l have been married for past 14 years (2007), arranged. It was late age marriage and I was 46 years while she 42 years at the time of the marriage. The marriage was consummated at the repeated persuasion of bride's relatives,as her parents had expired much before her marriage. At the time of marriage l did not have good income source as I was working as a law clerk in High court, Kolkata under some lawyer. Even now my income status still not stable and we don't have any issue. I live with my mother along with my wife in family owned flat. Ever since our marriage my wife has been abusing me, my mother,my late father and my other family members, also she is involved in domestic violence since her marriage including assaulting me and my mother, shouting late night with abusive languages. Since marriage she along with her family members have been demanding share in property and bank balance. She has been in service , since long before her marriage and is still continuing with the same job. Any expert legal opinion on the above matter will be greatfully appreciated.
Have patience and be confident that her demands for rights in property may not be appropriate and legal as you are staying in your family property, without any regular income and she is having regular employment for since long. As an advocate's clerk, you are standing in a better position to face litigation while your wife may have to engage and advocate.
From the very beginning my mother was extremely distressed with my wife's behaviour towards her and me and was of the view to send her back. She even narrated all these incidents, three months after the marriage, to her family members responsible for the marriage, but they made fun of everything and cited our faults. Now she is most of the time in bed because of her old age ailments and I am the only one to look after her.
If you do not want to divorce your wife, you can go ahead with arbitration or mediation which are the methods of out-of-court settlement and you will not be pulled into legal proceedings. Under arbitration, you and your wife can mutually select an arbitrator who will be a non-biased third party who will talk things between you and the other party without any court proceedings. You can solve the issues in a friendly and peaceful manner by keeping views in front of the arbitrator and with his help come to common grounds.
If the issues do not get solved by this method, then you can move ahead with the divorce petition. You have mentioned that your wife does violence on you and your family but since there are no explicit laws to protect men from domestic violence, you can file divorce on the ground of physical cruelty by the wife under Section 13 of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955. The divorce petition can be filed at the family court of your jurisdiction.
You were able to tolerate all these fourteen years patiently, however if it is no more possible to tolerate with her anymore, you may ask her to either agree for mutual consent divorce or you can file a contested divorce case against her on the grounds of cruelty.
Your mothe may also think of filing a DV case against her for all the violent and cruel activities she had unleashed on her.
No doubt divorce at this age may not be advisable but how long you can suffer this torture, there is a limit for everything hence you may decide after consulting with your mother and other relatives on the steps to be taken in this regard.
I have been trying to convince her for a mutual consent divorce, long time, but she is rejecting this every time. In contested divorce I fear she might unleash more fierce DV against my mother and me as well till she is completely separated or moved out permanently from our house.