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SIFF member(inlaws) ruined my life,so don't trust them.

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am Prasanjeet, this is my real name. Iam from chandigarh ( mohali) a graduate from PU, i got married in 2009. It was an arranged marriage, we all were very happy and thought that our inlaws are noble people. My husband works at airport , (ground desk ) and my mother in law is an active member of SIFF, she has strong contacts with political people, and also in judiciary, she is a senior member from panchkula, won't take her name, but her son't names are ekjot & gurjot. I got married in june 2009 and was thrown out in the month of august. My MIL & husband used to ill treat & abuse me alot, moreover my MIL used to take my whole salary. Then one fine day she ordered that no need to go out for job, and i had to leave my job. She said that from now you will do the whole household works at home, and she asked her servants to leave. They have 2 cars, a big kothi ( bungalow) in panchkula, my father in law is working, MIL is working, husband is working but still they had issues to pay 800 bugs to servant, and they wanted me to work. I was just 23 and didn't knew much, geela aata and sukha aata saath mei rakh diya, on this my mother in law abused me ma behan ki gaaliya, and started shouting that how unfortunate they are to get an ugly, fat, stupid daughter in law, on this my husband came and slapped me hard in front of everyone saying tu ne meri maa ko rula diya. I used to keep my mouth shut and used to cry, i never dared to argue because my MIL was a terror. My devar, ( brother in law) was nice and i used to treat him like my brother. One fine day in the 1st week of august my MIL came and said they want 8 lakhs from my dad, because they want to send their younger so to canada. I said my father won't be able to give because we are not that rich, and i have two youngers sisters and a brother who are studying, so how will my dad give so much. On this she started shouting and cursing that "tujhe kya hum iss ghar mei badaam ka doodh pilaane laaye hai" and she said she will keep in servants quarter if we don't pay them. That night i decided that its enough now and i decided to speak to my husband for a seperate house. When i spoke to my husband, he pulled me by my hair to his mom and started slapping me hard, and they were laughing ki Badi aayi alag ghar mei jaane wali, jayegi tu akeli iss ghar se. My husband said if you don't pay the money or don't listen to my moms orders i will give you divorce. I was so shocked and afraid to listen all this, then after 5 days he said common prasan you should meet your parents, he treated me nicely then came and left me at my parents house mohali. A week passed no call no message, 2nd week passed but my inlaws didn't call me back. My parents got tensed and asked me the whole matter, i told them everything. Then we all went to my matrimonial house, but my inlaws didn't open there door, we kep ringing the bell, it was so humiliating for my beeji to sit outside the house that way. Then next day i went to airport to meet my husband, but he fled and his friends said he is not in town altough i knew they were lying. All this continued for 8-10 months, i kept waiting for them but all in vain. meanwhile i didn't file a single case because i truely loved my husband and didn't wanted to insult him i had a hope that they might call me back, and i was afraid that if i file a case my husband might leave me forever in anger. But one fine day i recieved a notice of divorce, later during case i came to know that they had inflicted alligations on me that i was not a virgin, i had wrong intensions regarding my Devar, iam characterless, i even had affair with my driver and had s*x with him. Knowing such things my dad got a heart attact , but thankfully nothing happened. But he was annoyed like hell, and he deciced to file for divorce aswell. meanwhile we got calls from STD numbers that if we dare to file a 498 , they will ruin our lifes, and will not let my sisters marry, we knew that they are higly infuential and rich. Moreover my MIL and FIL have made such good impression at SIFF, that they are so noble and they are against the sufferings and torture of inlaws given by a daughter in law. We were helpless , my dad is not that rich, so we couldn't fight legal cases and this humiliation and dad's bad health broke me completely, i couldn't fight a legal battle for myself, i just want peace and respect. Could hear nasty and cheap blames, and alligations infront of my family, and finally after a year on 25th august we got divorced, because my husband couldn't fight the case more as he wanted to remarry. ( his lawyer told us) My inlaws  beacuse they wanted to wind up things quickly and agreed to return the amount and they had to give us 3.5 lakhs which my dad had given them as jewellery. Thats it and divorce was granted. Now he is married again and iam living with my parents, dying everyday. I loved him so much and he made me fool, This SIFF people pretend alot and portray as if unke jaisi sufferings kisi aur ki hai hi nai, but the real picture is dark .

