but that should have been done long ago and not now. You had been enduring the pain so long, now you should have been hardened due to continuous assaults so manage to control the situation as you had been doing so far so long it is controllable, if it is going beyond,just dont bother about any consequences, go ahead with your proposal whether it is good or bad. You should understand one thing that nobody can stop and event from happening, so if your helpless be a silent spectator to the event happening before you.
