very sorry to know abt u.
u shd not have mentioned your brother inlaws names here in a public forum.u will be easily recognized.
at the time of divorce,did u have any lawyer to represent u so that u cud get a suitable alimony and all ur streedhan?
as u said they all got rid of u very easily after throwing a few bucks on ur face..
my story too has been the same,where my husband also slapped me daily,pulled my hair,called me dirty names that are found in p*rn sites,my mum-in-law took away all my jewels immediately after marriage and never let me keep them,etc.
when my case was filed within 4 months only i was forced to settle it by the mediator who was on their side.on 1st day of mediation she was nice but on 2nd day,her attitude was very -ve and changed towards my family.
she kept forcing me to sign a settlement according to their interests.even my parents and my lawyer were too weak to support me ..and this mediator too is very powerful who became their family member also...while i am not divorced yet
yes u right.girls shud never tolerate so much injustice..and shud take steps to punish such people...i have never been in favour of out of court settlements or mediations with such people who treat u like some animals and want to throw u away...why does our judiciary encourage "compromises" with such people,when they shud be treated with strictness?there was some ruling also by SC or HC llong back,wherein it stated that cases of cruelty to wife cannot be settled out of court...still such compromises are encouraged by the same judicairy..
as a result,such people never learn lessons and misuse their money power by abusing new people again.in my case i came to know from my husband's relative that my mum-in-law on whom i had filed a case had also got her sister divorced long back by playing politics b/w her and her hubby.
not only that she also played politics in her own maayka coz of which all her relatives boycotted another family member for 14 yrs,coz which she was forced to live alone.
and that she also separated her husband from his widowed mum and real sisters right after her own marriage.and when her mum-in-law died,she did not let my hubby visit her house on cremation day!of course she also did not visit the house!
u see this mum inlaw was never taught a lesson by any1...so she continued her politics and interfering nature in everyone's household...and now since my "honourable" mediator let her go scot free,she again will ruin sum1 else's household as no one till now has dealt with her with an iron hand!
her wickedness never got exposed only because of so called "compromises"(read mediations) with people like her who are freed so easily by our pathetically slow judicial system after they throw a few bucks on ur face.
like u i also realised importance of having self esteem and self respect much later,esp. when i was forced by so many people to agree for a divorce and also this biased settlement...
only now i realise i shud have been bolder..like u,i also did not file any case initially as i wanted to return to my husband who's abroad...
but i also realise that even if i had returned to him forcefully,i wud have suffered abuses again..so better to part ways
anyways,u shud come out of ur depression,engage in ur fav. hobbies,daily do a lots of prayers because they give u a lot of mental peace.
go out wid friends...if possible meet a counsellor or pschologist so that she can help u take hold of ur life again..and never ever suffer abuses from any1..
wen ur dad had a heart attack,u shd have realised that ur hubby is not the right person...for he was becoming responsible for ur dad's life...
he's a typical mama's boy who are dangerous to the wife in the long run!
it's better to marry in a simpler spiritual family rather than the one with political contacts,as they will always treat u like a doormat.i dont understand why u got married in a family with political contacts and that too where relations are with SIFF.
remember that if u dont respect urself,no one else will...become bold..it doesnt mean u become bold and misbehave with others.it only means that u shd not let any1 walk over u..i also learn this fact a very hard way...
like u i have also become bitter in my life...but i am also dealing somehow,hoping to come out of these situations one day