I am really touched by your sincere and frank thoughtful reply. Please don’t make this the last communication. Look I am being sincere. It may sound proud, but how else can you speak the truth but by speaking truth?
Sorry, I was very popular teacher of all students all my life from age 10 when I was in hostel. One friend told me recently “I beat you and after 15 minute come to you to help me understand maths, you don’t even remember that I had beaten you.” All my friends in RKM or IIT Chennai (I was IIT JEE 326 JEE ranker, but only 68% in class X) remember me as a teacher who never took notes. I have about 10 people working under me and all work so nicely, 4/5 companies work for me. No one has problem. All my family friends do not have problem because they understand what I can’t do.
But not to say, I am working to help myself and my son . Doctor has stopped medication now but will resume in summer vacation.
You have misunderstood me, I can entertain a crowd, unknown to me by singing unruly songs, talking crazy logics of life like “man is supposed to be more beautiful then women, and we have destroyed the earth by reversing the role, ref: swambar” I am a very very popular person. So is my son, our problem is FINE MOTOR SKILL, FORGETFUL ness - never ever memorized a single poetry in life, unorganized (My staff keeps my things organized and filed to run a great show). Entertaining people is never our weakness. Truthfulness and boldness is our strength. Often too bold and truthful for the world.
ADHD parents/friends/wives/husbands should understand that the child/person cannot do these and to expect them to do these puts a unnecessary pressure on their brain and will destroy their creativity and greatness and they should be complemented (tare Jamin pe), helped and never degraded. I say my childhood in Tare Jamin pe.
Medication therapy : yes we are indeed doing so. Thanks.
Sorry, I will not have any illicit relationship. It will be published in new paper, almost like marriage, Only it will not be called marriage because law does not permit it. And who ever the lady be if at all has to first understand what she is getting into, show that she can love my son, understand he is ADHD, can sing song and is lively. Trust and respect me and complement me and not try correcting us.
And I will give my wife enough time to change too, she will also be eligible to apply for this post..
I am opting this way because she is unable to understand the matter at all. I pity her but cannot suffer eternally.
“Ask urself: Was I happy after illicit s*x and s*x chase?”
Sorry, I never did this. I was always very loyal. I was the ideal boy, all my friends in school and college and professors of IITM knew about her how always I used to never stop talking about her. I was never like that. Well, boys are boys, when a beautiful girl passes by they look, as if women don’t.
“By your own admission, you are not very popular with IIT folks and have done bizzarre things in past.”
Slight difference: I am a problem creator. I ask all sort of strange questions that creates problems in society. In the beginning everything in Delhi looked so strange from Japan or Chennai point of view. Most found my questions revolting first, at second thought as unanswerable, third acceptable and finally changes IITD.
I am not at all unpopular, I was famous for asking too many questions, but with time I realized that the society is not worthy of my questions and stopped asking questions, now they complain that they miss my questions. For example I asked a basic question: Why should IITs exist? We are engineering college. 90% of our main product in last 50 years – the Btech did not become engineers, are we bothered? At 326 JEE I choose Civil eng and never regretted.
Happiness will be illusive to me : a warning well taken. You have talked about it. I have started taking structured changes to make me happy. I started asking what makes me happy?
a) I love children and I love teaching. My students love my lectures. They get hypnotized for all that I talked. Yesterday a foreign student was recording my voice. – so I plan to go and teach maths / physics to poor children in orphanage. I simply can’t live without children.
b) I love songs, might join some place where there is loud songs. I will look for chorus groups or even Hare Krishna group, even though I am agnostic.
I will seek out partner only when I am happy. At present, I will get monkeys looking for a professor status or money. When I am happy I will get what I deserve if at all I deserve. I will wait. And till that day if my wife changes, I will take her back too.
At present, I am suffering, so is my son. In hostel he is so happy. I am afraid what will happen when he come back for vacation. This will be my wife’s most important test. I plan to leave home after he goes back from vacation.
At the end, I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart. If you wish to know me more, please send me a PM , I will feel grateful to you. If you wish to help you can talk to my wife and help her understand me. My counsellor say your reply and also though your analysis was perfectly correct. Thanks. Thanks.