So girls beware of such people , and don't be emotional fool like me who saved her husband and inlaws din't file a single case and got humiliated in their hands. Now i have realised one thing filing 498 is good and justified.  We should not suffer like this being emotional fools. And SIFF people also tortures alot, atleast my experience is that. Its all drama....the reality is my life has ruined, i won't be able to trust anyone and i had loved my husband so much that i have no love left within. He did so bad with me but still my heart cries for him.
 


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system eng

this is one side of the story only.


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For justice and dignity

very sorry to know abt u.

 

u shd not have mentioned your brother inlaws names here in a public forum.u will be easily recognized.

 

at the time of divorce,did u have any lawyer to represent u so that u cud get a suitable alimony and all ur streedhan?

as u said they all got rid of u very easily after throwing a few bucks on ur face..

 

my story too has been the same,where my husband also slapped me daily,pulled my hair,called me dirty names that are found in p*rn sites,my mum-in-law took away all my jewels immediately after marriage and never let me keep them,etc.

when my case was filed within 4 months only i was forced to settle it by the mediator who was on their side.on 1st day of mediation she was nice but on 2nd day,her attitude was very -ve and changed towards my family.

she kept forcing me to sign a settlement according to their interests.even my parents and my lawyer were too weak to support me ..and this mediator too is very powerful who became their family member also...while i am not divorced yet

 

yes u right.girls shud never tolerate so much injustice..and shud take steps to punish such people...i have never been in favour of out of court settlements or mediations with such people who treat u like some animals and want to throw u away...why does our judiciary encourage "compromises" with such people,when they shud be treated with strictness?there was some ruling also by SC or HC llong back,wherein it stated that cases of cruelty to wife cannot be settled out of court...still such compromises are encouraged by the same judicairy..

 

as a result,such people never learn lessons and misuse their money power by abusing new people again.in my case i came to know from my husband's relative that my mum-in-law on whom i had filed a case had also got her sister divorced long back by playing politics b/w her and her hubby.

 

not only that she also played politics in her own maayka coz of which all her relatives boycotted another family member for 14 yrs,coz which she was forced to live alone.

 

and that she also separated her husband from his widowed mum and real sisters right after her own marriage.and when her mum-in-law died,she did not let my hubby visit her house on cremation day!of course she also did not visit the house!

u see this mum inlaw was never taught a lesson by any1...so she continued her politics and interfering nature in everyone's household...and now since my "honourable" mediator let her go scot free,she again will ruin sum1 else's household as no one till now has dealt with her with an iron hand!

her wickedness never got exposed only because of so called "compromises"(read mediations) with people like her who are freed so easily by our pathetically slow judicial system after they throw a few bucks on ur face.

like u i also realised importance of having self esteem and self respect much later,esp. when i was forced by so many people to agree for a divorce and also this biased settlement...

 

only now i realise i shud have been bolder..like u,i also did not file any case initially as i wanted to return to my husband who's abroad...

 

but i also realise that even if i had returned to him forcefully,i wud have suffered abuses again..so better to part ways

 

anyways,u shud come out of ur depression,engage in ur fav. hobbies,daily do a lots of prayers because they give u a lot of mental peace.

 

go out wid friends...if possible meet a counsellor or pschologist so that she can help u take hold of ur life again..and never ever suffer abuses from any1..

 

wen ur dad had a heart attack,u shd have realised that ur hubby is not the right person...for he was becoming responsible for ur dad's life...

 

he's a typical mama's boy who are dangerous to the wife in the long run!

it's better to marry in a simpler spiritual family rather than the one with political contacts,as they will always treat u like a doormat.i dont understand why u got married in a family with political contacts and that too where relations are with SIFF.

remember that if u dont respect urself,no one else will...become bold..it doesnt mean u become bold and misbehave with others.it only means that u shd not let any1 walk over u..i also learn this fact a very hard way...

