guidance required on matrimonial dispute, threats,
anil Kumar
(Querist) 23 April 2026
This query is : Resolved
Dear Sir/Madam,
I seek your guidance on a sensitive matrimonial/legal issue. I will briefly explain the facts in a structured manner.
I am a 40-year-old muslim already married having children, and living with my first wife and family. Some years i mean 5 years ago, I came into contact with a woman (widow, around my age) who is a law graduate and recently cleared AIBE.
Due to emotional pressure and repeated suicidal threats from her side, I got involved in a relationship and a form of marriage (Nikah) was performed privately without proper involvement of elders from both sides. This was not a publicly acknowledged or socially established marriage.
After some time, I realised I am not in a position to continue this relationship, as I cannot manage two families and I want to stabilise my existing family life. Since then, I have been trying to distance myself and resolve the matter peacefully.
However, from her side, the following issues have arisen:
1. She is repeatedly pressuring me to live with her as husband and wife, stay at her house, and have a physical relationship and children.
2. She has repeatedly threatened suicide if I do not comply with her demands.
3. On one occasion, she prevented me from leaving her house by locking the doors and hiding the keys.
4. She is threatening to disclose the matter to my first wife, family members, and others to create pressure.
5. She and her associates (including a senior advocate known to her) have contacted my sister and informed about this situation.
6. Her brother (currently abroad) has also contacted me and indicated that the family may intervene strongly.
7. There are threats of legal action, including filing cases under cruelty provisions and also possibly initiating RCR proceedings.
I have already informed her brother about her suicidal threats, as I was concerned for her safety.
Currently:
- No police complaint or FIR has been filed.
- No formal legal notice has yet been received from her side.
My advocate has suggested options such as:
- Filing RCR from my side (to secure jurisdiction and legal position),
- Sending a legal notice,
- Or waiting and watching while exploring settlement.
However, I am personally not willing to continue the relationship and I am concerned that filing RCR may contradict my actual intention.
My main concerns are:
1. Whether filing RCR is advisable in my situation when I do not wish to continue the relationship.
2. Whether sending a legal notice (without RCR) would be a safer defensive step.
3. Risk of potential criminal complaints (such as cruelty) from her side and how to protect myself.
4. Jurisdiction issues if she files a case in another city (e.g., Ahmadabad )
5. Best strategy to resolve the matter safely without escalation, considering my family situation and professional reputation.
I request your guidance on the safest and most appropriate legal strategy in this scenario.
Thanking you.
Regards,
Shaim qadar
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 23 April 2026
1. The suggestion to file RCR is not at ll advisable, as you rightly observed that it is in contradiction to your decision, you may ignore that suggestion, instead, you may plan to pronounce talaq (not instant or triple talaq), you can decide about pronouncing talak Ahsan or talak e hasan which is legally recognised form of divorce as per Muslim personal law.
2. By sending legal notice you may be able to protect your future interests about the possible future outbursts that she may indulge to avenge you with 498a and DV cases. In the legal notice you clearly mention about suicidal attitude and other acts of cruelty which is no more tolerable for you to continue the married life with her.
3. If she still goes ahead with criminal complaint, you may obtain AB and then challenge her false cases as per law and merits on yor side.
4. You cannot do anything about the jurisdictional issues, you may have to cope up with them too accordingly.
5. You inform your first wife about this second marriage and with her help as well as with the support of your other family members, you may decide toi pronounce talak and then await her reactions
Dr. J C Vashista
(Expert) 25 April 2026
Inform families of both families and pronounce talaq as per personal (Muslim) law applicable in your case, as opined and advised by learned senior expert Mr. T Kalaiselvan ji, which I agree and appreciate his acumen.
No need to get blackmailed by second wife.
Dr. J C Vashista
(Expert) 25 April 2026
@Anil Kumar,
Whether it is your personal problem or an academic moot court topic ???
P. Venu
(Expert) 25 April 2026
" ................ I came into contact with a woman .................." Is this lady a Muslim?
anil Kumar
(Querist) 26 April 2026
Muslim woman @p. Venu sir
Dr. J C Vashista
(Expert) 27 April 2026
What is your concern/ problem /locus standi qua the facts ?
