Your guidacne requested
Rajesh
(Querist) 01 February 2014
This query is : Resolved
Sir, my wife is with her mother since last 17 months. There was /is no contact at all they only suggested (father and mother) they are going to separate but no initiative from their side and no such written doucemnts. Even girl is so childish. But she was good with me and mother is so greed (really i feel ego is the problem). Sir can i move a notice and ask my wife to come and stay with me. I approached an advocate and she had a talk with her mother. Girl's mother informed she want to talk to their relations (they also advocates) and inform within two days. What is the approtiate step for me now can you gude me sir - i pray to guide me i intention is to move a notice to girl and stay with me (surely mother and father will not send her as she is more dependednt on fatehr and mother). If i move a notice whether is is valid. Can you guide me - pray for your guidance. Truely rajesh - Trichur Kerala
M.Sheik Mohammed Ali
(Expert) 01 February 2014
where are you from ?
you first send legal notice to your wife for reunion, and after she not come then you file RCR case against her.
you should do immediately, it will safe for you.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 02 February 2014
Agreed with expert Mr.Sheik. Have a separate talk with your wife. Rope in common friends/relatives to solve the issue. Initially the parents influence will be there on the girl. Once she starts living and gets confidence, she will slowly give away that feeling.
If the efforts made by your friends/relatives do not yield positive result, you send a legal notice in the name of your wife (not in the name of your parents-in-law). If there is no response in reasonable period, you have to file suit for RCR (Restitution of Conjugal Rights). This will protect you from implicating false cases like dowry harassment etc., by girl's side.
Do not be panicky. Exercise calm and deal patiently. For some time, you have to maintain liaison with your parents-in-law till your wife comes back and till you develop confidence in her.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 02 February 2014
agree with the advise of expert malipeddi jaggarao ji. Well advised.
Biswanath Roy
(Expert) 02 February 2014
I know a case long ago which was same similar and identical. The husband was hailing from a Jurists' family and the wife was hailing from a well known and eminent Solicitor of Calcutta High Court. Brother of the wife was a Barrister. Wife was the only daughter of her father and mother and was much beloved to them. After marriage she only lived with her husband for a month only and thereafter started staying with her father and mother and was avoided to return to her husband on different pleas and pretext which led the matter to an extreme point, of course, it was due to some ego of the mother of the girl. However, upon my advice husband gave a long rope to wife and by the help of some relatives and common friends the matter was amicably settled by a formula that husband would purchase a flat nearby to his in laws house so that wife can often visit her father and mother and father and mother can see their daughter as and when they like. So, my advice to you is to give a long rope to your wife and go on negotiating with your in laws through common friends and relatives so that their grievances if any, can be meet with. In this case you shall have to sacrifice your ego and needs patience.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 03 February 2014
A practical advise from expert Biswanath Roy ji from experience of life. Thanks.
Rajesh
(Querist) 03 February 2014
Sir, iam ready to compromise any way but whenever i am calling father (he is a drunkard) attend the call and informing that my wife already informed that we are not continuing but no initiates from their side. It is clear from their side that i want to live in middle of hell and sea. In the name GOD sir i have not made any demdnds like as dowry or any such nonsense now also i have no such intention. Even her relations are financial well and they presented some golden ornaments her mother only managng such things as i no not take inerest on such things (may be in locker of Vijaya Bank - Bangalore). Their nature is that unncesarily they blame my parents and advising girl do not go with Rajesh (me). then why they married sir. How cruel people are sir. If that girl have capacity to think self and live self okay. Unforturnately she is mentally not in normal style (but in absense of mother she was so co-operative) when mother advise something he never care anybody a special character. If they do not want me okay sir it is their wish. But why they harass like this for 2 years without any proper information. How can i proceed. Any how i approached a lady advocate asked to send a notice for reunion.
Biswanath Roy
(Expert) 03 February 2014
I left LCI forever so cotact me through my E-mai-bnroy.advocate@gmail.com