 

like u i have also become bitter in my life...but i am also dealing somehow,hoping to come out of these situations one day


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Originally posted by :Prasanjeet
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am Prasanjeet, this is my real name. Iam from chandigarh ( mohali) a graduate from PU, i got married in 2009. It was an arranged marriage, we all were very happy and thought that our inlaws are noble people. My husband works at airport , (ground desk ) and my mother in law is an active member of SIFF, she has strong contacts with political people, and also in judiciary, she is a senior member from panchkula, won't take her name, but her son't names are ekjot & gurjot. I got married in june 2009 and was thrown out in the month of august. My MIL & husband used to ill treat & abuse me alot, moreover my MIL used to take my whole salary. Then one fine day she ordered that no need to go out for job, and i had to leave my job. She said that from now you will do the whole household works at home, and she asked her servants to leave. They have 2 cars, a big kothi ( bungalow) in panchkula, my father in law is working, MIL is working, husband is working but still they had issues to pay 800 bugs to servant, and they wanted me to work. I was just 23 and didn't knew much, geela aata and sukha aata saath mei rakh diya, on this my mother in law abused me ma behan ki gaaliya, and started shouting that how unfortunate they are to get an ugly, fat, stupid daughter in law, on this my husband came and slapped me hard in front of everyone saying tu ne meri maa ko rula diya. I used to keep my mouth shut and used to cry, i never dared to argue because my MIL was a terror. My devar, ( brother in law) was nice and i used to treat him like my brother. One fine day in the 1st week of august my MIL came and said they want 8 lakhs from my dad, because they want to send their younger so to canada. I said my father won't be able to give because we are not that rich, and i have two youngers sisters and a brother who are studying, so how will my dad give so much. On this she started shouting and cursing that "tujhe kya hum iss ghar mei badaam ka doodh pilaane laaye hai" and she said she will keep in servants quarter if we don't pay them. That night i decided that its enough now and i decided to speak to my husband for a seperate house. When i spoke to my husband, he pulled me by my hair to his mom and started slapping me hard, and they were laughing ki Badi aayi alag ghar mei jaane wali, jayegi tu akeli iss ghar se. My husband said if you don't pay the money or don't listen to my moms orders i will give you divorce. I was so shocked and afraid to listen all this, then after 5 days he said common prasan you should meet your parents, he treated me nicely then came and left me at my parents house mohali. A week passed no call no message, 2nd week passed but my inlaws didn't call me back. My parents got tensed and asked me the whole matter, i told them everything. Then we all went to my matrimonial house, but my inlaws didn't open there door, we kep ringing the bell, it was so humiliating for my beeji to sit outside the house that way. Then next day i went to airport to meet my husband, but he fled and his friends said he is not in town altough i knew they were lying. All this continued for 8-10 months, i kept waiting for them but all in vain. meanwhile i didn't file a single case because i truely loved my husband and didn't wanted to insult him i had a hope that they might call me back, and i was afraid that if i file a case my husband might leave me forever in anger. But one fine day i recieved a notice of divorce, later during case i came to know that they had inflicted alligations on me that i was not a virgin, i had wrong intensions regarding my Devar, iam characterless, i even had affair with my driver and had s*x with him. Knowing such things my dad got a heart attact , but thankfully nothing happened. But he was annoyed like hell, and he deciced to file for divorce aswell. meanwhile we got calls from STD numbers that if we dare to file a 498 , they will ruin our lifes, and will not let my sisters marry, we knew that they are higly infuential and rich. Moreover my MIL and FIL have made such good impression at SIFF, that they are so noble and they are against the sufferings and torture of inlaws given by a daughter in law. We were helpless , my dad is not that rich, so we couldn't fight legal cases and this humiliation and dad's bad health broke me completely, i couldn't fight a legal battle for myself, i just want peace and respect. Could hear nasty and cheap blames, and alligations infront of my family, and finally after a year on 25th august we got divorced, because my husband couldn't fight the case more as he wanted to remarry. ( his lawyer told us) My inlaws  beacuse they wanted to wind up things quickly and agreed to return the amount and they had to give us 3.5 lakhs which my dad had given them as jewellery. Thats it and divorce was granted. Now he is married again and iam living with my parents, dying everyday. I loved him so much and he made me fool, This SIFF people pretend alot and portray as if unke jaisi sufferings kisi aur ki hai hi nai, but the real picture is dark .

So girls beware of such people , and don't be emotional fool like me who saved her husband and inlaws din't file a single case and got humiliated in their hands. Now i have realised one thing filing 498 is good and justified.  We should not suffer like this being emotional fools. And SIFF people also tortures alot, atleast my experience is that. Its all drama....the reality is my life has ruined, i won't be able to trust anyone and i had loved my husband so much that i have no love left within. He did so bad with me but still my heart cries for him.
 
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so sad ;( my heart goes out to you. SIFF is known to be partial to male members


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@ Roshini ji & zimmer zapper. Thankyou verymuch

Women faces alot , and there sufferings doesn't end.  Now iam so afraid that i don't want to marry again. Iam just 26 but i have decided i will never ever marry again. It better to live alone, and take care of my own parents, iam working and taking care of my parents. Iam a spiritual person and i have decided to join NGOs to help poor and needy people & animals.  Marriage is not safe anymore and specially these SIFF fake people. @ roshini ji- what you said is very true , mother in laws should get lessons, only then they understand. They create drama and join SIFF, but the real picture is they themselves are so dominating , greedy and shrude that they deserve such punnishments. 498 & DV cases are very good and justified for such people who think wives are helpless hoars, and once they sleep with you , you can force them to live as slaves otherwise you will file divorce and will leave her. Husbands blackmail this way and make life hell.

@ Manjit kalra- iam not interested to explain you the story and give justifications, men ( husbands) like you make your wives life hell. Because you cannot trust and emphathise with anybody. I feel sad for your wife or the girl with whom you will get married.


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system eng

what can be her motive?

are boys so bad? 

leaving a girl without a genuine reson?


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@ Roshini mam- I have written the names of my husband & brother in law because whomsover knows them and reads this story atleast they will get to know the true story and facts, that how fake are SIFF members. Lot of chandigarh people know my story .


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@ Manjit- i don't know but i can see my mother in law wanted money from me, and she wanted to control my life aswell.  Mother in laws break homes, burn homes like this way.

Please tell me manjit sir, do you have any sister who is married ??? If yes then plz ask her and answer me.

Nowdays i don't know whats wrong , but the reality is mother in laws want to keep there sons in there laps, and want to control there lives and this over control and over dominating nature ruins everything. I remember even my daadi ji was too dominating and cunning but atleast my father supported and gave love & respect to my mom, and thats the reason they are still together touchwood. But nowdays such chemistry has vanished.

Inlaws plans games and then they treat their daughter in laws that way, and if their daughter in law doesn't dance on there tunes, then the answer is divorce. Girls who fear from divorce they get and fall itno that trap rest start a legal baatle which is also suffering.


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Manjit sir your answer- Boyfriends leave there girlfriends the moment they ask for committment or marriage and husbands leave there wives the moment there wives utter a word from there mouth and speaks truth about there darling moms.

So its always better not to marry, its better to live alone with your friends & family rather then being hoars to husbands and servants to inlaws.

Manjit sir you are a man so you can never understand the pain & sufferings of a woman, and they have go through in there sasural. You all think that wives and woman exaggerate but the truth is different.


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Originally posted by :Prasanjeet
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Manjit sir your answer- Boyfriends leave there girlfriends the moment they ask for committment or marriage and husbands leave there wives the moment there wives utter a word from there mouth and speaks truth about there darling moms.

So its always better not to marry, its better to live alone with your friends & family rather then being hoars to husbands and servants to inlaws.

Manjit sir you are a man so you can never understand the pain & sufferings of a woman, and they have go through in there sasural. You all think that wives and woman exaggerate but the truth is different.
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i'm a male and i understand and believe you. no one understands what marriage is these days and get into it. i'm sure there are men who really love their female partners.


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